A question for woman who's ring are 1 carat or above?

Question

Do people make weird comments or check out your ring and treat you differently because of the "size" of your ring?

It was very strange- yesterday I went to community college (I need to take in a few classes to complete my master and it's cheaper) and I need to take a placement test. My name was messed up in the computer and one women refused to help me... I was dressed very plainly but nice with flip flops on and she made a comment about why don't I go somewhere better like a "private school" after glancing at my ring and not being able to fix the information. Her comment was uncalled for- I was nothing but poliet to her and I did get someone else to help me. There a women at my work- who makes comments like that to me- like "I guess you can afford it" and "I think jewelry is a waste".

I think I am going to take my engagement ring off when I have to interview for jobs because it's really strange how some people react?

It could be a hunk of glass for all they know- why do they get so nasty?

I could care less what someone else has or doesn't have- I don't even notice stuff like that!

Answer 1

mine is 2.1 carats, but no, the only reaction I have received is a WOW from my friends.

Answer 2

Not sure where you are from but here in CA size doesn't make people treat you different.  I go out with a girlfriend of mine who has a 2.5 carat and never once has anyone commented about it or treated her differently.  Actually around here (LA) 2.5 really isn't that big... that's not good but it's life.

Don't let people bother you... it's not worth it.  Be proud of what you have!

Answer 3

My friend's ring is 1.5 ct. and it's HUGE! She gets treated the same way. I know that it sucks, but there's really nothing to be done. I mean, I have to agree with you that it's none of their business, and they really should understand that it's not your money that was spent on it. I don't know why people are the way they are, but, ::Shrugs:: that's life sometimes. You can take it off if you like, or you can try to ignore it. Good luck!

Answer 4

Your coworker sounds jealous, and some people just lack class.

I think you should continue to wear your ring. If someone doesn't want to give you a job because of the size of your engagement ring - seriously, could that have less to do with your professional skills - is that really a company you want to work for?

Answer 5

Mine is over 1 as well and can aslo say I have been treated differently... but, so far, only in a good way. I honestly look like I'm about 10 years younger than I really am, so I get carded ALL THE TIME. Ever since getting engaged, I haven't even once been. Maybe if it was smaller, they would still think I'm underage & have a fiance that is young too (so he would have only been able to afford a small one). But, with the one I have, they can seem to tell that I'm no teenager. :)  

Answer 6

My 1ct flawless diamond (the band ot another carat, so 2 ct total) always draw attention wherever I go. Im very proud of it and I wear it every day. Some ladies feel upset that their ring is smaller/cheaper/w-color, oh well, that's not my fault that they are marrying a cheapo.

Ignore comments from catty, jealous people. Wear it and BE proud of it!

Good luck

PS/ I live 70 miles from Philli LOL!

Answer 7

My Fiance & I Went Shopping For My Engagement Ring Last Weekend & Chose My Dream Ring That Was Still In His Price Range - It Was $1750, Which Is Still Pretty Cheap Considering People On Here Are Saying They've Spent Up To $15,000.

I Told Some Family & Friends Last Weekend After We Ordered My Ring About It & They Were Like "Oh, Wow. That's Great For You"... Then I Told Them The Price & They Just Look At Me Like I'm A Spoilt Brat.

I'm Only 19 & It's Like People Think Because I'm Young I Don't Deserve A Nice Ring.

I Have Been With My Fiance Since My 14th Birthday & It's Not Like This Is An Impulse Relationship & Engagement.

Some People Can Just Be Nasty.. Plain & Simple.

But I Sooo Know Where Your Coming From

I've Also Noticed That When Your Young You Dream Of A Big, Beautiful Ring - Just About Everyone Does, & If Your Lucky Enough To Get It, The Girls Who Didn't Get Them Turn Into Bitter, Jealous Cows.

HaHaHa.

Answer 8

Yes and no.

Usually people don't say anything (I have 1.25 ct with trillions), but I DID go on an interview once where the interviewer just followed my hands as I talked.  Eventually she commented on my ring and wanted to see it, which kinda makes me uncomfortable.  Ordinarily though, I don't care...however, that comment the lady made to you is pretty rude.

Answer 9

It's called jealousy. Don't let small people change who you are or how you feel about your ring and all it symbolizes.

My ring is a little over a carat, and I've only had one person comment. She was 18, and said it was ginormous. She was recently engaged, and her ring was possibly 1/10 carat. I didn't give it, or any of her subsequent comments about the ring any thought, because I recognize she cannot even relate to my life, which is so very different from her own.

Forget about those ladies. If your coworker feels it necessary to tell you what a waste jewelery is, remind her how very lucky is, then that she doesn't have to be burdened with any.

Answer 10

I agree with you, that is very strange for people to behave like that.  Besides, your fiance bought your engagement ring, not you, for all they know, he could have been saving for that thing for years!  Or financed it.  Either way, don't let people get you down, I get random comments sometimes too (my ring is a 1.25 center stone with 46 little diamonds all over the sides and on the sides of the actual setting, as well), especially because my parents have money and my dad buys me designer purses for birthdays, holidays, etc.  So I always hear nasty comments like "I don't care for designer clothes" and "jewelry is a waste of money."  Well, you know what?  That is just jealousy talking.  Enjoy your ring, and wear it proudly.  s***w what everyone else thinks.

Congrats on your wedding!

Answer 11

I had the same problem.  With my mother.  My father bought her engagement ring from a jewelry store that was going out of business.  If you squint, you can make out the diamond.  But she knew my dad was careful with my money when she met him, and in exchange for her small diamond she got financial security - not too shabby!  

Then I got engaged and I have a beautiful ring - 1.08 carat center stone - not gigantic, but more than enough for me.  My fiance's choice, not mine or it would have been smaller, but still she comments on it.  It made me uncomfortable for a while, but I've learned to weather it.  

You know you're not spoiled or superficial - don't let some bitchy lady at your college make you feel lousy for having a larger stone.  I do understand taking off your ring in some situations.  I wouldn't recommend using it when you buy a car, for example - they may think you can afford more.

Answer 12

ahhh women..

jealous of everything another woman has..

for better or worse..

its our nature :)