A question for teenage girls about pregnancy?

Question

I've noticed a lot of teen girls saying they REALLY want a baby. When I was a teenager I never had that urge or didn't know anyone else who did. A baby was something I FEARED having.

Anyway. I was just wondering if any of you knew why some girls think this way?

Personally, I feel that many think a baby will bring them happiness but ignore all the huge responsibilities of a baby and how it will drastically change their life.

Just wondering! Thanks!

Answer 1

I think it may have something to do with spiting they're parents.  A way of defying they're parents power over them.  It also seems like a lot of girls who are pregnant don't want to be, they just weren't carful.  I am 13 and I don't even think i want kids when I am an adult.

Answer 2

I personally think it would be AMAZING having a baby, even now! I completely understand why another teenage girl would want one.

But because of reality.

1. It's not safe.

2. Most likely the teenage father will be too irresponsible to do anything right. And I would want a "family" for the baby.

3. Most likely without an high school education, I won't get paid better than minimum wage.

4. I prefer to give my parents peace and to bring them "honor". Outside people care WAY to much.

5. I am NOT ready for labor. Well, no one is ... but lol! I will give myself a few more years before I put myself through that.

I will avoid it.

Answer 3

I'm pregnant but I wasn't dying to have a baby.  I don't know anyone who goes out and tries to get pregnant when they're my age but I know what some reasons are.

They want something that will love them back.

They want a constant in their life.

Babies are just so cute! *rolls eyes*

They think it's COOL.

They want their guy to stick around.

These are all ridiculous reasons but you get my point.  Babies aren't dolls.  The ones who want babies for these reasons don't know what the h**l they're getting themselves into.

Answer 4

I'm 19 and pregnant, and while I always wanted to be a young mom, I would never encourage anyone to try to conceive before they are able to finish college.

While my baby was unplanned, not unwanted, it makes me angry to see so many young girls come on here talking about how they want a baby.

I will never be able to go away to a 4 year university. Every day I wonder about whether or not I should marry my baby's father, or what would be best for our baby, or if things will work out between us.

I wonder how I'm going to have health insurance for myself, and how I'll have insurance for my baby.

I wonder how I'm going to work and watch my baby.

It's a BIG struggle. A lot of girls don't consider those things.

I'll never know the freedom of marrying someone and being able to spend a year or two just being together and having fun, without children in the picture.

My life will never again be about me.

My life revolves around my baby now. And while I understand that, it's something that I wish I had really delayed, and I wish I had been more careful.

Girls want babies to love and dress up and receive love from. Get a dog. Get a goldfish.

I really think there should be a bigger focus on the hardships of teen parenthood, not just on the parents, but on the child.

I would personally love to speak at high schools about my situation, and try and show girls what it's like to be in my shoes.

Answer 5

Well, it all has to do with hormones. I've been going through stages of desperately wanting a baby, dreading having a baby, and not having a care in the world about the subject.

Maybe when you were a teen your hormones were telling you to fear it -shrugs- It's different for every girl you know :/  

Answer 6

My little sister got pregnant when she was 17 (well she is still 17) and her real reason for getting pregnant wasn't because she wanted a child it was because she wanted to trap her boyfriend into staying w/ her

Just trying to give you ONE honest answer

Answer 7

They have this idea that kids are toys and once your done playing with them thats the end of it. They dont get that children are huge responsibilities, once they are brought into this world they are number one.  

Answer 8

-Some do it to trap there boyfriends

-Some I think is hormonal because I am sixteen and for like a few weeks before my period I was like wedding and baby crazy lol

-Some because they wanna give someone the love they aren't receiving

-Also some just want someone who will love them

-And the age old reason: because they believe they grown enough for it

Answer 9

The girls that feel this way might feel unloved and feel like a baby and boyfriend will love them and they will never be sad again.

The sad truth is that it's not like that. Most pregnant teenagers are not happy about it. I think that's why these girls feel this way, and they need to be told about the dangers of s*x and pregnancy so they know to wait.

For any girl that feels like that, baby sit instead! You can be around babies and little kids without all the responsibility that goes along with actually being their parent. If you stick around long enough, they will eventually love you.

Good luck!

Answer 10

I'm fourteen, & I love kids. But I have never felt the need to have a child on my own. I think some girls do because they think that somehow they'll be more mature if they're a mom. Also, they want that control. A baby all your own? You have a power that you don't really have otherwise at that age. I think it's also "Oh, babies are so cute!".  That's a part of it. I think another thing is having someone looking like you. It's something excited. I don't know, girls are being ridiculous. Do they really think it's all just going to be great?  

Answer 11

well me being 15, ive always said since i was a little kid i wanted to be a mother (but no time soon) i've always loved little kids, because they always did the cutest things and were funny

but last year i had a summer job at a daycare and that kinda changed my mind, its a lot of hard work that goes with being a parent. i think a lot of teens only see the bright side of pregnancy, & the media is starting to glorify pregnancy (which pregnancy is a beautiful thing) it really doesn't matter at what age a person is a mother, there is always a bright side and a dark side of parenting

as for me i do fear being a parent in my teens because i have old fashioned parents, and everyone will be shocked and it would be too much of a big thing.

plus i want to go to college and stuff.

but i have 2 friends that are teen parents and they are really good parents. they love being mommies and stuff. & i support my friends, i even babysit for them.

and they are doing fine with their lives they are in school and everything

=D

Answer 12

I'm 15 and I really would like to have a child. Just not now. No matter how cute or cuddly babies are, I'm way too selfish, impatient, immature, and quite irresponsible to raise another human being. I don't want to insult any (good!) teen parents or anything because, believe it or not, they are out there. But me, I'm gonna wait at least another decade or so. In the mean time I'll occupy myself with a puppy.

P.S- Congratulations! Hope your baby is healthy!