A question about happily married people?

Question

How come when a married person answers a question they always say that they have been happily married X amount of yrs.

Who are they trying to convince that they are happily married themselves or others.

Answer 1

I would hope when they say that they they really mean it.  Watch older couples and it cute to see that they actually do love each other.

Answer 2

The more years, the better they have gotten at being married. They have learned some really good communication skills, compromise and how to stay in love. There is nothing wrong about it. It gives us all something to strive for. Its encouraging. If I'm looking for marriage advice, I would rather hear it from someone who has pulled it off for 25 years then over someone who has been married for 1 year.

Is it so hard to believe that there are some couples out there that are happily married. I would rather see someone write "happily married for x amount of years" than "completely miserable and don't know how to get out of it for x amount of years".  

Answer 3

Sounds to me that you are either in an unhappy marriage and are jealous of happily married people, or recently out of an unhappy marriage and are jealous of happily married people.

I agree with what most everyone has said here.  Nobody who says that they've been happily married X amount of years is saying that all years are happy ones.  Every marriage struggles and has its ups and downs, it's the ones who stick it out and stand with their partner that wear their years of marriage like a badge of honor, especially in these days where it's very common and almost expected that couples divorce.  Ever hear of the "starter marriage"?  I rest my case.

I'm approaching my 1st anniversary and have been with my husband for almost 8 years.  While it's not 20+ years of marriage, I am proud to say that we've been together this long.  It's not been easy and I've been ready to kill him at times. but at the end of the day, he is my husband and my best friend, and as long as I keep that in mind, we're going to be married for a long time.

Answer 4

  they LIE!!!

Answer 5

One of two reasons:

1) they are still in the bliss of a newer marriage (married 2 years)

2) They have been married for a long time, and are lending credibility to their answer (i.e. have been married x years so I know this thing...) or are proud that they have lasted that many years (think of how many quick divorces there are)

would you like to answer one of mine?

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 6

I think its a good thing.

I am MORE LIKELY to heed the advice of a person married over 10 years than some 23 year old that has been married only 2 or 3..........sorry- older couples have the experience, and the maturity, and the staying power.

I don't  listen to anyone under 25, generally.

Answer 7

When I do it, I'm not trying to convince myself, nor anyone else.  When I say that I am happily married, it is to lend credence to what I have written.  It is a lot harder to be happily married after 22 years than it is 6 months or a year.  Therefore, I think you would be wise to heed what I have to say.  I wear my years of marriage like a badge of honor.  It gives me gravitas in this forum.

Answer 8

Acknowledging that you are happily married (for so many years) is simply stating that you worked hard and figured out HOW to make it work. A successful marriage IS an accomplishment.

Would you rather take advice from so unhappy spouse who is now contemplating a divorce from their 7th husband???

Answer 9

They're just happy to still be in a club whose membership gets ever smaller as the years of marriage increase.  

Answer 10

Don't be jealous cause your marriage sucks.

Happily married 1 year!

Answer 11

Nobody. They are happy!! I am VERY happily married for just over a year now. We have our spats, like all couples do, but we are very happy. it's more of a common between people. "i've been married X years" "oh yeah, i've been married x years" ... that's all it is.

Answer 12

probably because this is the MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE section and most ALL questions have to do with marriage, so it helps to know that the people that are giving INTELLIGENT answers as well as questions, have some knowledge on the topic being asked. "Common sense i'd say

Answer 13

Sometimes I answer a question and put that I am happily married for a certain amount of years. I just put it there for myself. I am very happy in my marriage... and I just feel like telling everyone. I could talk all day about my husband and how much I love him... and our daughter on the way. I don't do it to brag... its just out of happiness and excitement. I guess its for the same reason why when I answer a question about pregnancy, I put how far along I am in my pregnancy and what I am having. My family is my life... and I just like to share the news :)

Answer 14

Listen here sweetie, I have been married for 37 years. No they were not always the best of times, everyone hits a rough patch now and then. It is what you do in the rough time that dictates whether you are happy or not. But, even with the hard times we had I can still stand strong and proud to say to anyone who asks I have been happily married for 37 years!

Answer 15

Some people are happy being married.  I am on some days and other days well I wish I was single.  Do not knock people for saying they are happy they might just as well be.  I say cudos to those people and hopefully it stays that way for the rest of thier life.  I am happily married at times and then other times I am not so happy I think that is normal though.

Answer 16

I imagine that they are happily married.  Hopefully their spouse agrees with that assessment!!!

Answer 17

Badge of honor and I wear it with pride...

20 YEARS I BEEN MARRIED.

sorry