ADHD in a 6 year old boy?

Question

I need some help here. My son has been diagnosed with probable ADHD, we are just waiting for the last bit of formalized testing. We are discussing meds with his doctor, but I do not know what to do anymore. He is out of control at school, he is fighting with his friends, he has been pooping his pants quite frequently (10 times in the last 3 days). He doesn't listen to me, he fights me on everything. I feel like I cannot handle it. I have been in contact with the different agencies in my area, and they are all pushing the meds for him. I have no problem with putting him on meds if he needs it, but I feel that is his dr's call. My question is what do I do to create some calm in my house? He has a younger brother and a baby sister, and it seems like all I do is yell at him and be angry with him. He is such a good kid that when he does this, I don't know how to handle it anymore.

Answer 1

He's pooping his pants as part of acting out?!  That seems a bit bizarre.  Sounds like if it is a disorder, then it is more serious than ADHD.    He has a lot of uncontrollable rage.  Medication should help, but he will also need CONSISTENCY in discipline and a very structured environment.    I agree that a proper nutritional diet would be helpful as well.  (Does he have allergies?  Sometimes that leads to acting out because of the way they feel.)

When medicating, you don't want to make him a zombie, so you'll have to monitor his behavior for the first few weeks or months. You may need to work with a counselor too.   If I were you, I'd read everything I could get my hands on regarding ADHD - - - especially the more severe cases of it.  It will give you ideas on how to handle his behavior and understand him so much better.

My son was diagnosed with ADHD at age 7.  He wasn't quite as severe as your son.  Ritalin was used for the first year, but I didn't like the side effects.  Then the doctor switched him to Dexidrine, which worked beautifully for him at a low dose for several years.  By 8th grade, he could focus and do well without the medication.    By high school he was a model child.  He has blessed my life more than I could ever imagine he could.  He is now almost 22 and an honor student in college.   His ADHD is still there - - - and only recently has he considered going back on the medication because of the stress of trying to stay focused on his studies.  There's so much pressure in the field of study he is in.

But I just wanted to let you know that it does get better.  Just do your best to have patience.  Be consistent.   Discipline him, yes.  But going overboard with it won't help him.  Sometimes I look back and regret how hard my husband and I were with the spanking.  Sometimes,  just take him to a movie, just you and him, so that he can have some one-on-one attention.    Give him a big hug and kiss everyday.      Keep a journal, so that you too, can look back on these years and rejoice that you and he made it through them.  He will appreciate you and love you for it more than you'll ever know.

Answer 2

Don't pay any attention to "aneeda" post or "richard" post. I think these type of people come on answers just to p**s others off.

As far as parents of children with ADHD, ADD, ODD...you are definately not lazy, it takes a lot of work and energy to care for these children.

You just need to hang in there until the results come back. But if your son does have ADHD there is very little you can do to "create calm" in your house until treatment starts.If the doc feel meds will help then most definately try them. You may see a 180 degree turn in your son...also family counseling may help as well. See if you can find a support group in your area, you will find many other parents in the same situation. Don't give up....there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Answer 3

Hi, sorry to hear about all the upheavals going on in your home right now. While waiting for the doctor's diagnosis to come out, I suggest you try taking ADHD diet for a spin and see whether it works on your kid. Some scientists strongly believe that an ADHD diet works as treatment for ADHD because we are what we eat, as the old saying goes. You can get info on ADHD diet from this site:

http://www.adhdquestionsandanswers.com/A...

Do take a look around the site because all the information inside are about ADHD, such as ADHD vitamins, people with ADHD, and dealing with ADHD.

I wish your family good health and peacefulness in all aspects. May you have a good day.

Answer 4

im 17 and i have it. i also have a little brother and sister. me and my mom have never gotten along. i hope yalls reltionship is better but ours is terrible we have fought consitantly for years. the medicine is a good idea though because when i stopped taking mine i noticed a significant difference in my ability to concentrate at school.

Answer 5

Don't listen  to any of these fuktards. Excuse my language. My little brother who is six and a boy has been diagnosed with ADHD, ADD, OCD, and high-functioning autism. My family and I treat him like a normal kid but harsher. And although it may seem like you are being hard on him, you aren't, you just have to pay a LOT of attention and that's normal for you. I hope this helps :)

Answer 6

ADHD is bull.  Take control, don't back down, and don't show fear when you confront him.  Be persistent and he'll get the idea you're not s******g around with him.

Answer 7

Wait for your doctor to make the decision on the meds. Disicpline him when he does this. ADHD is NO excuse for his behavior and if you discipline him, he will stop.

Answer 8

MY BROTHER WAS DIAGNOSED WITH IT A AGE 3 AND HER WAS CRAZY THEY PUT HIM ON A REALLY HIGH DOSE OF IT AT FIRST AND HAVE LOWERED IT EVERY YEAR  BUT BEFORE THAT HE WOULD DO THE SAME THING YOUR SON DOES STILL TO THIS DAY HE IS STILL VERY INPATIENT BUT IF U TALK TO HIM CALMING AND DO NOT PUSH  HE DOES JUST FINE NOW HE IS 12 AND IS GROWING OUT OF IT  HE IS NOW AT THE SAME LEVEL AS HIS CLASSMATES IT TOOK HIM AWHILE  AND ALOT OF WORK SORRY IF I AM TELLING U HIS WHOLE LIFE STORY BUT THATS JUST HOW IT IS

Answer 9

it really depends on the methods of discipline that you are using for him. from what you have talked about it sounds more than just ADHD but like you said the testing isnt finished and its the doctors call.

in the meantime set up a daily schedule for him and dont change it. set up rules and boundries and the consequences for them being broken and dont change them. instant consequence for the action no negotiations.

it may help to sit him down and the family decides the rules and consequences and have it apply to the smaller ones also.

try when you ask him to do something if he refuses then give him choices on (controlled by you choices) so that he feels he has the power of making his own decisions. its ok if he chooses the wrong choice but he still has to do the consequence of his choice and that is called taking responsibility for your actions.

it will be hard at first becuase its a new routine but these type of kids need badly consistant routine. you have a special child therefor you will need special techniques to assist him in life.

look at his diet also. lots of water, vegetables and some peanut butter. cut back on the cokes with caffeine except in the morning, sometimes a stimulant to a normal person has the oppisate effect on these kids.

I hope at least some of this has helped and good luck to you

Answer 10

Generally doctors don't know sh** . There is probably something wrong ,but dont expect doctors to figure it out They make money pushing drugs. Some schools make a lot of money pushing drugs. They are not interested in a real diagnosis. Check for allergies  and  no sh<< in the diet