AAAARRGHHH under pressure to smack?

Question

I have a 2 yr old boy - i don't smack - it's just not in me, I use time out, naughty step etc and he responds well to this. Granny had him for a day and smacked him on hand. I'm raging!!!! What would you do about this? She also says that smacking is ok and that my boy needs a smack. I think smacking is aggressive and destructive and i'm sick of people hinting I should be doing it. I need a quick one-liner retort when people suggest i smack - any ideas? Something that will shut them up!!!!!!

Answer 1

First off, I don't think my child would be spending time alone with granny any longer, if she chooses to hit him.  

Next, I think you might do well to take some time researching parenting principles, especially when it comes to spanking/non-spanking, so that you can become simply confident when having conversations regarding the issue.  Calm, secure confidence will quiet arguments quicker than witty retorts.  

Answer 2

He is your son, if anybody is going to spank it should be you or husband. Likely tell Granny that you will discipline him yourself in own your way and you will take spanking him into consideration. But if she sees him doing something he shouldn't be doing or saying, she is to bring it to your attention and you will handle it. This may give her the hint to back off.

Answer 3

he deserve it.   It didn't put him in the hospital?

Answer 4

what you chose to do to your children is your own....i chose not to smack.

or

well did you smack your children? (yes) well a fat load of help that made!  

Answer 5

dont know a good one liner im not good at that sort of thing!

but i agree that if you dont agree with smacking then no one should smack your son, i believe a slight tap on the hand or bottom doesnt harm, but every one has their own views and i think people who look after your son should respect your views!!

tell her that if she doesnt respect your way of discipline for your son then you wont be asking her to babysit again, it may sound harsh but she needs to know your serious

Answer 6

tell granny it is your decision not hers on how you raise your kids and that she should respect that

if he responds well to the punishments you already use then why smack?

Answer 7

You don't need to say anything... just smack them back! LOL

Anyways, I would just say "Go raise your own kids!" or, in the case of Granny, who OBVIOUSLY raised a kid or two...

"Look... You had your chance.  You be the Grandma now and spoil him rotten and I'll take care of the parenting."  

That's what I told my parents, and it hasn't been an issue since!  

Answer 8

'put your hands on my kids? I'll put my hands on you'.

When your child is in bed tonight call her up and tell her if she hits your child again she will never see him again, simple as. No one has the right to hit your child, however gently ('it's just a tap'- well whats the point then?) If anyone hit my kids they would live to regret it.

Answer 9

Though i'm no fan of smacking and spanking, sometimes it has its place. My children are usually pretty well behaved so I have only had to resort to that a very few times. Once when my son bit me, and my own instinct  to pain was to wack him. Maybe you could suggest "well if you ran a red light, would it be appropriate for a police officer to pull you over and smack you?"  Like I said I'm torn, look at how terribly ALOT of children behave these days, compared to 30 years ago, kids nowadays know they got power over us too.

Answer 10

I dont believe in smacking either and will never hit my daughter and i willmake it clear to grandparents etc that if she is naughty and im not there tell me and i will deal with it and def not to smack her...If my mam or hubbys mam or anyone else for that matter hit my daughter they would never see her again as they have no right to hit her and it will sure of h**l hurt them more knowing they done wrong. If ppl hint to me that my daughter needs smacking il tell them smackin is abuse and i dont intend of abusing my daughter in any way and thats that!!  

Answer 11

I guess what I'd probably say is, "Why?  So I can teach him to be afraid of me?"   or, "Do you really think I want my son to think its OK to bully others?"

However, don't count on that to shut them up!

I tell you one thing, if he were my child, he would spend NO MORE unsupervised time with Granny...if she cannot respect your parenting choices, she would have supervised visits, only.  And I would be very clear about WHY she could no longer have time alone with the boy.