A question for biracial people:?

Question

do you find it easy to be biracial?

my mom is white and my dad is black.

i've never really thought much of it before,

in fact, i'm pretty proud to be what i am.

how many irish german senegalese people do you know?

ha.:)

but lately, some stuff has happened that's been pissing me off.

the looks i get when i'm out with my white mom...

i mean, our faces look almost exactly alike, yet people still assume that i'm adopted.

some people have stated that biraical children are "an abomination".

i'm always getting snide little remarks about what i am.

like, if i state that my mom is white and my dad is black,

i almost always hear, "wow, that ***** must've had jungle fever!"

like it's impossible for two people of a different color to love eachother.

and then all my friends tell me i have it easy, that i'm automatically accepted by whites and blacks. but i feel the exact opposite way.

so what do you think? am i overreacting?

or is it actually a bit hard to be different?

input would help.

don't be a jerk, thanks.:)

Answer 1

Lol, well, you're right in some ways but wrong in others. I'm Biracial too;White(Italian to be more specific) mom & Black dad.

I was raised as a White girl by my White family. When I was younger, it wasn't an issue. My friends were Black,White, even Native. I guess that's the beauty of children, they don't see colour, just people.

However, the older I got, the bigger the issue of my racial identity became.

I couldn't just "be friends" with anyone anymore. I wasn't Black enough for the Black people, & I wasn't White enough for the White people. For a long period of time, I was socially ostersized, with next to no friends.The girls at the schools I attended were always so cliquey. I either had to hang out with the Black girls or the White girls, I couldn't just be friends with PEOPLE!

It was very ignorant of your friend to say that biracial people are more accepted...When in fact, we are probably LESS accepted!

However, now as I get older, people are getting out of the whole clique thing and starting to realize that good people are just good people, regardless of colour.

I have 4 close friends-One is biracial like myself,two are White,two are Black & one is Puerto Rican.

BTW-When I was younger, certain IGNORANT people would ask me if I was adopted and tell me I looked completely Black.  

Answer 2

Man, I'm mad FOR you.

The dark, you do realize that when you say that, you're referring to my cousin, don't you?  She's half black/half white and ahb-viously, it IS possible for a black person and a white person to be in love, or else her parents wouldn't still be together.  Married, together.  You are an @$$ and you can go to h**l because dissing my family is NOT something I take kindly to.

Answer 3

Well, in my experience most people who are biracial don't always have it easier! They face jealousy from people of both races, snide remarks, and people telling them that they are not pure! I think  that you should ignore people and just be yourself! You are an example that America is a melting pot! Whether people except it or not!

Hoped I helped!

Answer 4

The_Dark's answer is probably the most ridiculous/racist answer I have ever seen. You should be proud of who you are nevertheless. Being biracial is one of the coolest things ever. Sure some people may have a problem with it, but those people are extreme jerks. And I mean jerks. There's almost nothing you can do to change their opinion. I have friends that are Indian/White, Asian/White, Black/White...some people see it as totally cool (like me), others have a problem with it, and those that have a prob with it, well like I said, ignore them, because they're jerks. They are obviously living in last century, where diversity was not appreciated. Nowadays, diversity is what we strive for.

Be proud of who you are. You are very lucky.

Answer 5

A bit of each I guess , in answer to your last 2 questions. My advice to you is to be comfortable in your own skin. There is some racism in most cultures although it is apparent that some are much worse than others. Your parents did not sneak off for some sordid "fling"; they chose to make a commitment in marriage. Despite all the trendy P.C we get, marriage is an honourable state. It takes courage to step outside social barriers to intermarry. For better or worse societys like ours have gone the path of "multculturism" which seems to mean different things to different people. If we want it to work, intermarriage should be actively encouraged and any intimidation from families, public, etc. severely discouraged. Those who do not approve have every right to express themselves but not intimidate, threaten or harm , which, sadly, is the practice in some cultural groups. This policy must be universally applied without politically correct coverups to mollify some noisy minority group. The alternative will be societys huddled into ethnic enclaves and eventually, as these enclaves grow and merge, the "balkanisation" of the country.

Perhaps it's high time for people who intermarry to join into organisations to promote the practice and pressure governments to discourage the "Cultural Police". You will find plenty of people who will accept you so don't allow yourself to get bitter.

Answer 6

Interracial marriage is great. It helps strengthen your gene pool. Just don't mind other people's looks. Who are they? Why should you care?

Answer 7

I'm biracial. Mom is white (with a little asian), dad is black.

Here where I live, there use to not be very many blacks or mixed or really anything but white. People used to ask if I'm adopted - & still do - & my mom and I do somewhat look similar.

When it comes to acceptance, biracial kids are definitely not accepted by both black and white. This doesn't go for everywhere, but it does in my town. I'm friends with a lot of people of many different backgrounds, but most of my friends are hispanic or asian because they are more accepting here.

It does get hard sometimes but overall I love being biracial/mixed.  

Answer 8

Just be who you are and forget what others think.

Remember its their problem!

Peace!

Answer 9

I'm not biracial, but you have every right to be angry and frustrated. From what you've said, and what I've seen elsewhere, biracial people AREN'T accepted by either of their races. It's really sad, when they SHOULD be accepted by BOTH.

You are not overreacting in any way. It's always hard to be different, in any way, because the world is full of jerks who assume and shove people into stereotypical categories.

Sorry you have to put up with this. Hope this will help: =)

Answer 10

You're not overreacting at all, and I am sorry that you have to go through what you are experiencing.  However, the best advice that I can give you is to learn how to be comfortable in your own skin.  Love who you are and to hel- with what anybody else thinks.  If you find that the comments get to be too much, find a hobby that you can immerse yourself in when things get tough.  Furthermore, I agree with a previous poster.  Those people who make snide comments about your family and biracial children being an "abomination" should be called out for the ignorant sacks of s**+- that they are.  Also, since when is it proper etiquette to ask if a child is adopted?  Know this, people will hurt your feelings whether you are biracial or not.  You can get made fun of for being too white, or too black, or too pretty, or not pretty enough.  The important thing is to develop a thick skin and let the comments fall by the wayside.  Finally, you should really think about pursuing your academic endeavors in another area, perhaps one that has more racial diversity so that you can see that there are more people who share your characteristics.

Answer 11

Individualism !    Just get over it. You , yourself are helping in creating this "Dividualism" amongst people by entertaining it and dwelling on it.  You are also creating a stimulus for jerks.     So what,  people are bi -racial.  Lots of people are even tri-racial, multi-racial or even uni-racial -  this is 2008 going on 2009.

Answer 12

Your friends say that you have it easy b/c you are accepted by whites and blacks?  If that were true, Obama would be having an easier time, and those people whom you heard making snide comments would never have said them.

People have issue with interracial relationships for various reasons; there are indeed those who feel as though it threatens a pure race--whatever THAT is; there are those who feel that when someone from their own race crosses the color line, it is a sign of rejecting their own race and indicative of self-loathing b/c they are maybe from a race that has been historically subjugated.

Everyone has an opinion, so I will give you mine: You are not overreacting.  However,  you will need to grow a very thick skin to deal with ignorance.  And it sounds like you live in an area that is not accustomed to interracial couples.  Once you start interracting with more educated and sophisticated people, you will not find as many open (and assanined) remarks about your parentage.  

Being different is difficult, but the good news is that multiracial people have become more and more numerous as the decades pass because more people are interacting with each other.  

When strangers make rude comments, address it and tell them that you think it's rude and leave it at that.  Some people will tell you to ignore the comments, and yes--this is a good idea--especially since you don't want to get into an altercation over something like some stupid words.  HOWEVER, I myself have confronted people on their ignorant comments about race because I'm  ballsy that way.  Besides, it's fun to see people's embarrassed looks because they have been called out.  It takes so little to please myself.

Hang in there, kiddo.  People will try to knock you down because they have very little going on in their own lives.  Work on you and s***w 'em.

Answer 13

people will always give you c**p for anything really, and being bi-racial is no different, u have to just dust your shoulders off when people make comments................i would look at being bi-racial as a good thing, u get the features of 2 races which could look really good together. and u have 2 heritages which i think is a great thing, all i have to offer is im a white person born in oklahoma wow! whoop di doo, but u have several.........u need to be ok with yourself before others' can see what u have to offer......be proud! it's 2008 bi-racial people are everywhere, only u can let what people say get too u.....good luck

Answer 14

Ya its really hard to be a bi-racial & I truly understand you coz I'm bi-racial myself. I'm Filipino-Spanish living here in Phils, 3rd generation to the former Spanish Gobernadorcillo in Marinduque & Spanish civil guard.  Being mixed is no big deal for me however I observed that most natives here assume that I belong to an upper elite class family wherein in fact I'm not. I belong to an upper middle class family not the upper class.  Many find me pretty also because of my bit physical difference & that's why they always get me to represent our group or company in any event that would require us to dress, act & look formal.  

The downside of being a bi-racial are the bad stereotyping that I get from the natives saying that I am younger generation of an elite corrupt (Spain colonized Phils w/c is why natives still holds a lil grudge feeling) & also I get confused most of the time coz eversince I was a child, people tell me that I don't look Filipino nor do I look Spaniard though I get comments saying I look Latino. I also get envied by most people that they would rather do something to make me feel down. They say that I am faking my ancestry coz a lot of Filipinos do that but I really does have a Spanish blood running in my veins. I get annoyed whenever people would fake their ancestry & claim having Spanish ancestry wherein they have no other proof but their surnames only (hispanic surnames are very common in the Phils bcoz of the decree implementing Spanish naming system on the native Indios) but they look very Asian (not necessarily white skinned) & possess the typical Southeast Asian characteristics. I dunno what's wrong with being a 100% Filipino.

Anyway I juz ignore all these negative things & go on with my life.

Ur not overreacting btw.  You're telling absolutely true.