A question about a Mother calling...please help?

Question

Please help....I love dear Mom, however she tends to call almost everyday...and it's hard to talk sometime after work when I am mentally drained and only have 4 to 5 hours before bed.

I feel a little guilty about writing this but do you think calling 4 to 5 times a week is excessive. I feel speaking to anyone 3 times a week is ok. Also when she calls she likes speaking for a long time and I hate hanging on the phone for long periods of time.

Please help me am I wrong in feeling this way, what about your relationships with family.

Answer 1

I talk to my Mom everyday too.  I know how you feel, I don't think your wrong to feel the way you do.   My Mom calls me at work just to see what i'm doing!  I want to say, "what do you think i'm doing?"  But in her defense she is MOM so I let it slide.  I had a heart to heart with her about it not to long ago and she's slacked off some but i still hear from her at least 1 time a day instead of 5.  Good Luck!

Answer 2

Wow that's excessive.  I talk to my mom maybe once or twice a week tops and that's plenty.  You'll just have to explain your situation to her and hope it doesn't hurt her feelings too much.

Answer 3

I think you should tell her what you just told us.  If you feel it is excessive, then it is excessive.  Everyone has different standards as to how much is enough to talk.  Explain you love her, you are tired right now, and that you will call her back at a time that is better for you to be able to focus and be a good conversation.