A question for muslim women?

Question

Do you think it's fair that men get to marry up to 4 wives and you can't. And Please don't say that they're were shortages of men from war etc.... and that it was to help them in their time of need. They could have given them money, support, friendship. And also that they can marry out of their religion to Christians and jews and you guys can't. And please don't use that other excuse as women won't be able to raise their kids muslim. Its the 21 century. Women can do anything men do if not better. And don't your kids have the right to believe whatever you want. Thanks to whoever answers and no mean comments please.

Answer 1

Muslim men cant marry more than one woman. Its as simple as that!

Answer 2

First of all, the fact that there are more women than men, is because they live longer, and unless old ladies can conceive, this argument is not valid.

The Koran was written by men for men.  It's a barbaric book, full of barbaric customs.  It has no place in the 21st century.

Answer 3

I think it's perfectly fair.  I'm the 2nd wife.  Anyway I would go insane taking care of two different families, and two different husbands.  Did you know that if a woman has multiple partners, her chances of getting cervical cancer go up like 80% and as we all know cervical cancer contributes to women being infertile or sterile for life.  Would you really want to have more then one husband, and not know who the father of your children were?  I wouldn't. Honestly I admire my husband for being able to support two women.  That takes guts, and lots of hard work.

Answer 4

actually sister he can marry 4 wives but if they are not treated equally , then the husband cn get into serious trouble in the hereafter.

Answer 5

Asslam O Alikum

Dear i think you have never read about actuall role of women in islam

who said that a woman cant marry more

but its not possible that one woman marry with more tahn 1 man at a same time

do u think its logical

yes woman can marry more than one but there r some reason

if woman get marry and could not survive or not have good realtaion with that man she can get divorce

and if woman get widow then she can marry

but at all matters there should b logical reasons

islam has granted a woman very respectful way of life so plz dont mix ur mind with this and that...

Answer 6

Islam recommends having several wives if you can afford it and to prevent men from doing adultery. Also it can prevent women to go into prostitution in case they have financial difficulty.

A man with 3 legal wives DOES NOT have enough time to fool around. Also under Islam law, a man CAN NOT marry another wife without other wives approval.

It must be a good way since Mormonism approves it as well.

ONLY AN IGNORANT FOOL BAD MOUTH A RELIGION WITHOUT KNOWING IT  

Answer 7

Yes I think it's perfectly fair

Remember, while Muslim men CAN marry up to 4 wives they rarely do even in countries like Saudi Arabia.

It's not common at all anymore simply because supporting them all is expensive and the man has to be able to care for all of them.

My father could have had several wives & supported them but he stayed with my mother only.

Your thinking of it from an entirely selfish point of view, it was not done so as to make a husband's life relaxed and decadent, in Mohammed's time most children would not live past the age of 5.

He allowed his followers to marry several women to increase their chances of successfully fathering children and raising a family.

Answer 8

Bcuz the kids will be non-Muslim.

What do u mean 21st century? Hillary CLinton, a accomplished woman still wont be elected TODAY, bcuz of her gender.

I know u will use Palin, but that is clearly a strategic manever by Maccain and America didnt vote on her. Unlike with CLinton, whom lost to Obama,

Answer 9

First of all, I'd like to note that women are not more than men, the s*x ration is 1, which means that they are equal, it only drops to .7 (male to female) after 65 years of age and it's generally 1.1 (male to female) at birth. So stop giving unrealistic excuses.

Men marrying more than one woman is "tolerated" in Islam, so don't give it more than it's size - it's also tolerated in Christianity (whether they believe it or not, that was the normal case until the 3 century AD (i.e. 300 years AFTER Christ) and up to this day there are Christian communities that believe it's allowed (and I'm not referring to Mormons), it's tolerated in Judaism and it's tolerated or maybe even encouraged in many other non-Abrahamic religions; Islam is the only one that put some limits to it so why pick on Islam?

I know a lot of people come up with some ridiculous excuses such as "help them in time of need", which in my opinion is bull because if you want to be charitable you do NOT donate yourself.

But the truth remains, some women will prefer to marry half a man or a quarter of a man than not be married - I'm not one of them, but yes, there are women like that even in the Western world (that think this is an outrageous idea), an example would be a woman in an affair with a married man, she lives with him for years and sometimes has children with him despite being "in the shadow". A second wife is always better than a concubine or secret affair.

Moreover, in certain cases there IS a socio-economic need for that, an example would be a war torn country with half of the male population dead (it happens); in order to recover the country needs to increase it's population and it's males, if a man can marry 4 women at a time, then this would happen faster. This may be an extreme case, but it happens more often than we like to believe.

I can come up with a thousand logical reasons to allow it and you can come up with a thousand against it; but, if you are Muslim and you don’t want to share your husband, fine, you have a right to make that a condition for marriage. If you are not Muslim then what business is it of yours?

It may not be "pleasing" to women, I know I don't like it; but nobody likes taxes either yet I don't see anyone cancelling them? You don’t cancel something just because it’s not convenient to one party; the overall good of the community is taken into consideration.

Answer 10

Hold on.  How would you feel if a Muslim woman posted a paragraph lecturing to you about: your way of life(society, culture) and it's flaws?

(Flaws like our "50% < divorce rate")

Answer 11

i personally think that there are not THAT many men left who want to marry more than once.. what say my dear brothers...:D

moreover.. i dont want to marry a guy from other religion.... its ok, if guys do, it will increase our ummah but they should bring her into islam... i am glad that way...

and the thing being women can do anything... but at the end of the day what a women is really content is that she has taken care of her family.. she has bought each member closer to Allah(swt)....

i have no problem...if somebody asked me to quit my job.. i will surely be happy.. but i should get an allowance to do as i wish.. no questions asked...:-)