A ring and a loser.?

Question

Ok so I was dating this guy for a few months and for our "2 month" anniversary he gave me a ring that I guess was his step dads (that used to be married to his mom) and his step dad gave it to him when they divorced to 'remember' him by. He never wears the ring it was sitting in a drawer. So he gave it to me saying how much he cares and all that good stuff. The ring: I love it, its very unique (gold w/ black and diamonds, I cant tell if they are real or not) and it fits me perfectly. Soon after he gave me the ring things turned for the worst. He just turned into an evil loser jerk. And this guy has no right to be these things because he really has nothing going for him, ive never said that to him though. Im a nice loyal person, so I tried to make it work for a month, UNTIL I found out he was lying to me EVERY DAY. One in particular he said he was going to mexico w/ his family and stayed home to do drugs and party for 4 days all the while claiming in text messeges how he as on the beach etc. So he does not deserve any particularly nice treatment. So obviously we broke up, and now he's asking for the ring back, not only would I like to get opinions on the right thing to do, but the legality of it, if someone GIVES you something then ask's for it back, do you have to give it back. I'd like to at least hang on to it for awhile, because he needs to grow up and learn you dont just GIVE things away and then s***w up and lie and cheat and then get them back when you ask.....

Answer 1

Yes, it is tacky to give someone a gift and then ask for it back, but I still think you should return it to him. It has more meaning to him than it does to you.

Plus, the ring is a probably a constant reminder of him. When you meet someone new, that person probably won't appreciate you wearing a ring that your ex-BF gave you.

Answer 2

Why the h**l would you still want it...?! Just give it back and be done with it. Or pawn it and give him the receipt. Haha. Those are always fun. Or pawn it and tell him where it went so he can go get it. Just be careful - some guys are crazy...

Answer 3

Give the ring back today.  Put it in a padded envelope and mail it back to him.  You need to be done with this guy.  It is understandable that you are angry, you have every right to be.  But it is not up to you to teach him a lesson.  He obviously has a lot of lessons to learn, and is in for some big trouble in his life, acting the way he does.  He's an idiot.  Give the ring back so you are not at fault or connected to him in any way.  He's a loser, and will be lucky if he doesn't end up in jail.  

Answer 4

Give it back, why hold on to something that a loser like that gave you. Holding on to something just to teach someone a lesson isn't right either, I understand that he did you wrong.

Answer 5

I have to wonder why he'd give you a ring that should be "special" to him that early on in a relationship.  However, I would still give the ring back to him.  Why would you want to remember a loser anyway?  True he did give you the ring and that was nice of him but I'd say give it back and move on.

Answer 6

just give it back why would you want to hang on to any memories of him.

and as for teaching him to grow up, you're not his mother - let him go and find yourself a decent guy that respects you.

Answer 7

Give the ring back to him. It obviously has a special meaning to him and he would appreciate it - all you are going to do is look at it and be reminded of what a jerk he is. Why would you want to keep it anyway?

Answer 8

Why would you want to keep a ring from a loser (as you say)?  AND, one that was given to him in good faith by his step dad.  He should have the ring for himself.  Give it back.

Answer 9

You need to take the high road - don't sink to his level, or the only thing he'll "learn" is that you're just as immature as he is. The ring belonged to his step dad and has sentimental value for him. Give it back.

Answer 10

Just give the ring back.

Answer 11

Well, it really depends. Technically, since he gave you the ring as a present, not dependent on a future promise (like an engagement ring) it is yours to do as you like. However, what kind of person do you want to be? Do you want to be a person of integrity? Do you want to be the person who can be depended on to do the right thing, to be the better person? If so, give the ring back.  

Answer 12

I think as far a rings in break ups go, it's only right to give it back.  If he dumped you, it may be ok to hang onto it, but since you dumped him, you should give it back.