A very important question for young, independent mothers.?

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A very important question for young, independent mothers.?

This question is for those who knew that living on your own and supporting a child would be hard but decided to do it anyway. Why wasn't free rent, moral support, free food, and financial help enough to make you stay? Please don't think that I am judging you I am not. I am actually this type of mother. even though staying a thome with my dad would have been the best choice it is not the choice I decided to make. No things aren't easy, yes I do work, go to school, and raise my baby. The father and I are still together but we are both in college, and well of course it takes a degree to have a decent life. My reasons may sound crazy but they were MY reasons. I'm just interested in knowing everyone elses. My mom was a single woman on welfare with 3 daughters. She moved out of her parents house, went to school, payed her rent. yes she got government assistance but now she has 2 degrees and owns her own business. It wasn't easy but it was done. What made you choose to struggle?

Answer 1

I lived on my own when my son turned two, went to night high school, and lived on government assistance.  (I did graduate).

I moved out because it was too hard having my parents scold me in front of my son.  I felt like I couldn't be a real parent when I was getting reprimanded in front of my son.  

I moved back in with my parents a couple years later.  Now I work on establishing a parent and child relationship with my son because we are more like siblings right now.  We are doing good.

Answer 2

I chose to be on my own because once you have a child, its time to grow up. That includes paying rent and taking care of YOUR child on YOUR OWN...

Answer 3

What made me choose to struggle? I'm not sure I had a choice. While I am still with the father of my baby (we live together), he was laid off right before I found out I was pregnant. When I found out I was pregnant I was placed on food stamps, medicaid, and WIC. I work part-time and am in school full-time trying to get my 4-year degree. Even with an associates degree it is hard to find a good job and sometimes I am embarrassed to receive government help, but then again that's why the system is in place.

As women we do what we feel is best for our child & sometimes struggling to make a home for your baby is necessary even it you are receiving benifits from the government. Good luck with your education b/c in this day & age you need it.

Answer 4

My thoughts were, This is my child not my mothers, she did her job with me.  I was the one stupid enuf to have a baby at a young age it was time for me to take resposibility.  I live in a small town and most of the young mothers would show off their babys but as far as taking care of them it was up to there mothers, yes I knew some grandma's with brain cancer taking care of 3 of 4 grandchildren.  It just is not right.

As for struggling every has to, it helps you grow and learn and become a better person