A wife gained 15 kgs in weight . does the husband have the right to ask her to lose weight ?

Question

he stops her from eating the dishes she likes .

what is your comment ?

Answer 1

Yes, he has the right to ask it.

She also has the right to LEAVE HIM for taking food away from her like that and treating her disrespectfully like a child.

He should instead continue to love her no matter what her size. But for the sake of her h.e.a.l.t.h ENCOURAGE her to go to the gym, each less carbs, cook more balanced meals and eat smaller portions.

Answer 2

She has the freedom to do what she wants, but he should give her his advice , and with a good wise way , he can help her to loose weight , like share with her some sports and walk with her , and bring her healthy food,

Answer 3

Here in Texas we would be afraid that we made her pregnant while we were drunk

Answer 4

no, he should love you the way u are.

Answer 5

shame shame shame on him , you are to love someone for who they are not what they look like

Answer 6

It seems to me that he goes too far. He has no right to force his wife to do anything but on the other hand, she also has to bear the consequences of change because she is, voluntarily, no more the woman he married, who took care of her looks and cared about her image in his eyes.

Let's not be biased... It goes both ways. I would not like it if I marry a handsome man and later he turns into an ugly, fat, shabby person. I might still love him but he would definitely not be as a pleasant as before.

Same thing goes for a pretty, elegant woman who after marriage changes into a ragged housewife and that's it!

But that case only applies to matters that we CAN change, such as the way we dress, the way we maintain our looks, including losing weight, basically the same things we used to do before we got married. This definitely does not go for getting fat because of not losing birth-weight yet, does not go for getting older, for not being as pretty/handsome because of an accident etc etc.

Answer 7

I think he has to convince her of doing something about it. He practically can't enforce her to not eat the dishes she likes because even if he did, she can still get fatter..

Answer 8

he can ask but it does not mean you have to loose the weight.

It is up to you to loose the weight......

He can not tell you what to eat and when to eat......

Answer 9

Uhh....

Who they are includes what they look like.

If she becomes sexually unappealing, then don't be surprised if the s*x life comes to a sudden halt and the marriage starts to crumble.

Of course the husband has the right to ask her to lose weight.  It's just a question, not a demand.  And seeing as how it's 33 pounds, why has the wife not done anything about it?

Sure, your husband loves you, but the physical attraction is needed to compliment the emotional one.  If you gained 33 pounds without consulting your husband first, then he has all the right in the world to ask you to lose the weight.

On top of losing attractiveness, think about your health.  Gaining 33 pounds is never healthy, and the fact that he stops you from eating the dishes that you like may in turn save your life one day.

Answer 10

stop her no way he can tell her try to loose some weight try dr. or gym or something like that but stop her no way but let me tell u something is he was serious? may be he was joking and she see it dramatic cause he talk with her about gaining weight so she became so sensitive that was another side of the story

Answer 11

i think 15 kilos is alot and when u get married u owe a duty (husband to their wives as well) to look reasonably good, so if a wife knows that she gained 15 kilos she should try and lose it cuz even if her husband is cool with it she is selfconsscious about it and will probably make her husband uncomfortable, and if a husband wants his wife to lose the weight, instead of putting her down, work together, diet together, exercise together, motivate one another and u will grow closer

Answer 12

Not the way you mentioned by stopping her from eating things she like :):)

But you need to understand that if he asks her to lose weight it is only because he wants to see her in the best shape possible.

No one can force anyone to lose weight (except sport professional of course). But when you love your husband or wife you always want to see him in good shape.

My wife for example is helping me lose weight by cooking healthy dishes and encouraging me to go to the Gym (yesterday she said "2oom ro7 el-Gym, balash Dala3" loool). I also try to encourage her to do some exercises (but she doesn't like sports). Things like that I mean not by force of course.

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Answer 13

That is misogynist behaviour of the worst kind. If she puts up with that she should be disappointed in herself. No-one, least of all someone's husband, has the right to 'ask (anybody) to lose weight'. He should be ashamed of himself.

Answer 14

He has the right to ask her anything he want, If  she's confident with her weight then she has the right to stay that way. Dont let anyone bring you down with negativity. Love yourself for you, and if he loves you it shouldnt matter how much weight you've gained!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 15

yes, he have the right to ask her....

but stopping her.... i don't know

i think it's dangerous...she may bite him,,,lol

Answer 16

That's ridiculous. No one has the right to force another person to do ANYTHING. I think the guy is selfish and callus, and she should really think about spending her life with a person that is willing to put her through mental and emotional strain because he's not happy with how she looks.

Answer 17

Hello Moonrise,

While its certainly appropriate for a hubby to be concerned about his wife's health and wellbeing.Asking her to loose weight for his own selfish reasons is insenstive and totally controlling.

No one has the right to control anyone else,he should lovingly advise her and encourage her to eat healthier,ask her to go for walks and take up an active hobby with her.There are a variety of issues that can cause weight gain such as an underactive thyroid or hormonal imbalance.And hubby needs to be involved/supportive,but non judgemental and loving.

Listen don't Control!

~Tarre

Answer 18

I think yes his right on one condition which is if he became bald after marriage she has the right too to ask for his hair back !!!

I dunno why men think that its there right to have everything and giving nothing back.

A man may divorce his wife for gaining weight, for dying her hair...etc but when we talk about him he says "am a man" !!!

For ur question: yes its his right to DISCUSS the matter with her but not to stop her.

Men want whatever they want at the time they want !!