A very important question???

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Hi All!

Well my boyfriend proposed to me last night. Problem is his divorce is not final. His ex is contesting it. She still wants him back. She has been stalking us well just me by slashing my tires, chasing me through our town and telling everyone that I am a s**t and a whroe.

How can my future husband divorece this nutcase quick?

Answer 1

why r u in contact with a married man?i think u MUST NOT think about ur together life.........

Answer 2

i would tell him no wedding or discussion of engagement till his divorce is final. that will give some time for things to cool off. if you guys are really in love it's worth the wait.

you may already be doomed... what kind of guy starts dating when he's not even divorce?? ask yourself that. AND why would you want to be dating a married guy??

Answer 3

I have to agree with Alexis! You are putting yourself in the middle of a marriage that is not your own - something that no one has any business being in!  Wait until he is free to come to you as a single man, not a married one, then decide your future. He may be great to you, but there is a reason there is a divorce in progress and as the saying goes - 'it takes two...'!

You are saying how his wife is treating you - think about it from her end. If you were married to this 'great man' and he was going around publicly with another woman, would you be gracious? would you step aside without a fight? Granted she is going to some extremes, but she's fighting for someone she loves too.

Answer 4

first of all I read your last post and YA said they were taking a breather...anyway I think you need to get a restraining order against her and that way she has to leave you alone or get arrested.. second... Your BF can only go as fast as the court allows with the divorce.. he needs to talk to his attorney and let him know his ex's behavior.

Answer 5

Maybe you should totally rethink the situation and get a whole new guy, just think about how bad it could get if you brought children into it.

Answer 6

Get a restraining order. Just write down everything he's been doing and the court should approve it

Answer 7

This isn't the answer you'll want to hear, but he is still married to his wife. Naturally, she'd be angry. If I were you, I'd back off until they get they're own lives straightened out. If they really can't make their marriage work, then she will grant him a divorce. But, honey, you are adding fuel to the fire. Back off, at least for now, and when he's free, which may be sooner than you think, if he's in love with you, he'll be back at your door.

Answer 8

Are you kidding me?  You are seeing a married man and don't understand why his wife is upset?  If you don't want the town to think you are a s**t and a w***e, don't behave like one.

Why would you want to marry an adulterer anyway?

Get a clue.

Answer 9

He shouldn't have proposed if his divorce isn't final.