A woman living as a submissive in a dom/sub relationship, does that exclude her from feminism....?

Question

in your eyes?

I don't believe so just because feminism for me is the ideal that any woman can make her own choices without being condemned for them.

Answer 1

OMG rio BDSM is not just about being in the bedroom educate yourself! im in a bdsm relationship with my husband and I am not a feminist for myself but I am for other women because it IS a choice. I am sure one can be submissive and a feminist even though im not I think my place is to serve my husband and if someone else does not like it thats jsut fine.

Answer 2

Nope. I am a very empowered woman in a dedicated sub/Dom relationship where I am submissive. I make my own living, have my own opinions, and live my own life.

I chose to submit to my Master, and I chose to do so in the ways that I was comfortable with.

It seems to me that the submissive controls the relationship on an internal level more than the Dominant.

Answer 3

You summed it up rather succinctly when you stated that feminism was about allowing women choices.

I would have to wonder what events may have influenced that person into identifying with this particular lifestyle This knowledge would be interesting in understanding why certain people feel the need to be considered less than another.

Answer 4

Tell both of these people to get a life.

Answer 5

No. What happens in bed, stays in bed.

Answer 6

Not at all, the whole point of feminism has been to allow women choices in what to do with their lives.  If they knowingly and with intent choose to enter into a D/s lifestyle than they are practicing feminism.  

I will freely admit that I don't understand the appeal of living a D/s lifestyle...bedroom games I get, taking it outside the bedroom not so much.  The wonderful thing about it is that I don't have to understand the appeal.  One of the graduate assistants in the Women's Studies program during college was/is a lifestyle sub.  She wasn't shy about it and she didn't try to hide what she did when she left work, but she didn't flaunt it either (that had more to do with where we lived than where we worked).

Answer 7

Not at all, it's about the freedom of choice so if you choose to be submissive that's fine.

Answer 8

I agree with your vision of feminism.  Yes, a woman should be allowed to make choices with being condemned, even if that means choosing to be in a submissive relationship.  Oftentimes, while the woman may be submissive in the relationship, she is not submissive elsewhere or in other parts of her life.  But regardless, it should be her choice and she should not be looked down on because of it.

I really like your description of feminism, very well said.

Answer 9

there are a few feminists here who don't recognize subs as adults.

funny thing is, the girls who want the lifestyle and the games are usually the strongest people you could ever meet, and i love them for it.

Answer 10

Nope. Feminism is about choice.

As long as nobody is forcing you or being a sub makes you feel like c**p, it's okay.

Answer 11

That  would  be  up  to  her  Master .

Answer 12

It probably does because if the Dom is against feminism then it will not exist in the relationship,If the Dom is for it then it will exist. I do not see a male Dom wanting this.

Answer 13

That depends on the rules of the relationship. The rules that were discussed, any contracts that were signed.

Things the sub is allowed to do and things that the sub is now allowed to do, and is required to do etc.

Answer 14

Not unless she believed *all* women should be submissive.

Answer 15

Not at all. D/s is a personal dynamic, whereas feminism (or equalism) is a social belief about choice for all women.

I don't think D/s relationships are actually unequal, because they are entered into of our own free will, and the submissive sets the limits and boundaries. There is mutual respect between the Dom and sub, and it can be very fulfilling for both people. It wouldn't work for everyone, which is precisely why I believe in the freedom to choose.

A woman who condemns another woman for choosing to submit cannot really call herself a feminist.

Great question!