A silly question for the Yahoo ladies (and men)?

Question

Why do women always persist in asking their boyfriends/husbands the rather useless question, "Do I look fat" or "Am I getting fat", or any question along those same lines, when they expect the answer to always be "No", regardless of that answer being true or not?

If a women really was interested in knowing whether she was indeed fat or not why can't she just weigh herself on the bathroom scale?

Is there an alternative motive in asking such questions and how would you as a woman react if your partner answered honestly by saying as an example: "yes, you are indeed getting fat, perhaps a few km's on a treadmill wouldn't hurt"?

Answer 1

Because she is not really asking whether you think she is fat, but rather whether you find her attractive. She is asking, not for the truth, but for your opinion of her. Therefore, if you love her, you will always answer positively. If you are not really emotionally attached to her you will tell her the rational truth that yes, she is no longer a slim stick insect and that those last few big macs could have been skipped.

Answer 2

Like Lark, I do not need to ask such questions. Besides a mirror, I can "feel" when my jeans are too tight.

Answer 3

She is basically stating that she knows she is fat and asking whether you have a problem with it and find her less attractive as a result. I never torment or corner my husband with such ‘He can’t win either way’ questions. He always pinches my rolls and says’ that is MY speck’ in the same way that when he pinches or smacks my behind he would say ‘that is MY bottom’. I do not constantly pressure or nag him to tell me he loves me either. I prefer the spontaneous times he pops up with it out of the blue. Or walks in and says ‘Hi lovely.’ I do not understand why woman insist on preparing traps for themselves and their partner that always end up with unnecessary crushed feelings and arguments.

Answer 4

I don't ask my hubby that questions. I already know the answer to that for myself. I have a mirror.

Add: I know I'm heavier than I should be and nothing he says is going to change that. It's not going to make my clothes fit any better if he lies and tells me I'm not fat.

Besides, the last time I mentioned my weight, I got an Orbitrek Platinum exercise machine for Christmas.

Answer 5

we ask BECAUSE men think once they are married they never have to encourage or flatter their wives again ... once the ring is on the finger the romancing ends ... sometimes a girl just wants some positive reinforcement!!!!

Answer 6

haha!!!

Well the LADIES usually ask their husbands, fiances, boyfriends, etc. that when they are feeling low self esteem. So normally they are not fat, they know that, they just want to verbally hear it to make them selves feel better...

If the lady really is fat, I am sure she wouldn't ask that question, because she already knows the answer....

Also, some things make women look bigger and smaller. Like my aunt has this shirt, and she is not FAT at all. But when she put it on she looked chubby. I told her, " you look fat," and she instantly took it off, revealing her not fat body. Some things make you look bigger or smaller. Do you understand now?? Hope I've helped...

Answer 7

Some women need to hear that their boyfriend/husband thinks they're attractive. This could come from lack of attention from the partner, or just plain self-esteem issues. Also, sometimes a woman wants more motivation to lose weight. If her partner says she should lose weight, then that gives her more reason to want to get in shape. However, some may just do it to test their partner. That's just mean :P

Answer 8

Probably just fishing for compliments , there is no correct answer to that question , if you say You are not Fat ,then they say , stop lying i am i know , i can see it , etc (then why ask if you know) If you say yes , then you will probably get a clap...

If you just ignore the question , then you are not listening to them, when they talk..

So its unfortunately a lose, lose situation for us guys...

PS: Im just generalising, i know not all women are like that...

Answer 9

you think liks us guys, women think completely differently

Answer 10

i solved this little dilemma by purchasing some speaking scales. We eagerly unwrapped them and i jumped straight on with the scales announcing "your weight today is 13 stone and 2 pounds"great. My wife eagerly jumped on after me to have the scales announce "one at a time please" ha ha ha

Answer 11

he would be in the "dog house"

Answer 12

I am not asking if I AM fat, just do I look it, and the answer better be no.

Answer 13

should

Answer 14

CORRECT!! She would kno if she was getting fat if she get her fat a** on the scale or if her clothes seems like there shrinkin NEWFLASH LADIES clothes don't shrink(unless washed incorrectly) people gain weight....do ask critical questions unless u can take constructive criticism

Answer 15

I don't have to ask, i can see, feel and my husband tells me if i do gain weight...............it's winter now, so i did not gain any weight, i am wearing more clothes

Answer 16

Because they like to hear you say no.

Women bash on men for being liars but instigate the lies most of the time anyway!

Answer 17

I understand your confusion, but I think the key here is to read or rather listen between the lines.  Most women, when they ask questions like this, are really asking for support or validation--not lies.  A more appropriate and compassionate response might be, "Honey, you look good at any size.  Yeah, you've put on some weight.  If you want to lose the weight, it might be fun for you to join a gym, take an aerobics class, or go speed walking in Central Park."  Be a part of the solution.  Maybe consider exercising with her and working together to change both of your eating habits.  Put downs will just alienate her and maybe even make her eat too much to kill her pain.  She wants to look good for you, but losing weight does not work until the person wants to do it for themselves.

Answer 18

how old are you?are you a man? ask the same question in ten years...