A question of friendship?

Question

After battling an eating disorder (with my support), my best friend of half my lifetime cut me off entirely. That was about 6 months ago, but it had been coming on gradually before that. I've dealt with the pain of that. Now I wonder if I ought to write and tell her that if she wants to get in touch, she still can? I'm afraid that by keeping silent I'll have closed that door completely.

Answer 1

Don't write. You may not realize that an eating disorder is a complicated psychiatric condition. Even if she's eating again, the underlying emotional issues are still there. She has problems that have nothing to do with you but they impair her functioning at the level required here. Your silence doesn't close any doors; if she wants to get in touch with you, she will.

Answer 2

When me and my ex best friend "split up", it started out with major big arguments. Now we're fine, but not like we were before, and it's better this way.

She's going through a really bad time in her life, her parents have split up, and her family are tearing her apart. She knows I'm always there for her though.

I think you should get in touch with her, even if she doesn't want to keep contact, at least you've tried, and it's not as if you've got anything to loose at this point.

Answer 3

just give her a call or write her a letter but don't mention anything about how we arent friends anymoe type thing. just be liek hey how are you? whats new, havent seen u in a while. see where the conversation goes.