AM I to young to adopt?

Question

We'll I've been helping out with adoption agency and have seen many people willing to adopt and how happy the kids are to be having a nice home to come home to and for me it beautfiul. I've just been thinking about it and I have enough money a home and can provide for the child and I'm 20 . I was thnking of adopting in vietnam since that's a place where you can adopt young. what do you think?

Answer 1

Age really doesn't matter.

As long as you have what it takes to be a mom then your not 'too young'.

Having a house, a car, possibly someone to help you out,

things like that.

Good luck!

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Answer 2

if it will make u happy then do it!!

Answer 3

do you realize that if you were pregnant you would be given advice to relinquish?  i find it interesting that you are now being encouraged to adopt as a single mother.  just an observation.

anyway, i'm not sure of the policy but if you are serious about adopting, you will need to pass a homestudy and criminal background check; and prove that you are financially able to care for a child.

Answer 4

I think if you have enough money and a home and the maturity to take responsibility for a child, then you're not too young.  BUT if you're single, just remember that being a single parent can be tough -- be sure to take all the angles of parenthood into consideration.  I think what you want to do is wonderful; but just be sure you're truly ready for the responsibility.  And don't worry about your age.

Answer 5

Yes, you're too young.

And it seems you have a bit of a savior complex.

Why on Earth would you want to chain yourself down with a child, instead of exploring your options at this point in your life?

Seems to me you're scared of the big world, and are looking for an anchor.

An adopted child would not be a good one.  They need a lot more than you can provide.

You might want to look into some counseling, to see what has you stuck.

Answer 6

in most states you have to be at least 21 and married or 25 if your single.  it takes a long time to adopt.

Answer 7

People are saying you are too young to adopt because in all likelihood, you are.

And that is in no way a contradiction to encouraging a 20-year-old pregnant woman to parent. Adopting is not the same as giving birth. Adopted children have special needs that biological children do not.

Seriously. I agree with the person who said you should seek some counseling. I don't mean that in a negative, mean way at all, I just think there is probably something else going on that you need to think about--think about what might be driving this desire--if it truly is just wanting to adopt, you should be able to put it on the back burner no problem--without dwelling on it--until you are ready.

And if you do adopt in the future, please just really, really do your research. There is more to adoption than building families. There is profound loss that comes before the building of the new family, and it DOES have an impact. Since you apparently do not see this side of it in your volunteer work, you need to do a lot of work to educate yourself on that part of it. And I don't mean just sitting through agency info/education sessions, either--you'll have to be proactive.

Answer 8

If you are single, I'd think twice.  Maturity is important, so is financial stability, but having a father figure is important too.

Answer 9

No you are not too young.  Sounds like you got your head screwed on right and have a real loving nature.  Wish there were alot of people like you.  The thing is, do you have a partner and what does he think about it, if not you should discuss it with your friends and family to see how they feel.  Go get em, you will be a fantastic mum by the sounds of it.  Hope that makes sense as my mind is racing faster than my fingers.  GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

personally i think you should wait a little longer.  i think it is great you want to adopt, but technically, you are still young.  this is not to say you wouldn't make a great parent, but you are also single and raising a child while single, while doable, is difficult for parents of all ages and incomes.  plus, being in the 'business' of helping children find homes, you know what it is adoption agencies look for.  also, you might want to look into vietnamese policy.  i forget where i was reading it, but if you search around, you might find it--i was reading an article where many asian cultures are looking at being more selective with non-asian adoptive parents...ensuring their marriage is stable, they are healthier than previous standards, income in exceptional, etc...they are basically taking the initiative to ensure the children they adopt out are going to above average homes, love obviously not being the deciding factor...but again, i don't know if vietnam is among the countries taking on this new initiative.  but going back to the fact you are only 20...i mean, you have not even reached legal drinking age (not to say you even want to drink) so there are things you 'need' to do before you have someone else to care for permenantly...with that said, young mothers/couples have babies all the time and quite a lot turn out to be great parents, age not withstanding.  good luck with your choice...

Answer 11

You are a good person and you should be happy with adopting.I will pray for you and your child when you adopt.I support you.It's your choice just try your best to choose the right one.

Answer 12

Yes, I think you are too young. Wait 5 - 8 years.

In the meantime, you can volunteer at the local childrens hospital or do something else so you will be around young children.

You are wonderful to want to adopt but you are too young. Just have patience and wati! It will be worth it!

Answer 13

i think thats a really dumb idea....

Answer 14

Why don't you be a foster mom?  

Please don't take my honesty for negativity.  You asked so I am going to answer honestly.

Yes, I do think you are too young.  You're pretty much still a kid yourself.  What's the rush anyway?  Why not wait a few years and take time to enjoy your youth?

Answer 15

Actually I was looking into adopting as well. You actually cannot adopt in the US at 20 y/o, and in Vietnam you can adopt at a young age, but you have to be married. But the plus side is that you can adopt next year at 21 y/o in the US. you cannot adopt an older child and it may be difficult to prove that you are emotionally and financially able to support a child on  your own. If you meet their qualifications then by all means...good luck.

Another way to touch lives, if they dont let you adopt is to look into becoming a foster parent.You can becme one if you live on your own and are at least 21 y/o. That way you'll touch mutiple lives and it wil actually make it easier for you to adopt when the right time comes along. And thumbs up on giving back to a child...

Check the government website for your state and search for the adoption/foster parent link.

Answer 16

honestly, I think that there are plenty of children in need in America. You dont have to look far. Also, consider adopting an older child maybe 5 or even 6 years old. Many spend their lives from foster home to foster home looking for perminant homes. Its really sad how many children are mistreated or abused right here in America.

And no, you are not too young to adopt. However, getting a child from another country costs about 20,000 to finalzye the adoption. Sometimes, the child is obtained through kidnapping and sold to someone in the US. So its not always a good idea.

Answer 17

if you feel that you are in the right place to adopt then I say go for it!!  just remember that raising a child is alot of work.

Answer 18

No your not too young as long as its what you really want to do.  I am 22 and considering fostering a child into adoption.  If you wait one more year you can adopt in the U.S. you only have to be 21 (well at least in Kansas)  Good luck and congrats!

Answer 19

i would wait until you are older--maybe in 5 years

Answer 20

This isn't meant to be mean ...

but, when you go to file, you'll probably want to brush up on spelling and grammar.  yours is .... well ...... OK, you want to at least look professional.

Answer 21

Its odd how someone can say you’re too young to adopt.  But if you were pregnant at 20 many of this people would be encouraging you to parent, despite your age.  Some people feel they are ready to be parents at a young age; some are mature enough and financial stable enough to do so.  Heck there are parents who are twice as old as you who aren’t ready for it.

You should look into some adoption agencies see what their age critique is. I think most you will probably have to be 21 or older, unless you are married and even then one of you would likely have to be a certain age.

What I would recommend is doing some research on adoption, look for agencies you might consider using. If you find one that would allow you to adopt at your current age go for it. Otherwise keep them for future references.

Answer 22

I think adoption is beautiful and I have ALWAYS considered it.

I don't believe you're too young but I do think you should really sit down and think about everything that comes with being a parent.

First of all you will be a single parent and that's tough enough.

(Trust me. I became a mom at 19 and was single.)

It's not just about a nice home to come home to. It's about this child needing you for the rest of your life.

No more hanging out all the time, no more alone time,  and the list goes on.

It's easy to say hey I want this baby but there's so much more to do with parenting! It's really hard.

I'm not trying to scare you or change your mind because there are a lot of young people out there that are old souls.

I just want you to think about it.

Good luck with what you decide.

:)

Answer 23

no

Answer 24

you are not too young to adopt if you are mature enough for it.

i agree totally with spirit that people would be telling you to parent if you were pregnant. my sister had her first one when she was 21 and she is an amazing mother and im sure you will be too, although it would be nice to have a partner if you get a child.

whats with people thinking you have to be like 28 to have kids?  you should be young with your children not like 50 when they're 20... goodness

goodluck

Answer 25

no you are not too young. but why not adopt here. there are so many right here in your country that need help and loving homes. they are so many and not all are babies. it would be great if you could adopt someone here and be a good parent to them take care.