AM I WRONG IF MY KIDS WANT TO LIVE WITH THER DAD TO LET THEM

Question

IM GOING THROUGH A SEPERATION, AND MY KIDS WHO ARE 8 AND 4 YRS OLD WANT TO STAY WITH THERE DAD, NOT ME, CAUSE I CHOSE TO LEAVE, AM I WRONG IN LETTING THEM DO THIS, OR AM I ABANDONING THEM IF I DO?

Answer 1

you are a horrible mother.  i would never let my daughter live with anyone but me.  you choose to leave you kids.  you are a bad mother

Answer 2

You need to ask yourself honestly, what is best for the children?

It's unimportant whether your friends or relatives think you are doing the 'right' thing. It doesn't matter, ultimately, whether you think you're abandoning them or not. Where will they be better off, better maintained, better disciplined etc.

The fact that you're even asking shows that you want the best for them. Whatever happens, they will see that and appreciate the decisions you both come to together as parents.

Forget the house, car, pets etc This is ONE of those things you HAVE to sort out amicably, and to the best interest of the kids.

Good Luck

Answer 3

If they think that it is better with their father than you might want to leave them with him for a while. You must make sure that you have joint custody and that you meet your children regularly. You must make sure that they spend sufficient time with you too.

It is really a hard decision but if they are a little elder, they might understand better and come back to you. As a mother one never wants to leave their children but if you apply force, they might hate you for taking away their father. Just make sure that you are still very much present in their lives and that their father doesn't influence them against you. Good luck to you sister.

Answer 4

If your kids are telling you that they want to live with their dad then they shouldn't feel abandoned by you. You're doing the right thing by allowing them to make the decision on what they want to do. Just be there for them when they need you, even if they aren't living with you, and there should be no reason at all why you would be abandoning them.  

Answer 5

let the children go with their dad coz if you don't let them so they will never love you and never want to talk to you and they will always hate you but if you let them with their dad so maybe there will be a bit of love in their hearts for you

Answer 6

Since thye are still young, respect their will.  when they become older, they can now choose whom they would like to put up with.

Answer 7

You are not wrong, let them live with him.  

Answer 8

Let them live with their dad for a while and see how it works out.  

Answer 9

i think since your kids are already expressing their feelings about wanting to live with their father that you should let them...only if he can provide for them the way they would need...

y upset them more by forcing them to go somewhere they dont want to..

im sure if you do whats in the best interest of the children then they will grow up happier and healthier than having their parents constantly fighting over them..

no its not abandonment if you let them live with their father...again as long as he can provide for them...but remember you will need to help provide for them by paying child support..