A question, I'm bloody confused about.?

Question

How is personality shaped?

Nature vs Nurture?

Who are you if who you are is determined from genes and experiences?

Can we just be who we want to, is there no "yourself" you are nothing but yourself aren't you, is it up to me about who I want to be, so I can be who I want, some sorts of people I'd like to be appeal to me, why do they appeal to me is that "myself" coming out or who I want to be and who I am the same and it's just a matter of developing them, who should I be? how do I know?

It seems like everyone just bouncing off one another, what about those people that are born g*y, murderers etc, thats not fair, seems as if everyone is just a fake kind of thing, and if you want to be someone where does that "want" come from?

How do I find "myself" and be "myself" what is it? Do I just pick a person? It just doesn't seem all that simple and I don't know whats going on.

Answer 1

Think of it this way - a baby is born with a clean slate of a brain.  What that baby is exposed to, begins to fill in the brain.  If the baby is loved, it learns what love feels like, sounds like, and thereby learns love.  If it's abused or neglected, it becomes a social cripple because that's what it was taught through its experiences.  How could it be any other way?  We can't be what we've never been exposed to.

As for finding yourself - typically time, experience, and experimentation will help you find your way through your own psyche.

Answer 2

After the first 3 sentences, I thought that this was an essay question for school. lol...

A personality is shaped by how the person grows, up and the people around them. It is all about how they were treated, and how the people around them acted while they were growing up.

Who you are is detrimined by your experinces. You can inherit, temper and other things from your parents, but I don't think that happens genetically, it's more about growing up with them, and following thier behaviors, because as a young child you want to grow up to be like your parents.

The types of people that appeal to you ae how you want to be. As you said, that is just you, everyone has different likes and dislikes.

Well, you catorgorized g**s, and murders. g**s are born that way, as I said before everyone has different likes and dislikes, and they just happen to like people of the same s*x. Murders aren't born murders, unless they have a phsycologiacal disorder. Most of them become that way because of a bad childhood, no one watching them, and they never learn about consequences

Being yourself is just who you are. I get what you're saying no, you don't just pick someone, it should come from within. What I mean, is, don't act a certain way to fit in, or because it's how your friends act. Act the way you feel comfortable acting.

You are only fake if you don't enjoy the way or acting, and your acting that way for someone else.

Message me, if you have a question about something I said, or if I answered the question the wrong way. If you meant someting like 'what to do in life' not so much based on personality, but how to knwo what to do in life message me.

Answer 3

Timothy,

You've asked a lot of questions in a single post.  You may want to break it down in bite-sized topics to get clearer answers from folks.  Also search prior questions in the "discover" section.  You may get some insight from earlier contributors.

My take on the nature vs nurture question is that it is both that makes us what we are.  I strongly believe that some folks are pre-wired with a certain personality.  Ask any parent with more than one child for confirmation of this.  Children can be raised in a similar environment and turn out completely different.  But, you can't overlook environment either.  Some folks are screwed up because of where/how they lived during their youth.

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