AM I WRONG OR MY WIFE NEEDS HELP?

Question

EVERYNIGHT I WANNA MAKE LOVE TO MY WIFE SHE ALWAYS AND I MEAN ALWAYS TURNS ME DOWN AM I SICK OR SOMETHING SHE SAYS I AM FOR WANTIN s*x ALL THE TIME IM STARTING TO THINK I AM I PLESURE MY SELF TWICE A DAY SOMETIMES EVEN THREE THAN AT NIGHT I WANT MY WIFE BUT SHE NEVER WANTS TO

Answer 1

Talk to her, ask her what the problem is.  Is it that she isn't enjoying the lovemaking and you two need to try something different or is it something else.  Let her know how you feel.  Also romance in the bedroom goes a long way with women.

Answer 2

Dude, if s*x is all your giving her or if that's all you act like you want then get over it.

Women need romance as much, or more than s*x. They are emotional beings and have to have compliments, caressing, attention, romancing, holding ect..

Start by backing off of the s*x and giving her some emotional attention.

Tell her how beautiful she is to you. Tell her how much you love her. Write her love letters and naughty e-mails.

She hasn't lost interest in you. She's just tired of being used as your PUMP!

Dang man! Give her some flowers, a greeting card for no other reason thatn you love her.

Answer 3

I sometimes make my fiance feel exactly like you. I just turned 24. It's not that we don't want to, there's just more to it than what y'all want to understand.  Have you ever tried to sit your wife down and see where she's coming from? Maybe there is more to her side, than just her saying you're sick. Once you've sat her down and you two have gone over your differences maybe then y'all can come to some type of agreement to work out a schedule or something to keep the spice in your marriage. Maybe she wants you to date her again, that will definitely spark up some flames. Maybe because you're frustrated you come on to her a little rough, or maybe there's not enough four-play....I mean it could be numerous of things. Those are just a few things my fiance changed to rekindle our love life. Try this, think of one of your most memorable dates you and your wife had, and try to relive that moment. There's nothing like a trip down memory lane, especially when it was one of the most magical moments. I hope this helps, I know I'm not married yet but the situation is identical.    

Answer 4

well if she works alot it might be that she is tired.. or maybe shes going through menopause? when woman go through that they tend to lose their sexual appetite.

I would try romancing her. Maybe do something to make her feel special.. Or maybe focus on her during s*x instead of yourself.?

If all else fails just ask her whats wrong.

Communication is VERY important to keep your marriage.

Good luck!

Answer 5

May be, just may be  you aren't a good lover.  May be she needs more out of your s*x life. May be in bed, your only thinking of your needs.

Answer 6

If you guys have been doing it every night then maybe she's trying to take a brake from having s*x.If you don't like her taking a brake,just let her know how  you feel about her bringing you down every night.Tell her that you need her love.And if she doesn't want to have s*x with you,maybe you should ask her to m********e you.That way you'll get the pleasure you want.  One day she'll come to you and ask you to have s*x,you'll see.But for now,ask her if she can m********e you.Hope i helped.God bless.

Answer 7

Try cutting back on the masturbation and vamping up the romance. FYI, grabbing her a$$ or b*****s and grunting "let's s***w" doesn't count as romance.  

Answer 8

i dunno...i dont understand women who turn s*x down....are you into something really kinked ???? (jk)

have you talked to her about it?????

straight up and  asked what is going on???

it be a hormonal depending on her age??

Answer 9

Did you wait until you were married to have s*x? If so, BIG mistake. She might not like your performance. If not then try to turn her on, don't just say wanna have s*x. Thats a turn off.  You should know her hot spots if your married.  

Answer 10

First thing, LAY OFF THE CAPITOL LETTERS!

Second thing, try backing off and giving the poor woman a chance to want it.  Do you liek to be nagged about housework or whatever?  I doubt it.  She probably hates to be nagged to have s*x every minute of the day.

Maybe sit down and TALK to her and find out what she wants from you to make her desire you again.  Crazier things have happened you know?

Answer 11

There isn't any good way just tell her if she doesn't give it to you you'll get it somewhere else because guess what that in my opnion is why most guys cheat on there wives in the first place because most of them are against s*x.. think you have it bad i live in utah try dealing with the females i have too

Answer 12

Women don't want to do it every night like men do. We're not blow up dolls. She probably feel like she's not being respected by you. Do you treat her well, even when it's not s*x related? You need to check your relationship with her. She's not happy with something, and you need to talk to her about her feelings.

Answer 13

Look straight up, MOST woman do not want to do it every nite.  It gets old, it loses somthing, become boreing.  You dont want to have that happen.  Im very sexual, however, every nite is not cool.  how bout instead you try every other nite just giving her love.  kiss her hold her hand rub her back whatever.  Hold yourself back a little.  

Answer 14

She might have a thyroid or hormone problem that's causing her low s*x drive. She may have to go to a doctor and get tested to see what the problem is.  

Answer 15

you need help you are wrong if you do it every night then its hurt to her no body can do it everyday i am married if i do it three day everyday i feel pain i can't .may be she can't either you should give her a break at least one or two day

Answer 16

You have a serious problem if you are jacking two and three times a day. A normal woman wants s*x at the most three times a week. Get help this is not her fault  

Answer 17

Slow down tex.  If you talk all the time why don't you ask her what it up?  It could be she is tired of it, no s*x drive, having an affair.  All I have read is how wonderful you are.  Maybe that's the problem.  You are there to patt yourself on the back.

Answer 18

You can only control yourself.  Make sure that you are acting in a husbandly way that is approachable, loving and kind.  I understand where you are coming from quite well, but you can only choose to be as desirable and loving as you can in a way that appeals to her.

Have you discussed whether you are doing something that puts her off?  Have you asked her to see a doctor to discuss a lack of libido?

Answer 19

The desire for s*x is directly connected to emotional well being for a woman. Maybe she knows you m********e all the time and she is turned off by that. If she was happy in the marriage, she would want to have s*x with you.  

The advice ppl are giving on this question is TERRIBLE!

Answer 20

It's hard to answer your question because you did not give out more details. Details like:

-How long have you been married?

-Do you have children?

-Do you share your bedroom with your kids?

-What time do you usually sleep?

-Do you take a shower (or at least clean up) and brush your teeth before going to bed?

-Do you do some foreplay first?

-Do you still take her out on dates every now and then?

-Do you drink liquor often?

-Are you a smoker?

-Do you have financial problems?

-Does she suspect you of being unfaithful?

-Is she sick with something?

-Does she also climax & have orgasms whenever you have s*x?

-How do you approach her when you want to have s*x?

-Have you talked to her about it?

-When did this "problem" start?

-How was your s*x life before this "problem" started?

-How intimate are you with your wife?

My tip: Please give us more details. Or you can ask your question again, but with more details so that we can help you more with your problem.  

Answer 21

she is ******* someone else retart.  its obvious.  Woman arent always in the mood but if its everynight then she is getting hers somewhere else.  

Answer 22

WHAT?! Ok there is nothing wrong with your wife well at least not about s*x. Have you ever thought maybe she might be depressed  or have something going on in her mind. I get like that personally alot when i am down i dont want any intimacy. But the best thing to do is to talk to her discuss it, if you cant talk to your wife about your s*x life then why are you married. Marriage starts with OPEN communication. And s*x is not everything in a relationship, if its all you care about then maybe the problem is with you and not her. You sound like your in overdrive. Try some romance, loving words, dinner, massage anything to try and stir up some intimacy. Good Luck! Talk to her!!

Answer 23

there could be numbers of reasons why she doesn't want to have s*x with you i mean s*x is just plain s*x but being intimate is something it is loving one another maybe she want your attention she might have self issues or just must have something that is bothering her and doesn't know how to tell you. my advice is that you need to talk to her and ask her what is wrong and explain to her how you feel also ask her if you doing anything wrong or what is it that she likes instead of just thinking of your self. and another thing it not called s*x it is being intimate with you spouse that is loving one another not just s*x....

Answer 24

If she always turns you down, then there is something wrong with her. Part of being married is the having s*x part. If she never wants it, then she should never have gotten married.

Answer 25

She need to understand your needs and you need to understand hers. Talk to her and see what the issue is with her. She may have personal issues or something it may not even be you. Try to make the mood right with a nice dinner or take her on a date. Make her feel important to you. get a sitter for the kids if you have any. Do all of this without her opinion and make it seem like you are still in love with her. If this does not work then just talk to her and find out what her story is. Be lucky to get it once a week or even month marriage is not about s*x it is about sharing your life with the one you love.  

Answer 26

I rarely have s*x with my husband.. i wonder if he feels this way. I give in sometimes just so he can get pleasure.. but i don't enjoy it. I'm pregnant.. well overdue.. so my comfort is gone.. what's her excuse?? you two need to talk and make sure she knows that it's important for you to get something from her once in a while.. maybe get her drunk?!?

Answer 27

My answer is that 'you BOTH need help'.  

She likely needs help in seemingly dealing with you and your "incessant" neediness, while you need help with your lack of awareness, incessant neediness, and lack of sensitivity.

You BOTH need help in relation to your relationship ~ although only if you BOTH want help to resolve your various issues with each other.

Sash.

Answer 28

If you want to pleasure your self two or three times a day, the problem is not your wife, is you!, in a marriage s*x is not everything, is important, but if you plan to have s*x two or three times a day, thats a playboy fantasy, try to find something to with your life, try to be difficult, try to treat your wife as a queen, not a one day girl!!!, go out, play games, and the moments that you dont think, BUM!!! you will have your wife in your hands.

Answer 29

I dont think you are sick . That is kind of often to want it, but maybe if she said "yes" four or five times a week, youd calm down. But if she says yes sometimes and you still hound her you'll only drive her away. You both need to have a balance. Maybe taking care of yourself just doesnt do the trick, but a married man shoulnt have to do that on a regular basis anyway. She's wrong in what she's doing.

Answer 30

she is your wife you really should TALK TO HER about it.

If she is on birthcontrol her labido may be very low.

you are not "sick"

Masturbation is ok, better then cheating.

I believe all married couples experience this same issue.

You should talk to her about how it makes you feel to be denied.