A question for wives & girlfriends?

Question

You have a really good male friend that you see a lot; he has a big crush on you but you've told him that though you like him you're already taken so can't go there. One day he comments on how nice you look in your current outfit and asks you to wear it next time you're seeing him. So, do you wear it or not?

Answer 1

If you are in a relationship this guy obviously doesn't get the hint that you are not available and really needs to back off.  I would be wary of his intentions.  I would answer your question with a no.  That's leading him on letting him think that there is more between you than friendship.  How does your significant other feel about your relationship with this guy?

Answer 2

no then he would thnk you are dressing for him.  and if you are happy with your man then you dont want to lead this other man on.

Answer 3

NO! you'll know what to do.. you don't need yahoo for this question hun..

Answer 4

:) i would... but if my husband praises me and keeps me happy i would not...

leave that girl alone... now dont be like some movie hero...

Answer 5

why are u allowing this man to make these comments?  a simple uplifting comment is one thing, pushing into flirting is dangerous ground and it should not be fed by the woman...she is equally at fault enabling this guy  

Answer 6

I agree with the first answer.

Answer 7

If I had a platonic male friend who continued to throw himself at me after I told him I wasn't interested or that I was unavailable then I wouldn't be spending as much time with him and I wouldn't be spending any time alone with him because it is only falsely encouraging him to continue on with his fantasy.  So no, I wouldn't wear anything "special" just because he asked.

Answer 8

No

Answer 9

If you were married or dating maybe! but if he is a friend and you have a boyfriend/husband then no! It might make him think yhou want him when you are committed to another relationship. If he asks just say it was dirty or you couldn't find it or somehting very possible like that

Answer 10

No, because I would not be seeing him again. If I am in a committed relationship (such as marriage) I would not maintain a friendship with somebody who wanted to be more than friends. It would be too uncomfortable for me and would put unwanted stress on the spouse.  

Answer 11

sorry, nut if the girl really liked you she would go there, if shes married and is truly committed to her man then she shouldn't even be talking to you.. no she wears it for her man

Answer 12

No, I wouldn't wear it because that would be flirting back and encouraging his behavior.  If you are in a relationship having male friends is cool but having male friends that don't respect your relationship is not.

Answer 13

I wouldn't. I think that is just egging him on to keep a torch burning for you. By wearing the outfit, it implies his opinion matters to you, and you want to look nice for him, so he may think that there is hope that one day it could go to another level.

Answer 14

Okay. I have always only had guy friends, so when my boyfriend and I got together it was a big shock to all of them and when we got engaged it was a huge shock. But, my finace knows I love him and that is where that ends. He know he can trust me and the guys....If I were to wear an outfit that one of my guy friends said I looked good in of course I am going to wear it again when I see them because that means my finace will like it too.

So my answer is yes I would

Answer 15

No I would not wear it and I would find it creepy for him to request it after I had already told him I was taken.

Answer 16

I would suggest not to wear what ever he  asks of you. See you already set a boundary and unfortunately he hasn't gotten the picture of respecting that . You might want to rethink if he is worth keeping as a friend if he gets to persistent  ( on you for anything).  

Good luck.

Answer 17

No.

That is only perpetuating his fascination and to do that is wrong.  

Answer 18

No, thats flirting...it's like saying, "hey look at me, i'm wearing what you like". She should be wearing what she likes or what her husband/boyfriend likes, not her male friend that happens to be attacted to her.

Answer 19

Wearing the outfit might send a false message.  In fact, he might take it as flirting or something like that.  If you are serious about your current relationship then you definitely should not be leading your friend on.  Besides, if you two are just friends, why would he be interacting with you in that way.  It will probably lead to something more innapropriate.  Would one of your girlfriends be like "you look soo good in that outfit can you wear it next time for me".  She probably wouldn't ask you that unless she was a L*****n.  It just seems weird.