A question about jealousy?

Question

My friend married a foreigner who blessed her with a good living and she is very loyal to him. She comes from a very poor family with siblings who don't make enough effort of their own to make life easy for themselves. She helped her family in many different ways with her husbands blessing.

Jealousy and resentment started when she began to say "NO" to her family members with their many requests for some kind of need.

I observed that this foreign man is very kind and generous and her family treat him like an ATM machine.

Do you think its right to demand so much and get angry when someone say's NO after they have helped you so many times?

Answer 1

I don't think this is very fair to the generous man. neither is this very polite. For one, most people don't do anything unless they get something out of it. as the saying is "you scratch me i scratch you " correct? So If you are saying that this man helped them, without asking for anything in return, that looks like charity to me. And i don't think that people receiving charity go angry if they don't get wat they want. In fact normally people are very grateful once they get something that helps them. So i don't think this is right. and i am pretty sure any other person would agree with me. And, anything can be solved with communication. So if u just sit them down (or your friend for that matter) and tell them the situation and explain to them what they are doing, they will SURELY understand. And probably "lay off" or stop .

Hope this helped :)

Answer 2

You say jealousy? I don't think its jealousy. I think they are just using him and playing him. Her family should be very happy and thankful for their sister being blessed with a good kind-hearted husband who can support her and them also! It's not his duty to support her family so they should be very thankful for that. I think they are just lazy and need to try to do something for themselves. NO it isn't right for them to demand ANYTHING from her husband and they should be thankful for all that he have done.  

Answer 3

you should make a movie outta this!

Answer 4

No to both - right to demand and getting angry.  If it had been me, I would have been frank with the family and tell them off that marrying a foreigner does not mean being their breadwinner as well.  I may help in 1 or 2 instances or when there is an emergency but to be at their beck and call? No way.

Answer 5

Of course not. They're already being abusive and they should learn to stand on their own foot. No wonder why many foreigners look down on Filipinos.