ADHD is there some you out there that has ADHD?

Question

My 10yr has ADHD and has been having a real hard time making and keeping friends. He lets other children take advantage of him just so they will be his friends. I would love for anyone out there that has this disability to answer for him how they are able to work around there disability and make friends. Please answer in a simple response because I am going to let him read the responses and see if there is someone who can help him. He's a great kid and very smart. But right now he very lonley and I feel bad for him....Answer community help me out with this......

Answer 1

my son is 9.  he thinks if he gives a friend a toy he will stay.  But I told him a true friend won't need a bribe. He cries sometimes and I do feel bad because he too is a great kid.  He is in a program that is geared towards ADHD kids and teaches them social skills he loves it.  Also it gives him a chance to make friends with kids that face similar problems.

Answer 2

I don't have ADHD anymore, I have adult ADD because I lost my hyper energy as I got older but I still can't pay attention to many things.  I had a hard time making friends just because they thought I was ignoring them.  I was also very shy because I felt so dumb because of the attention thing so that affected things as well.  My son now may have ADHD he is being looked at for it and while he does have friends they are mostly his cousins and they fight like crazy.  He is so hyper that he can be mean without really doing it on purpose, with ADHD they just lack the impulse control to know when to stop.  I have never known an ADHD child to let his "friends" take advantage of him though because usually the child with ADHD walks all over his/her friends not really knowing that they are being mean.  What does your sons councler say about the friends thing?  Are they working on that issue in therapy?  Is your son on meds for his ADHD?  There are other social disorders that can go along with ADHD and it is possible that is what is going on, that it isn't just the ADHD.  My boyfriends 6 year old is being looked at for other problems because he is ADHD and bipolar but he has been having some social problems and they see possible markers for other disorders so he is going through some more testing I guess to see if they can pinpoint the exact problem to help him better in therapy.

Answer 3

I was diagnosed ADHD as a kid(probably 9-10yrs old)  I was prescribed Ritilin?  I also rolled with the punches so to say with friends.  But I think that I weeded through and realized some of them actually did like me and there were ones that werent there for my best interest I guess. I was involved in organized sports like Soccer.  I had a great time and got to interact with kids even if it was a weekend and practice thing only.  

Hope this isnt to all over and something informative atleast.  Be yourself lil buddy...They meaning probably anyone will be willing to enjoy time with you and have fun.

p.s.  My mother took me off meds shortly after saying my attention span had gotten worse and that I was almost Zombie like.  I also hada  growth spurt of sorts after being removed from meds like 4" in a short period.

Answer 4

OK I myself have or had ADHD when I was a kid. It was hard for me to overcome my obstacles growing up. I had a tough time in school and it was hard for me to stay focused in school and i would act up a lot in class. I had some trouble finding and keeping friends and a lot of times I would give away my snack money or lunch to my other classmates in order to maintain a friendship bond with them. I had several fights and gotten picked on until the day I gotten kicked out of high school and went to a military high school. I then joined the military at the age of 17. I am now 25 with 8 years in the military. I have made the rank of a Noncomissioned Officer (E5). I have lots of friends now and my soldiers think that I am a great leader. All I can say is be your self and don't worry about what other people say about you. Be confident and stride to be the best you can be in whatever you do. PS chicks dig confidence.

Answer 5

Please purchase and read the book called, "Allergies and the Hyperactive Child", by Dr. Doris Rapp. This book is available through used online booksites and invaluable in helping parents of children with ADHD. This book may be of some value to you and your son if you find he responds to various foods negatively. Some foods can have very nasty effects, especially common foods such as peanut products, wheat, milk, etc. There is a test called the Alcat test that may be helpful, but the book is very telling. I would recommend you find it and read it all the way through.

Children with ADHD are often good leaders, so if your son can have some sort of things he can do in school that involve responsibility, that may be of some help. Tell him that Thomas Edison was considered to be ADHD - a brilliant inventor.

Answer 6

He needs to learn skills such as recognising people's feelings, saying positive things, sharing stuff and be assertive NOT aggressive.

To hone positive speaking, your kid has to ask himself what are the positive stuff he likes others to say to him. Then use it to say it to others. Example:

1. Comment about their dressing

2. Say something nice when they achieved succes in something.

3. Invite them to play games.

4. Share stuff with friends.

5. Be nice and sensitive when friends are upset.

Your kid also needs to look approachable and constantly stay in touch with friends. Things he can do:

1. Smile often, and people think you are friendly.

2. Talk to your friends at least once every other day.

3. When your friends are talking, look them in the eye. Never look elsewhere as they would think you are not listening.

4. Be kind and considerate.

When learning these skills, you must practice PATIENCE and PERSEVERANCE. Be aware that like all skills, it takes time to nurture it. But if you work on it, you will eventually be able to master it.

Good luck.

Hi kiddo, give your mommy and daddy lots of kisses and love every day and the positive effects you will receive back will be magnified many folds.

Answer 7

I have it or had I'm not so hyper anymore(ADD). It would be better not to tell so many people, not everyone understands. Having ADHD doesn't make you any different. He shouldn't let anyone make him feel bad. I was also on Ritalin and my mother did not like the effect it had on me. I still had friends even after my diagnosis which was made in elementary school  we are all in college now and are still friends. You just have to find the right crowd. Fifth graders are a bit shady even i you aren't what people call "different".