ADVICE NEEDED - please read...not too serious.lol. but it's driving me crazy?

Question

i am in college and living with 2 roommates. They are my long time friends so we yell about dumb stuff, but always end up fine. But we have 3 completely different living habits

-Sloth((doesn't make a big mess, but never cleans.ever, never shops,never writes checks)

-Neat Freak(complains when 1 dish is in the sink. reminds me of a n**i)

-Messy(lol, i'm free-spirited,I'll be the first to admit i'm a slob, but i clean up after myself, and when it's time to clean i always do it..only me and the neat-freak, the sloth does nothing)

RM 1 + RM 2 complain that RM3 is too messy

RM1+RM3 complain RM 2 is a psycho

RM2+RM3 complain RM1 does nothing

I can afford my own place, so i'm moving out. What is a good way to let them know without sounding like an a--hole and still being their friend? How is it living alone?I love privacy but i'm worried i'll never see anyone. Some advice from expierience is nice

*Sorry i know this is the wrong section, wanna get the most help*

Answer 1

i would get a male room ate, the opposite s*x seems to compliment each other and be absolutely sure, the relationship is platonic and that you both have the same idea of a good roommate, so you can get on with other things and not worry about messy, lazy psycho's keep them for your friends and keep smiling, it will make them wonder what's really going on with you and your roomy and hopefully improve their trivial matters

Answer 2

i would just sit down and say "guys we have been friends for so long. and i really think that our consistent bickering is going to endanger our friendship. So i am considering moving out, its not that i don't like living with you we have some awesome parties and ****( w.e it is you have)  its just that i don't want to end up hating you guys from all the fighting.

But as far as moving out on your own it may be really lonely. So make sure that you and your friends are on good terms because otherwise you will be alone .

Answer 3

i would never advice you to move out alone  unless u have a girlfriend or you plan  to get one , iam staying alone its real boring i think the fighting with them is better than this ,since u fight and talk with them anyways , and regarding how to tell them  u need to have a good mind for that i have seen one of my previous friend in the same situation he started statying in other room slowly one day he took his clothes then the next day he took his chairs stuffs like that ..but every day after work hours he would come to his old place and sit and talk with every 1 else ...i hope it helps ... i never had any experience my self

Answer 4

TELL THEM THAT YOU JUST WANT TO MOVE OUT AND HAVE A ROOM THE WAY YOU WANT IT.I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM .IM IN MY 2ND YEAR OF COLLEGE RIGHT NOW I WOULD JUST MOVE OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Answer 5

My experience is that its usually how a message is delivered that has the most effect on the reactions. Right now you are probably trying to think up any excuse you can use so they won't be mad or offended.  Instead of that I'd get them together, maybe go out to eat and tell them you're really excited about something you want to tell them. Share it as a piece of positive news. This will change their reaction from rejected and defensive to, hopefully, one where they can help you celebrate.  Let them know its about something drawing you forward rather than being something you are running away from.  Set the tone and

most people will follow.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Haa! Humerous way of describing your problem! Right, the next time MY roomates bother me about mess, I'm telling them I'm "free-spirited." Thanks for that one.

As for your problem! You said they are long time friends. Just tell them you need a change. They'll understand. Or... RM1 will. RM2 might attack you with his hoover, but he'll get over it. If indeed he is a he.

Living alone scares me a bit too. Never done it, but you say you like privacy. And you can walk around naked. Always a bonus.

If these people are long time friends, you can always visit, and they you! I personally don't think it would affect your social life. May even improve it! You can host wonderful house parties and never bother about annoying others. Great.

Hope you get it sorted! :)

Answer 7

Someone told me when I was in school that the easiest way to lose a friend is to be roommates with them.

I found it to be true.  For some reason, people are more willing to impose on a close friend than on someone who isn't as close.  When your roommate is not your best friend, you tend to "mind your manners" more.

I lived on my own, and I preferred it to having a roommate.  It was lonelier, but that was before text and instant messaging.  I don't think it would be as bad now.

The nice thing about being on your own is that you can make as big a mess as you want, and clean it when you want.

Answer 8

i would be saving my money right about now.see you at the soup line