A saying during our wedding ceremony for people who have past?

Question

I am working on writing a small saying to put in our ceremony for close family who has recently past. We are not getting married in a church, we are getting married by a JP at a country club. Has anyone written something like this? Where in the ceremony do you usually put this saying?

Answer 1

I am in the same situation, my mom passed away about 8 years ago (will be almost 9 by the time of my wedding) and I had one set of my grandparents pass away 4 months later and within 4 days of each other (!)... so this is what I am going to do...

I am having a page printed up that I'm gonna put in a frame next to a candle (and either on the cake table or by the guest book, I'm not sure yet) and it's gonna say, "This candle is lit in remembrance of all our loved ones that couldn’t be here with us tonight, but are always with us in spirit..." and then I have their names listed below that with their relationship to us.

For instance, at the top of the list is my mother and so I have her name, and then below it in slightly smaller lettering, "~*~Mother of the Bride~*~".... then I have my grandparents listed, with underneath it saying "~*~Grandparents of the Bride~*~"... etc...

I did it this way cuz it's simple and not overbearing, everyone *should* see it, and won't really take away from the joy of the day, like a big speech/reading or something might...

Good luck, hope this helps!

Answer 2

Leave the dead in the cemetary.  This is a wedding and celebration of life, not a memorial service.

Answer 3

Don't dwell on it, but i do not see anything wrong with saying something like "eventhough there are some that couldn't be with us today"  or  "I know he would have wanted to see this"

Answer 4

I haven't done this, but being familiar with the traditional wedding procedure, I would have the minister read it after the "Does anyone object to this union" part. After that, he/she could say something like this: "As we gather today to acknowledge our support and acceptance of this loving union, let us also acknowledge those who have passed into God's presence whose influence and acceptance have greatly influenced the lives of this couple.  "Mary Jones" was a particular beacon in the life of the "Smith" family and her daughter "Jane" in particular, and her loving, approving presence is felt in this moment."

Hope this helps. Best wishes to you, sweetie. Your sentimentality is tender and dear!

Answer 5

I totally feel for you I too am getting married and have lost my mother to bring her into my wedding even though she's not there in body I know her spirit is there.  I put her favourite flower in my bouquet and will have the MC annouce it at the ceremony only my bouquet has this flower and it is apparent it doesn't belong there but that's how I wanted it I want people to notice it.

Something to think about.

Answer 6

I'm burning a candle that I got from Oriental Trading Company.The verse says "For those we loved and lost along the way a candle burns here for them today"

Answer 7

A wedding should be a celebration of lives being joined together, not dwelling on those that have passed.  

By all means, do something special to remember people dear to you who have passed but I would not recommend mentioning it in the ceremony.