A question about child support (TN)...

Question

Ok. Here's my situation. I pay child support for my son (2 yrs) to my, of a lack of a better term, baby's mama. She already has a 4 year old by a different guy. Last September she got married to a guy, got pregnant by him and now all she does is gloat about how much child support she will be getting from this guy when the baby's born. On top of that she gloats about how much government assistance ($300 food stamps, and daycare for both kids). So at this point I'm sure you all can realize that she is a gold digging, money hungry b**ch. My question is: When/if she gets pregnant again by a different guy, gets child support and even more gov. assistance will the courts ever understand what she is doing? Are the courts really this blind as to what she is doing? She is financially raping us men and sucking money out of the government. h**l, I'm calmed down now. Married, stable job and another baby with my wife. Her divorce isn't even final but yet tonight she's having another guy staying the night. She makes me sick but I still have to put up with her, and play nice so I can see my son. Would the courts look at that? I'm a good person and my baby's mama is a monster!

So anyone got some advice? This woman is about to make me sick.

p.s. I know I'm an idiot for messing around with her but I was a stupid kid 3 years ago.

Answer 1

No, the courts will not look at that.  All the court is going to see is that you have a child that needs supporting and they will make sure you do that.  I know sometimes it's unfair - even as a girl I can say that but that's what will happen.  They will not deny the child money because of the mother's actions.  

Answer 2

what a scam man!!   Just keep an eye on this situation.  record what  she is doing.  try to document, as for proof.  make 3 copy's of all of it.  Send it to friend of the courts.  Most likely all you can do.   I am sure she will have more kids, with different fathers, as time goes by.  

     At least you reported it!   I agree with you!   I think she will be warned if she keeps doing this.   Good luck , my friend

Answer 3

She's not going to get all that money, sorry to be the one to break it to her.  When you get gov aide, welfare or whatever you want to call it, they take your child support.  It is a law in every state.  When you get foodstamps, medicaid, cash assistance, whatever, the state MAKES you go after child support if you don't already have an order.  And once you do have an order for child support, the state MAKES you sign your right to receive the child support over to them.  So the paying parent still pays whatever was ordered by the court, it's just that the state gets to keep the money instead of sending it to the custodial parent.  It's a way for them to be reimbursed for providing welfare benefits.  Depending on which benefits you are receiving depends on how much or your support they take.  Sometimes they only take the amount that you received in benefits.  Sometimes you still get $50 & they get the rest.  And sometimes they take it all no matter what you received in benefits.  And if you are getting a particular benefit that does not require you to sign your support over to them, then they add what you receive in support onto your monthly household income, making what you receive in benefits less.  So she is not going to be sitting as pretty as she thinks she is.  I know that that doesn't help your want to get custody of your son, & I wish I could say that it would, but at least you know that she isn't going to get away with living off the gov.