A sort of friend was drunk and peed on my couch I had it cleaned, is it ok to ask him to pay for the cleaning?

Question

i also had the other furniture cleaned but would only ask him to pay for the couch portion of the cost. Does that sound fair? How could i phrase it so he will most likely pay me? should i mention that I could tell everyone if he doesnt pay?

Answer 1

So, you want to blackmail a 'sort of friend' to pay you for cleaning costs?

Yes, I think it's well within your boundaries to present him with a bill for your cleaned couch and request that he reimburse you.  Tell him that you'd be willing to accept a payment plan if he doesn't have all the dough at the moment.

Do I think you should threaten to further embarrass him by blabbing to all your mutual friends? No, he's probably embarrassed enough already.  If he fails to pay, consider this lesson learned and don't invite him over again.

Answer 2

He peed on your couch.  You have every right to ask him. If I walk in with muddy shoes and ruin a carpet I'll pay the cleaning bill and still feel guilty.

Just be upfront.

Answer 3

Yes. He's lucky you were able to get it cleaned and aren't asking him to pay for a new sofa.

Answer 4

Yes that sounds fair and any real friend should have no problem reimbursing you --- you're lucky you don't have to buy a new couch!!  

Since you're friends just come out and say it--- just be straight forward and say you know I had to get my couch cleaned because of your little "mishap" and I was wondering if you could pay to clean it?  Keep it simple and kinda make a joke about it ---

Because that incident is embarrassing I wouldn't tell everyone about it but it depends on your friendship, if you want to keep it DONT TELL if you could care less TELL EVERYONE don't leave out the fact that you had to have it cleaned and they didn't pay!!

Answer 5

Isnt it amazing that grown adults do such a thing?! I can see a child... but an adult!?   Unfortunately I've known someone to do this to a family member of mine.  She asked that person for the $$ too... long story short they no longer speak to each other. The person doesnt even remember doing it, and refuses to believe they were THAT drunk. (pathetic huh?)

I would get the couch cleaned. Really its a must regardless. And mail them the invoice. Politely say "Hey, its no big deal, accidents happen, no hard feelings.... but I would appreciate you paying for the cleaning. Its only fair."   If they are an adult about it, they will agree its the right thing to do. But most likely since they are a drunk anyways... they will get mad and you'll be stuck with the bill.  So I suggest not inviting him over again! haha

Good LUck!

Answer 6

Sort of friend, indeed!  Yes, ask him to pay.  He should have offered without you having to ask.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Take him to Judge Judy. No seriously if it was an accident, who cares. If he is a d**k... Sue Him.

Answer 8

Most definitely. A true friend would volunteer to pay for it without you having to ask him.

Answer 9

Just ask him. Tell him you had to get the couch cleaned that he peed on and it cost $? so you would like him to pay for it. If he is too immature to pay for his accident then next time you are all out together i'd tell everyone not to let him crash on their couch because he peed on yours and refused to pay the bill. A mature adult though will pay up and apoligize.

Answer 10

I would approach him and ask him reasonably. Something along the lines of "Look, I know you didn't mean it but you did wee on my couch and I've had to pay to have it clean, so you should contribute. It cost £X.XX" If he flat out refuses then I would consider telling him that you'll tell his friends/girlfriend/parents, and depending on how sensitive he is, saying that you'll wee on his couch if he doesn't reimburse you. It's all about being polite and making a bit of a joke about it at first.