Long has there been a debate as to whether homosexual people are born that way, or if it's a choice they make.
I have my own theory on homosexuality (actually, it's more of a hypothesis) and I was hoping you could tell me what you think of it.
HYPOTHESIS:
I believe homosexuality is a phase that people get "stuck" in.
As children, we are very emotional and sensitive creatures. However, as we grow up into adults we normally develop emotional maturity. In essence, we are less prone to be overtaken by our emotions. We may still feel our emotions (perhaps not as strongly as we did when we were kids), but we don't act out of emotion. Rather, they become like our guidance system to pick up on the vibes of situations and other people.
Some children as they're growing up develop feelings and affinity for people of the same s*x. From a spiritual viewpoint, I think what they're attracted to is what they themselves want to be - rather than it being a genuine sexual attraction to the other person. I think that's where the confusion comes into play. They have strong feelings for a member of the same s*x, and they get confused thinking these are romantic feelings when they are more feelings of wanting to be like that person - on both a physical and emotional level. When this happens, they grow up thinking they're homosexual or g*y. In essence, they stay in this confused emotional state - never transcending it.
I think that as we grow up, we need to learn to transcend our feelings and emotions - to get to the point where we are not ruled by them, but where they serve to guide us. One aspect that we have to realize and overcome is this physical and emotional attraction to members of the same s*x. Rather than permanently giving into it, we have to realize (and perhaps be taught) that it's a phase that we will outgrow and not to bask in the emotional delights of this phase. We need to learn as children growing up not to seek to acquire the focus of our homosexual attraction, but rather strive to become it. By doing so, we can then later gain the attraction of members of the OPPOSITE s*x. In other words, if you have strong romantic feelings for a member of the same s*x - strive to become the best qualities of that person. When young people look up to role models of the same s*x, they must not get confused that they desire them sexually, but rather to become like them. In essence, when they are having sexual feelings for a member of the same s*x, they are seeing that person (usually an older and more mature person) from the viewpoint of the opposite s*x. For example, a boy who is "sexually attracted" to an older boy or man is seeing their best qualities from the viewpoint of a female. So, it is this state of confusion that I believe perpetuates homosexuality. As a further example, g*y men who are very effeminate are often times very flamboyant and animated - it's as if their entire being (the manner in which they talk and act) is purely emotional - which is a characteristic found more in females compared to males.
From a biological standpoint, homosexuality does not make sense. You need a man and a woman to reproduce. I realize s*x has become less about procreation and more about sensuality and fun. However, when it comes down to the basics you need male and female.
My hypothesis pertains mainly to "true homosexuality". There are other sub-categories such as bi-sexual people, and the homosexual activity you may see between two pornography actresses. These sub-categories I don't classify as "true homosexuality" as it's often times more kinky activity rather than the essence of their being (e.g. - a woman may agree to a threesome with another woman to please her man or p**n actresses who engage in a L*****n scene may be motivated by other things like money and fame). "True homosexuality" I'm classifying as genuine sexual attraction for members of the same s*x and living your life actively in accordance to this direction.
Another note is that some homosexual people are openly g*y - they don't hide it; sometimes they even flaunt it. However, other homosexual people are "in the closet". Usually, because of social stigma, these individuals will not outrightly express their homosexuality to the outer world.
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