A question to black people or those who know?

Question

why do black people hate the 'n' word but they refer to eachother all the time with the 'n' word my son said to a black person yo wat up 'n' er and he got punched?

Answer 1

wow ur son is an idiot

Answer 2

This is actually both a stupid word and not really racist and has been victimized by the powers that be.  See NIGERIA is a country in Africa.

Well the word actually means someone from Nigeria. As in a native from Chicago is called a Chicagoan. A Native from Nigeria is called, you guessed it. Shortened Slang form, as you can also call them a Nigerian, but if you shorten the Nigerian, well you see what I mean.

Anyway, there is so much outcry as to people stereotyping and grouping all africans by saying universally from nigeria. Then when slavery existed there were derogatry words added to the slang word, Such as Lazy, worthless, and eventually became derogarty after the fact. And to the word we now know. So the dictionary definition grew out of the slavery term, and not the term for shortened Nigerian.

It is only bad because we made it bad. Otherwise it is like any other word.

Think I am wrong? How about the word g*y? It used to mean Happy, Carefree.ie, Bob was a g*y and happy person. Now it is a word describing a lifestyle about homosexuality? Bob is g*y, and has a male friend.

  Now Neg-ro is the color black in other languages. And since Neg-ro is so close to Nigerian shortened slang, has fallen away as well.

Since blacks freely use the word, it is a DOUBLE STANDARD.

Did you know this is the only country that really has this issue.

GO to Peru and call a black person an African-Peruvian.

They will look at you strange.

Answer 3

Steve has a very good point. No one should use this word. It has negative connotations period. A very good and very intelligent friend of mine is black and he HATES when blacks use this term towards each other. He works hard to educate black youth and teach them self pride. That word should be erased from our vocabulary just as any other tern that degrades someones race.

I am a teacher and do not mean to sound harsh ... but at 14 your son should have know better. I grew up in a school where I was actually the minority ... most of my friends were black, Samoan, Mexican, etc .. .and even back then they said it ... but only to each other (and everyone knew that). I would have never said that to even my closest friends (although they called me that all the time which was considered a "compliment" believe it or not).

Just because your son heard someone else say it ... doesn't mean he should repeat it. If he's not sure what something means (which I find hard to believe) then he should ask. Until we take away the words and racist thoughts that separate us ... we are doomed to repeat history and be stuck in a cycle of hate that will never end.

Peace .. to you.

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Answer 4

I am so sick of coming to yahoo Q&A and all i see is racist's question.  All you people, no matter your race get over it.  And stop the worry about what someone else is doing and mind your own business.

Answer 5

I have been Black my whole life and never once called anyone the n word.  It is derogatory.  It was the catch phrase for violence, lynching, degregation and discrimination toward Blacks in this country.  Intelligent people know that and would never try to attach any kind sentiment to the word.  Comics and rappers have tried and failed.  

I don't believe I would resort to violence if someone were defiled by the word, but I wouldn't appreciate it, wouldn't answer to it and the person who uttered the slur would know in no uncertain terms that I was offended.

There is a documentary discussion and history lesson about the word on DVD called "The N Word."  I checked it out of my library recently.  Perhaps you should watch it and then decide whether it is appropriate for your son to view also.  In the meantime, if your son is feeling "hip-hop" tell him to address his friend as "dude, hommie, bro," etc.  He needs to know that while everything is not for everybody,  the n word should be for no one.  

Answer 6

Because to insult one's own race is different than one of a different race doing it  

Honey..it's called a double standard.

example.. black person who has bumper sticker that says "black pride" (That is ok by american standards )  

If I have a sticker that says "white pride"... I will be lucky if I can get home without a bullet going through my window..

DOUBLE STANDARD.  

Answer 7

Depending on how old your son is, I'm sure he did not mean any disrespect - however - that's a touchy subject, always was, always will be - just let him know that word is not appropriate to use...

Answer 8

It is an inside joke. Like if a girl told my friend my thing was small and he kept getting on me about it I would not be mat, it would be out thing. However if a dude that was not in my inner circle who I didn't know very well tried to rib me about it I would be pissed. That is kind of how the "N" word is. Do I personally use this word? Yes, but I WILL NOT get mad at any white person who calls me that directly. If an ignorant white guy come out of the blue and tries to use that word in an attempt to insult me of course I am going to get mad. Just like if I call a white person a "saltine" and/or "cracker". Main point is, if you try to use it to insult me or demean me, of course I am going to get angry.....but I'm a peaceful person, so the situation would have to be really bad before I think about hitting you. An example would be if a white guy tried to do it in front of his white friends, I would have no choice but to hit him in that case......

Answer 9

No one should say it. It's a way of "the man" keeping us seperated

SteveC

Answer 10

If your little story is true and you have not taught your son the difference between a racial slur to another race and an inside joke, you are responsible for his getting punched. As a parent you have a lot to answer for. It sounds like you are exploiting your child and exposing him to potential violence to try to win a losing argument. But probably you are just as empty-headed as that blonde on The View.

Answer 11

They do that because they are in-mature and disgrace to their own race. i am a black person and I can related that they call their own the n word, but if someone outside their race call them the n words, they are offended. I am glad that you called the police.  

Answer 12

i'm black and i can't stand the word at all. why? because the word is meant to be offensive, hateful and ignorant. its meant to hurt someone. so why say it. that's what it means to me. people say its just a word but its not just a word to the people who are offended by it. so why even bother to say it at all.

now i had a white friend who would used the word all the time, (i havent seen her in years!) she didn't fully say it, she said the 'friendly' type: *****, i guess. so we were walking home together and while we were talking, i asked her a question she was like "***** blah blah this and that so and so" and i was like excuse me!! she stopped and said she calls everyone that.but i could tell it just randomly came out of her mouth without thinking, but since she was a close friend, i let it go. i knew she was no where near to being racist, but it was pretty rude.

then i went to a birthday party, they were like really country people and they would say it all the time, they saw me and tried to tell me that they normally say it and that its not to be offensive. that doesn't make it any better.if you see or know that a black person is around and you know you have a habit of saying it, the least you could do is show some respect and keep it to yourself. i was still offended.

but as for black people, they feel comfortable that somebody of their color is saying it back. i think its stupid and immature. if you don't like to be called that name but yet you dont care if someone of the same race calls you that, then dont use the word at all. its stupid, stupid, stupid.

Answer 13

Apparently, we aren't even allowed to use the word "black" as it now considered a derogatory word.  Did you hear on the news how a Dallas commissioner used the term "black hole"?  A black commissioner was immediately offended by the use of this "scientific term" and demanded an apology.  

You can watch the video here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PKkccRmon...

Also, according to him we shouldn't use words like devils food (because it's black) and the "black" sheep in the family because it's derogatory (even though most sheep are white and a black sheep would be an oddity).  You'll see it all in the video.  

Educate yourself.  Don't be a racist.    

Answer 14

Yah it's a problem. It's a degrading word, and the black race (a lot not all) think it's like a word only they can use when in reality nobody should be using it. I never use it and kids in my school use it like you drink water. I never use it and I'll raise my kids not to use it too and yell at anyone who does...they should know better.

Answer 15

All my best friends are black and they wonder the same thing as they refer to each as "dawg" and "buddy".

Answer 16

He got punched?  I hope he called the police and filed charges, that's called assault.

Answer 17

Don't use another person's "inside" words if you don't know them like that.

Setting race aside, knowing a word and using it is two different things.

If you haven't walked in my shoes don't use my words.

While 'He' might be my 'N'

I certainly am not your "N".