A young Adult mother.?

Question

Okay. Lets see how i can explain this. If I am or someone is a young adult mother less than 16 or is in preganancy?. What would you do.? Would you be as a mother/grandmother, father/grandfather to help your daughter/son who is having a baby or is there baby , babysitt the child? Would you let the your daughter/son stay at home or move in with boyfriend/girlfriend??

Answer 1

it depended on the situation. If i felt that my daughter was mature enough to live with her boyfriend then i would let her or just let him move in with.

Yeah i would babysit, it would be by grandchild.

Answer 2

it depends on the maturity level of the mother, as far as babysitting goes, I don't know one grandmother who wouldn't babysit their grandchild regarless of their daughters/mothers age.  During the preg you will get a lot more criticism from everyone than when the child gets here mainly bcuz of the age factor.  I am a mother and I have never been in that situation, at least the age factor, but when i got preg i was still living at home practically and I was unwed and not engaged, but if I was the mom in this situation I would hope my child would stay at home with me for a little while, if she was wanting to move out with her boyfriend that is in no doubt 100 percent to my knowledge the babys father, and I liked him from the getgo and I feel that she and he are completely capable of affording it and providing their child with a stable and happy home life then yes(which I highly doubt these days, but it could happen), but if I never really cared for the guy, meaning if I didn't think he treated you right or there was a significant age difference that I did not approve of(age is a tough one for me considering I always went for the older guys and now that I'm a parent if mine goes that way not sure what I will do!!but I am still with the same man an we are a very happy family, just thought i would add that in case it is an age thing, it can be done) and I just didn't think you would make it I would say no!  keep in mind given the fact that you or this person you are talking about is 16 that they/you basically have no say if it goes to the courts, even if it is their child, because of the fact that they/you are/is a minor, your mom can basically go as far as, if you threaten to move out or do, trying her damndest to get custody, and 9 times out of 10 she will get it because of the way the system works, I know of so many cases where the mom does nothing but lie about simple stuff that she does NOT have proof of and win, no matter what the situation is, it is almost always mothers word over child, especially if the child is a minor.  yes the system sux, at least i think it does it so many more ways than just this!  If this person that you are talking about wants to move out and be with their bf and child I would suggest rethinking especially if you think your mom would go this far and if you have no evidence to prove (as in no questions asked) that your mom is unfit to do so.  I do not know this situation, I tried to answer this as best as I could (and by the way i interprutted the ?) but keep in mind your mom is doing what she feels is best for you and most of the time moms are right, and given the fact that this person is 16, I highly doubt you/they are ready to move out on their own let alone raise a child on your own.  People who are 30 years old having their first child will even tell you they aren't ready to have a child even though they have had a job for 10 years and own their own house, it's not just about giving a child somewhere to live, food to eat and clothes for them to wear.  It's about loving, and protecting, and teaching respect, and right from wrong, setting an example, making sure that child is safe,  and soooooooo much more.  I am not able to be contacted but if you want to speak to me about this further, you can go on my fan list and i'll contact you or I have a myspace acct that you can get on etc just let me know somehow.......and good luck to you in life or whomever this person is that you are speaking about!  I could be way off track but there was so many circumstances in this ? and I answered it as best as could!!  lol, I kno this is long but I read the ? again and realized the situation could also be the mom not allowing/wanting their child to live with them because of the mistake/s she has made, that in my eyes is totally wrong, no body is perfect!!!!  Your child is going to do so many wrong things that you completely and utterly disagree with however, choosing to not deal with it or push them away is the worst thing a mother could do(when it comes to this situation, crime violence drugs etc is very different--you can only help someone if they want to help themselves).  So if that is what is happening, there is so many ppl that could help you n this situation, and you can get gov't help (s***w what ppl say about gov't help if they don't know the situation) if you have no choice but to move out on your own there is so many people, organizations etc that can help you.  also keep in mind that your mom isn't necessarily being mean to you, she might not know what to do and this just may be the only way she knows how to act and eventually I think she will come around and realize she was wrong.