APPARENTLY my best friend smokes pot?

Question

shes 14 and im 15 and ive been working and keeping myself busy this summer so i havent seen her in like 2 1/2 weeks. shes just trying to fit in with the rest of the highschool instead of being true to herself. im very innocent and i dont mind drinking and stuff but the thought of pot and other drugs GROSS me out. she didnt tell me about this but i heard it through another close friend, and my question is should i comfront her about it? (im hanging out with her tomorrow) im not supposed to know but im kind of angry how much shes changed in less than a year. she went from 'saving myself for marriage, NEVER drinking or doing drugs' to a complete turnaround. sorry it just really bothers me when people change there minds a lot. any similar experiences?

Answer 1

Heh, welcome to adolescence. Kids change and learn rapidly during those years and it's quite possible to make a resolution one and have new information and make different decisions the next.

Anyway, my advice would be not to "confront" her about the pot. You're not her parent, you're her peer. It's hard enough to be in charge of your own behavior without trying to be in charge of someone else's. Also, if you confront her, you'll find out that she knows more about pot than you do, and that *you'll* be the one who ends up trying it. Trust me on that. Pot is less harmful than alcohol, but it has a real downside, and I wouldn't want you to be seduced by it. It can be remarkably hard to say "no" to something your friend is enjoying, and what you've written suggests to me that you've been somewhat sheltered and that you're going to have to get a more balanced view of these activities -- a view that isn't quite what your minister would say but still allows for the fact that these things can be harmful.

Answer 2

yea o.k like drinking is any better...  

Answer 3

its just weed... but yea if she wasnt like this before maybe she isnt bein herself

Answer 4

You, know I used to smoke weed. Pretty much every day for 6 months. I guarantee I would out smoke anyone. I would be high allllllllll the time. I would be blazed out of my mind all day. There would rarely be any time where I wasn't high for that 6 month time.

I've experienced it's effects many times, until I wised up one time when I wasn't high and I said "what the h**l am I doing"? I only did it for a 6 month span during my sophomore year.

I did it so much, I started to get a tolerance.

I don't know about anyone else, but when I'm under it's influenced, I've felt as more confident in myself, giving me a false sense of security. I also didn't focus as well as I would have if I didn't have it.

One day, I said "this is wack" and I didn't do it.

I look at it this way: why do you need something in your body that you never needed in the first place? It's like alcohol or tobacco. You didn't need them as a child, but now that you're a teenager you do? Who cares if it's less harmful? Why do you need it? Does life suck that much?

My mind feels fine when I'm off of it. I'm glad I got off when I did.

Besides, as with any addiction, it takes money out of your pocket

Answer 5

That's disgusting.  

Answer 6

Hopefully you guys got proper s*x ed and education on drug and alcohol use. Otherwise you're screwed.

Answer 7

What's your moral struggle?

Answer 8

I would punch my friend in the face if she used pot, smoked, or drank. We've known each other for a good 9 years, so I can do that. :D

But, if your relationship isn't that strong, you may want to go about this gently. Just tell her you think that she should stop and give her some good reasons.

1. It's a gateway drug, meaning: it opens up a whole world of other, more dangerous drugs to you.

2. No one who does pot is going to be a good influence on her. They'll  lead her down rocky and dangerous path and won't be her actual friends.

3. It's illegal.

4. It's just unhealthy. Smoking anything is stupid and bad for your lungs. No matter what it is. You shouldn't be inhaling anything expect the air you breathe.

I hope you get her to stop. Drugged up teenagers are so annoying and immature. D:

Answer 9

You should definitely confront her about it. If she's your best friend, she'd listen to you.

Pot DOES change people. People get the wrong messages from the media; lots of people seem to be doing it, even celebrities! But pot does hurt you and the people around you in many ways. Start early and try to save your friend from a messed up future before it's too late. Because with drugs and ****, there's always gonna be a backend.

Answer 10

just let her do what she want

omg

people act like "pot" is the worst thing in the world

at least shes not a murderer

Answer 11

i been in this situation before. i use to smoke and things like that. when i got a really good boyfriend a lot of things changed since then. im great now. i kinda separated myself from friends that did all that, but i still talk to them sometimes to see how their doing. i started hanging out with new friends and other friends that never did that or dont anymore. my advice would be to comfront her about it and tell her that your worried about her. good luck..