A question to anyone that is married. Mainly a question for guys.?

Question

Why did you get married? Why did you sign a contract that entitled someone else to a % of what you will make in your life? Couldn't you have just not gotten married and stayed together if you really loved each other?

I think marriage is just plain out stupid but i am wondering why people do it left and right. The reason why i think marriage is just wrong is because it's just human nature to get bored of having chicken for dinner everyday no matter how you spice it up, it's still chicken, thus it's destined to fail and even if it doesn't you are going to l ive the rest of your life unhappy and for what?

Answer 1

You have an extremely warped idea about marriage.  Marriage bonds two people who are in love together in hopes of staying together.  If two people just live together, then they don't feel the need to work on the marriage when the "for better, for worse" comes into play.  They get lazy and just walk away.  However, a married couple will tend to work more on their relationship.  And the "for what" part is for a family.  The "family" unity is a precious commodity.  We all need to focus on family than just on ourselves.  So what about chicken every night, at least there would be food on the table and loved ones around.  Isn't that what is important in a family?  I think so.

Answer 2

You just got burned by a girl didn't you?

It's sad to see someone so warped and jaded on marriage but that is your deal. We married because we had been together six years and it was time. We love each other very much through the ups and downs. It's more than a piece of paper. It's life. It's joining two families into one. And from a legal standpoint, there are more benefits to being married than just shacking up.

Sorry life sucks for you but it's not fair to downcast marriage just because you're bitter and angry.

EDIT:

The security is what makes it better, not just the piece of paper. There are legal benefits that make some things financially much better. The paper merely solidifies our bond and what we have together. We both have better benefits when it comes to taxes and lower rates on our insurance. Money isn't all of it but it's certainly helped.

You can think I'm crazy all you want but it will never change my opinion. My husband is a loving, generous, faithful, and caring man. He's never betrayed my trust and never will. It may be a tad naive to think that but seven years together has proved he will not betray or cheat on me.

Answer 3

build up your bad self esteem and you will see it way more positively.

Answer 4

Why is this a question for the guys?  I am the breadwinner in our marriage, not my husband.  I don't view it as handing over a % of what I make in my life.  We have a partnership.  I work full time and in return he does the housework.  It works for us.  Besides which, we were best friends for 10 years before we got married.  We know each other more deeply than we do anybody else in our lives and our comfortable with another.  Not to mention that it would be really difficult to find somebody else who is as compatible with me in terms of spending habits, how we like the house kept, how many kids we want, etc.  I am just comfortable and happy with the situation.  I know I am sacrificing the passion and excitement that would come with new relationships by committing to him, but I'm also giving up the pain and heartache that comes with frequent break-ups.  I'm also guaranteeing that I'll have a close friend lying next to me in the middle of the night.  I have somebody who I know will be by my side if I am sick and injured and can't take care of myself.  All of that is priceless to me, and worth far more than the earnings I have to split with him.

Answer 5

Great question, I hope some religious nut doesn't report you for telling the truth.

I think most guys have a really hard time meeting women. Few will admit it, but how often does a hot chick walk by a table of guys and they all stare, but none have the ballz to talk to her.  But a less attractive, overweight chick comes along and they are ok with that.  So when a somewhat decent looking woman shows interest, most guys jump at it because its easier for them to have the same tasteless chicken every night than it is to go out and find some steak or lobster.  It boils down to just plain fear and laziness.

Edit:

Right, I mean if its REALLY about love, then why the legal contract?  Why alimony when its over?  If a woman wants a child, she should be responsible for it; watch the birth rate drop then if women had to actually think about getting knocked up instead of "oh we'd make such a pretty baby".

Answer 6

so she's going for the pension plan, huh.

Answer 7

if you can't understand the feeling of wanting to be with one person forever- then you've never felt real, true, deep love. if you get bored with one person- then it's lust, love.  I got married because i was in love.  and it physically hurt to be away from him.  i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.  i wanted to have a family with him.  i wanted to commit all of myself to him.  and he felt the same way.  it's not a piece of paper that make our relationship more meaningful- it's what it symbolizes.  and no, i don't think my marriage is destined to fail and make my life unhappy- my marriage has given me the greatest joy and happiness i've ever known.  i wouldn't sell myself short by missing this kind of love!  

Answer 8

I married my husband because I loved him.  Two years later, God took him to Heaven.

Answer 9

My husband and i got married cause we were and are still very much in love with each other and wanted to spend the rest of our life together and neither 1 of us is bored and never have gotten bored with the other.

If you dont want to get married then stay single but dont judge and criticize people who are married and happy with their decision and people who want to get married.

Edit..My husband didn't have any assets when we got married and he wanted to get married so i didn't "trap" him

Answer 10

I'm not a guy but i am married,its not just a paper its a commitment to each other in front of god.And it helps out with taxes and insurance