AM I WRONG to want again so bad?

Question

am i wrong to be so desperate to become pregnant again. in june i missed misscarried identical twins. me and my partner are 18, live together and have been with eachother for 3 1/2 yrs. we wer so happy to find out i was expecting and were devastated when i lost them. each time my period is due we pray it doesnt come.

Answer 1

Heck no your ARE NOT WRONG AT ALL!!

Of course you are going to want again so soon. As long as you and your partner are ready that is all that matters!!

Im 20 on saturday, with a 14 month old son, Ive been trying for baby #2 now for 8 months with two very early m/c's.  It doesnt put me off wanting to try again, and my age doesnt have anything to do with it, as long as you are happy with your partner and ready which I can tell you are. Go for it!!

Good luck hunni sorry about the miscarraige! Let me know when u get that BFP if you can possibly keep in touch :) x

Answer 2

of course your not wrong. i havnt lost a baby but i can imagine the loss would be unbearable, you are not seeking a replacement for your twins but taking another step toward your longed for family. also do not listen to those people on here who say you are too young, yes some 18 year olds are too immature to start a family but not all. i have been with my partner 3 years and i gave birth to our daughter 5 weeks ago. we are secure as a family both emotionally and financially, we both work and pay our own rent. you know you are ready so go ahead (as long as you are physically okay) the pain of your loss will become less over time but it wont ever go away and having another baby doesnt make those two any less important to you. good luck ,  itll work out his time x

Answer 3

You are not wrong. Don't beat yourself up over this. Good luck. x

Answer 4

i miscarried 5 days ago at 14 weeks, a very much wanted baby:(

im booked in at my doctors next wek to ask him when we can try again, i want to start as soon as possible.

i know how you feel and i dont think its too soon as long as you feel ready.

my boyfiend and i arnt married either, together 11 years...

you DONT have to be married to have a baby.

you DONT have to be in your 20s either

i had my first when i was 18...

GOOD LUCK to you and your boyfriend

Answer 5

no hun its natural to feel this way you lost something you had your heart set on and its been taken away which makes you want it all the more as you feel you have lost something so special, which you have.

but don't worry because it happened to me and 11 month later i had my little girl so i know exactly how your feeling you will never forget your babies but when you do finally carry to term and then hold you baby in your arms you forget the struggle you went through to have a baby and the pain will fade away.

all the best to you and your partner if you are ready to be parents it will happen. good luck x

Answer 6

If you both are ready then you are ready.   I will say at 18 not many people are really ready for a baby (emotionally or financially) and the financial burden is big.  If I were you I would wait a few years maybe when you are 22 or 23 you might be more ready for a child, maybe even after marraige.   I would hate to bring a child into the world and then get married, the kid would think it was only because of him.    I don't know if you see marraige in your future but just a thought.   I'd give it a few years if I were you

Answer 7

No you are not wrong for wanting to become prengant again!!

You are happy with you partner & want to take the next step. Losing twins must of been horrible & im sorry for you loss. Because you had that unfortunent miscarriage you despete to become pregnant & do not what this to happen again so they is not anything in the world to suggest what you are doing could be considerd wrong!

Good luck with the trying & hope it happens soon for you  

Answer 8

Sorry for you loss.  You are still in mourning which is natural and one of the ways we deal with it is to attempt to replace what we lost.  You have to ask yourself was the first pregnancy planned? Will this next one be?  Am I financially able to take responsibilities for another human life?  These are just a few questions and there are many more.

You are young and there are many more babies in your future.  

Take time for yourself.  Discover life and have adventures.  When the time is right you will conceive again.  Good luck.