ARE THERE ANY FAITHFUL married people out there????

Question

I cant get over how many people cheat on their spouse..It seems as though every other question is "My wife, or my husband, ...cheated" I feel so badly for them.. I also cant believe how many people would even consider staying with someone who has been unfaithful in a marriage. Does anyone else feel like this?

For me, being unfaithful is the one and only thing in a marriage that could never be forgiven. No matter the situation.

Thoughts?

Answer 1

I'm faithful, but not married, yet.

I was married for 7 years. The s*x stopped after 3.5 years, and was sporadic before that. It turns out he was addicted to internet p**n.  It must have been hard for him (no pun intended).

Things are different on this go round. I'm a Christian and will marry a Christian. I know we are human, and make mistakes, but I am in a better light now and will be able to communicate in a healthy way with my next spouse.. and since he'll be a Christian, we may struggle a bit with internet p**n, but not as much as I'd dealt with before - if any..

Answer 2

We are 100% faithful towards each other.  We trust each other completely too.  

I have to agree with you, though, I dont understand why people get married then cheat on their spouse.  Marriage is wonderful and I wouldnt trade it for anything.  

Answer 3

I most def agree with you.

i cant believe it either, how many people dont have the ballz to end the relationship, kids or not, before they act. Ridiculous. Some women, or men, give their spouse their life, ...are the most faithful and devoting to the other, only to get screwed over. Very sad, i too would never forgive, ...s***w me once, its done. I deserve better!

Answer 4

I've been married 31 years to my life's love, my soul mate. I have NEVER strayed, and never will. I simply love my wife too much to even consider it. I fails me to understand a cheater of either s*x. Marriage just needs to be an all or nothing affair. 24/7/365. Needs inside and outside of the bedroom should have been resolved way before anybody said I Do. And it's both members, just not the wife that needs to keep things interesting in the bedroom. Both have needs to be met, and it up to both to fulfill them.

Answer 5

I half way agree.

Answer 6

I have never cheated on my husband and I am 100% sure he has never cheated on me.  We have been married for 19 years and have had a couple of rough patches over the years.  I would never cheat on my husband, I love him and he is the father of my children.  If I hurt him I am hurting them.

Answer 7

I agree with your comments. I would take no c**p no matter is the situation. Thanks heaven, cheating is one thing that we as spouses (in my house) do not have to worry about. I know that I live happy.

Answer 8

I can honestly say I have never cheated.  I know for a fact my husband never cheated.  My first husband on the other hand a totally different story.

Answer 9

I know what you mean! but I don't betray trust. but I am not perfect either , affairs seem to happen and woe unto them to whom they happen , I hope I can continue to be a man of my word and trust worthy , a mans word is his bond.

Answer 10

I think that being faithful in marriage is important, and to me cheating is something that shouldnt be done in a marriage at all.  I think that whether or not to forgive lies with the couple and the circumstances.

Answer 11

I am in a faithful marriage.

I believe that it is possible for a marriage to survive an affair, but it's not an easy process. In the eyes of God, infidelity is a reason you can divorce. It's up to the person who is cheated on, assuming the cheater is truly remorseful, repentant, and willing to change.

Could I ever forgive if my husband cheated? I don't know. I know my husband would never forgive me. Neither of us want anyone else, and we want each other constantly.

There are plenty of successful marriages, in the US, flip a coin it seems.....

did you know that 72% of statistics are made up on the spot?    :)

Answer 12

according to statistics one in three married people are cheating right now, and in the life of their marriage two in three people cheat. As bad as i hate it, it is a fact of life, like murder, rape, etc. it is depressing but true. sorry no better news to give.....

Answer 13

you see alot of ' he cheated' or I cheated or whatever because there is not a question when you are faithful

being faithful and honest is expected and is not something you need to ask about, so you won't find alot of questions about it

can being unfaithful be forgiven - that is entirely up to you - your strength will define your ability in this regard. I have been cheated on and I forgave her and she eventually left and though I did not like her I still loved her and we remained friends but that is ME, not YOU

if you want to have a good relationship, get talking to the person you are involved with - understand him/her and above all be honest to yourself and to him

life is too short to waste it being deceitful

Answer 14

I absolutely agree with you. I have been married going on 4 years and there is no way I would ever cheat. I feel like a person should leave before it ever gets to that. If a marriage is not working then they should see a Therapist or divorce. Why cheat? I would never give a second chance with that.

Answer 15

I was faithful to my husband, he cheated on me with his ex wife. I took him back. Now he spends all his time lying to me, sneaking behind my back. Disappearing for hours on end. I'm looking for a place to move to, we're done. What's worse is I just finished chemo and radiation treatment for cancer. So much for caring huh.  

Answer 16

I don't necessarily believe that there is something missing at home. Maybe with most women, because we are emotional people, but for men most of the time they just do it because it's in their nature. People always say what they won't do, but you never know until you're in that situation.

Answer 17

I truely feel generations 20yrs to current have lost the whole concept of marriage.  Most just figure if it doesn't wor than divorce.  The committment is non existant.  Marriage is not easy most of the time.  It is usually difficult and trying.  I have been married to the same woman for ten years.  I have never even thought about cheating on her.  I hold the whole marriage vows extremely high.  We have a daughter who has been married and divorced three times in 8 yrs.  I feel the same about cheating, it ids the only thing I can not work through.  My first wife cheated on me and of course got caught.  I divorced her, and moved on.  It hurt, but the heart can rebuild.  Ouor daughter has asked us what is the secret, and we tell her that you have to love the person from your heart, not their wallet or looks.  

Answer 18

yes..Im. faithfully... Im here to answer your ques.. Im very innocent... lol

Answer 19

I dont think its right but then again there is always a reason for cheating, not saying a good one but sometimes it can be worked through.

Answer 20

then you havent been leaving in this life. i am faithfull to my hubby from that day i met him  

Answer 21

I am here to count two more to the 100% faithful department. This is a second and final marriage for the both of us. My ex-husband cheated with his ex-best-friend's wife. My husband's ex was on some online dating machine and he stumbled onto her private email account. Neither of us would cheat - why be married if you want to play those games? I agree that it does seem that way in our society. I am blessed to be where I am - I'd never want to be elsewhere. There is still hope for monogamy. Don't give up on society as a whole! Count two more of us in for not cheating and loving it!

Answer 22

well, we're not married, so you'l prolly think i am silly for answering the question... but we might as well be, the way we've lived our lives -

my man has had numerous opportunities where he could have strayed from me... but never, ever has the thought crossed his mind... and especially the past 2 weeks, he has been in italy with his daughters.. i am here in the states.. neither one of us is capable of lying to the other, it would be too easy to catch... thats how well we know each other... its a 6 hour time difference, i'm lucky if we talk twice a day... but he's been faithful, tho all his ex's are there and he was the quite the stud in his day... and i could easily have gone out and found a hottie or two to hold me over, but no way! love conquers all and it has conquered us!!!

i know what you mean tho.. sometimes i post a fun question just to try and lighten up the mood here... i can tbelieve there are so many losers in the world, and so many spouses that would put up with it... and with all the years and people teaching and saying it, that people dont change, we still tend to believe that we are the one's who will change them... and what makes us so perfect.. lol...

my first husband cheated on me... i was ill and in and out of the hospital for a while... he was abusive, physically as well... i stopped having s*x with him the day i realized i didnt love him anymore.. and thank god, cause who knows what i could have caught... it took me 2 years tho, to get up the strength and courage to leave.. and i am so happy i did, because my man now, he is my knight in shining armour.... and love is the greatest feeling in the world...

Answer 23

I am sure there are some. They're just not around here on 'yahoo answer'.

I do. Though I've not been in a situation in which I have to decide whether I'll stay or not but I admire people who make it work after a big storm like infidelity. That's what a real WORK in a marriage.

For me, the real unforgivable in marriage - and family - is sexual abuse. Because any kind of abuser isn's worth calling human.

Let's face it, unfaithfulness is common - intentional or not. The real work is how the couple will face it.

Of course intentional extra marital affair, is another issue.

Answer 24

I don't think I agree.  Even if they cheated, I think I'd try (ONCE).... but then again, I don't take the sanctity of marriage lightly and wouldn't get married just w/ anybody.....  but once I'm married... I'm in it for good (is what I'm hoping)

But you're right... it's soooooooooooooooooo rare... almost unlikely that people will not cheat.

Answer 25

i was faithful but he cheated.  i wasn't skinny enough for him.  what can i say?  

Answer 26

almost everyone person i've met has cheated or has had once the thought of a affair...my father had a affair...my friend had a affair...my brother is probably having a affair...this is why i don't believe in marriage...i love the whole i idea of a faithful marriage...but unfortunatly i haven't seen it YET!...i think people don't have to be married to have a family or what not...just take a look at angelina jolie and brad pitt....marriage didn't work for them in the past...and now it's going to be like 4years.

Answer 27

I totally agree, if my man ever cheated, he'd be out the door

Answer 28

I am as faithful as faithful can be, and so is my wife. I know for a fact that neither of us would ever cheat...it is not questionable to us.

I actually asked a similar question today that I think you should check out...I received a bunch of postive feedback, as have you.

In short I agree 100% with everything you said, but unfortunately I don't think that there is a "Best Answer" for your question.

Answer 29

for myself i couldn't go back into a marriage where i had been humiliated and betrayed, mostly because i have been there and done that years ago, and forgiving didn't work. but i do suppose there are some out there who have made mistakes and are sorry. i agree that once that person has crossed the line its over, only because i would not want to suffer anymore, it wouldn't be because i didn't love the [person, it would be because the rejection was too painful the first time around.

Answer 30

Hubby cheated on me a couple days before we were married.  I was 8 months pregnant with his child and he cheated with a two bit &*, with 4 kids that she wasn't raising, cigarette scar burns on her arms, 3 marriages by the time she was 23, and was in jail when the baby was born.  (Btw, we still don't know if hubby's the father or not.)  

Our own child died 10 days after birth, and he didn't fess up until a coworker, whom he'd evidently bragged to or admitted his affair to, threatened to come tell me.  I knew immediately whom he'd cheated with and felt so vile and dirty.  I went straight to the shower!  I forgave him and we went on to have 2 more children, but it was very hard to trust him again.  I never would've thought that he'd have done such a thing to me...to us...to his unborn child, but he's human and the flesh sometimes overrides the heart.

Mind you, if I'd known beforehand that he'd had an affair, I wouldn't have married him, but since we were married, we worked it out.  If he comes up to me tomorrow and admits another affair, he's gone!!

God bless you, Darlin'!