***ADULT MATERIAL*** Who is responsible for a BR goof?

Question

My bf and I were in bed.

Let's say I gave about 20 minutes of prep work, had to, um, direct his hand for about 3. Sure enough, during the main event, he was as my friends have dubbed it, a "three thrust wonder," unusual for him.

After, he made no offers to, shall we say, bring me up to speed. I then had to do a do-it-yourself job and received no offer to assist.

Is it up to me to demand equal treatment, or was he being ungentlemanly and it was his responsibility?

Answer 1

Yeah he was being selfish and should have at least tried to please you for 20 min.

Answer 2

Honestly, why even waste time and energy especially if this happens often, on a man who can`t please you. If your brutally honest and he doesn`t try to change at all, he is selfish and you should move onto to another guy who can please you sexually,physically and mentally (or maybe just sexually) Toys are fun, but it`s better to have the real thing that is up to the task and performs well.

Answer 3

Hes just not a giver, so ask for it... stop being so dramatic.. not every guy wants to eat out a girl on there own free will.  

Answer 4

Sounds like you have problems right there - "he says he sees it as a more serious relationship, I am more into it for physical reasons & a few other benefits".  You aren't even on the same page for the relationship!  

Obviously your communication is lacking both in and out of the bedroom.  Might be time to sit down and have a chat.  He may be unaware that you are displeased (some guys need to have it spelled out).

Answer 5

He's an a*****e. Take the bull by the horns, make him satisfy you or don't do the same for him. If he's failing so horribly don't let him just use you like that, you've got much more power then that and you know it. In bed you're the one who has control, not him.

Answer 6

You should not have to demand equal treatment.  Fnd another guy

Answer 7

This seems really unfair!! You shouldn't be doing this. Love making is about...MAKING LOVE. Not being used like a toy for pleasure!!

I think you need a seriouse talk with this guy....tell him you want to get a few things straight.... your in this TOGETHER!! and that you should both be pleasured equally!!

If he isnt willing to assist.....get rid...you can do better than that.. I promise, there IS better than him out there. xx

Answer 8

The way you described it sounds like a prophalactic commercial!

Answer 9

check out my questions, im not sure, thats pretty gross.

Answer 10

That is a tough one.  I Think he should feel responsible to take care of it on his own but not all men think the same.  Me i am a pretty big stickler to getting her off first. Me, I always feel responsible and guilty if it doesn't work that way. When a guy isn't in for it for the lady, then when hes done he is done.  so I think he is only in for it himself and doesnt care if the other half is happy on not.

My take on it is he is in for it for the s*x, not a real relationship.

Answer 11

this was all unusual?  you need to look at his whole body of work

Answer 12

Wow.. I'm sorry to hear that.

Next time, "do-it-yourself" in front of him just to tease.

See what he does or says.

Put him to the test!

Answer 13

if you want his help getting off just ask him!! after all it should be a give, give kind of thing anyways. I'd look for a new boy toy....this one's broken!!!lol seriously if you wanna be pleased it sounds like he may be too eager for beaver. and if he did not help you after words he may have been trying to avoid this very embarassing situation. Let it go this time and maybe try and talk to him about a round two when he's ready to show you what he's made of!! remember, men love what we got, can you blame him for enjoying you so much? I'm sure he'd love to make it up to you. If not, you may be with a dud.