A silly wedding question but advice wanted please?

Question

im getting married to the greatest guy ever and i love him so much and he loves me too :) anyways im 5'3 100 pounds and he is 6'4 260 pounds and we look so silly together i know lol so my question is at our wedding should he have a traditional first dance even though it would look so silly and i cant figure out a way for it to work. neither of us really likes to dance so thats not a problem. its just that im worried that we will look so weird with him being so big and me being so small

any advice on what to do at our wedding about this problem

oh and im already wearing heels as tall as i can walk in

oh and how am i going to be able to kiss him at the ceremony

should i stand on something or have him bend down? what should i do?

please help me lol

thanks :)

Answer 1

As far as the church goes, well you could stand  on a small foot step, just don't trip on your dress.  As far as the first dance, go ahead and start the dance and then have your bridal party join in soon after, so you get lost in the crowd

Answer 2

Don't worry about how you look, do whatever feels right for you. How does he kiss you normally, does he bend down or do you carry around a stool? Dance if you want to, don't if you don't want to. People will see a couple in love. Even if it looks slightly awkward, no one with half a brain will be thinking "Wow, hes just too tall for her, their relationship won't work because they look funny dancing together". Relax!

ADD: It is all about your love, so it will only be awkward if you make it awkward. The people coming to the wedding care about you, if they make fun or think badly then they are just silly.

Answer 3

You guys are not silly at all. In fact you probably look really cute next to him. Dont worry about what you look like and do whatever you guys want, including the 1st dance. Anyone at your wedding who would laugh at you doesn't deserve to be there in the first place.  

Answer 4

my fiance and i are similar heights  I am 5'6'' and he is 6'5''.  i am not sure right now if we will be doing a first dance, but i think we will.  if you want to have the dance, just pick a really short song, or fade it out before it ends.  that way you won't feel like a spectacle for too long.

kiss like you normally do.  he probably bends down to kiss you normally, so it shouldn't be a big deal this time.  you could even start up a romantic evening by telling him you need to practice kiss so you get it just right!  hehe. have fun!

Answer 5

You're exactly like me and my hubby. Me: 5'3, 100 lbs, hubby: 6'3 260lb (so a little short than yours).  Our first dance did not look silly at all.  In fact, my head nuzzled in perfectly on his chest.

As far as the kiss goes....when the minister said you may now kiss the bride, my MOH handed me a step stool (that was painted in our wedding colors).  I stood on that for the kiss.  Our guests thought it was great and it made for some great pictures!  

Answer 6

First off don't worry about how you look together. All that matters is that you're in love and it's your special day. If it really bothers you, what if you had your ceremony outdoors or in a church with steps where you could step up on it to kiss him? http://www.flickr.com/photos/7510361@N02...

http://www.flickr.com/photos/24228439@N0...

As far as the dance goes you can always do non-traditional and dance to something more upbeat. If you go with a traditional dance just make sure that his shoes have a pretty low heel on them. Good Luck!

Answer 7

If you are going to wear heels, you will probably be about 5'6", so it won't be so bad.  He can just lean down like he normally would to kiss you.  Practice a little before.  Do not stand on a stool of any kind!  You really would look silly then!  

Just relax and don't worry about it!  You will both be fine.  

Answer 8

My fiance has been trained how to deal with height differences when hugging by all his short relatives. He figured out how to apply it to kissing too. Have him stand with his legs at least shoulder width apart and bend his knees slightly. He should be able to lower himself to just the right level for a movie-star type difference in heights for your big kiss.

And the dance shouldn't matter - dance holds were developed with the assumption that the lead (the man) is much taller and larger than the follow (the woman). Your arms will be at full extension, but you won't look silly.

Answer 9

it sounds like you are not comfortable with his size?  why is there a problem?  have the 2 of you discussed it?  If you can't dance with him how will you live with him all your life and have to appear together at all family events and other people's weddings?  What about being intimate?  I think you might want to reconsider this marriage.

Answer 10

dont do the dance especially if you guys aren't into dancing anyway.

have him bend down.

Answer 11

YOU SHOULDN'TT WORRY ABOUT WHAT THEY WILWHICHCH I'M SURE IT WONT BE ANYTHING SINCE THEY ALREADY GOT USE TO SEEING YOU TO TOGETHER I THINK YOU SHOULD DO THE DANCE YOU WILL PROBABLY REGRET IT. IF YOU FEEL TO WEIRD ABOUT I YOU SHOULD DANCE A FAST SONG NOT A SLOW ONE. ABOUT THE KISS YOU SHOULD KISS LIKE YOU NORMALLY DO (HE SHOULD GET DOWN) IF YOU STAND ON SOMETHING THAT WOULD LOOK FUNNY  

Answer 12

Two of my very good friends are total physical opposites - she's 4'9" and very "stout" shall we say, and he's 6'5" and very skinny.  They've always been a mismatch between them, but they love each other so much and they're adorable together.

I wouldn't worry about your dance or your kiss - people will think it looks great because you're in love with each other!

Answer 13

If you're going to have dancing at your wedding at all (and no one says you have to), then, yes, you and he should have the traditional first dance.  

I wouldn't worry how you two appear to others as a couple.  The people at the wedding already know how short you are and how tall he is.  They will find you two adorable.

Kiss his at the altar the way you normally do.  People will probably giggle (expect it), but they won't be laughing at you; they will simply be enjoying seeing evidence that you two are in love and happy and so cute together.  Please don't be self conscious or you'll make everyone uncomfortable.  You two are what you are--make light of it and enjoy the big day!  You could even somehow work the idea of "opposites" or "contrasts" into your wedding theme.

Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 14

I had a good friend get married a couple months ago and she is much smaller than her husband.  He picked her up during most of their first dance and it was so cute.  I've included a pic.  It's up to you, but you don't have to do it if you don't want to, or just pick a really short song or have the DJ cut it short.

http://i59.photobucket.com/albums/g284/b...

Answer 15

I also have a height differnce - my fiance is a foot taller than me, so I can relate (except I'm a bit on the round side and he's skinny).

We're going to take dancing lessons before our wedding, and probably dance to a song with a bit of a kick so that we don't have to just dance in circles...

As far as kissing goes, don't you kiss each other standing up all the time?  We always kiss as we go about our daily routines, and I stand on tiptoes, he bends his head a bit, and it feels like we fit perfectly.

It will look beautiful no matter what, because you're in love and will look so happy!

:)  good luck!