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A question for adoptive parents and or future adoptive parents?

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If you have had your other children circumscised would you have your adoptive son done as well? What if he was not an infant but under the age of 5? I am just curious about circumscision and adoption. What would be your reasons for having this done?

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  1. We adopted 2 sons, one at 5 months and one at 10 months old.  We had them both cicumsized at about 18 months.  It is a personal decision, but we decided that it was healthier. My friend is a pediatric nurse and she said many teens have to get cicumsicions and it is really painful at that age.


  2. newborn only and due to religious reasons.

  3. Just thought I would chime in since I am a circumcised male. I am in my 30's and wish my mother had not had me circumcised, I hate the thought of what was done to me without my consent. It was a violation of my personal rights and wrong. I have spoken with my parents about this and told them how I felt about them making such a personal and permanent decision for me when I was unable to chime in with my own personal thoughts on the subject. This is a decision for your son and your son only. It cannot be reversed or undone..if you choose not to do this as soon as your son expresses his desire to have it done, then you can arrange it. But I know that I am not alone in my feelings that I should be intact.. It is not cleaner, or healthier these are misconceptions. I urge you to consider your adult son and his happiness.. What if? Do you want to sit where my mother sat and face your son when he tells you he wishes you had not done this. My mother has since apologized and is now a activist on not circumcising infants..She will tell you that her biggest mistake in all her years of parenting was making this decision for me..

  4. This is a highly personal decision that nearly always stirs up debate and controversy.

    If our son had been born to us, we probably would have had him circumcised at birth. (It's just what's "been done" in our families and we wouldn't have thought not to go with the flow.) However, we adopted DS as a toddler and he was not circumcised.  

    After talking with his pediatrician, we decided not to get him circumcised. She did not see a medical reason for it and, at his age, it would have required general anesthesia. We decided the risks of surgery outweighed any potential benefits.

    At age 7, DS hasn't had any "trouble," nor has he commented on looking different than Daddy or his peers. We figure if something happens in the future that warrants action, we'll take action, but for now, "if it ain't broke..."

  5. We recently adopted an 8 1/2 year old boy. I don't want to say anything too personal about him, so let me just say that if he wasn't circumsized, it was not something I would have done. I can't imagine making him adjust to so many changes in his life, turning his world upside down and then taking it upon myself to change how his own body looks. I can't imagine how scary that would be for a boy to be welcomed into his new family by having part of his body removed, and such an intimate part as well. Millions and millions of men live their entire lives without this operation, so unless there was an actual medical need, I would not do this. The old argument about wanting to look like his dad and brothers would also be null in this case, as my son is asian. I will not be getting eye surgery, a nose job or skin lightening done to make him look like his dad and brothers, so why would I circumsize him to make him look like them there? I've never felt a need to have my private areas look like my mothers or sisters so I don't get that anyways.

  6. If I had a child from birth I would have had a circumcision. A family member had this surgery recently at 33 and it was medically necessary and very very very painful. If the child is healthy, I would not go and have this surgery because of the pain required. Just know that in the future if the child gets diabetes or other diseases that slow the healing process, this surgery may become necessary. Hygiene is very important.

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