Abandment and trust issues?

Question

my mother abanded me and my 2 brothers when i was 10 and im now 18 she would leave us alone for days on end and run off with guys, i feel like i cant trust anyone, and i dont know how to get over these issues, i want to have a functioning realtionship with a boy, but its really hard to do when i constantly think of the pain that my mother put on my heart

Answer 1

U should think aboutyourself stop spoiling yourlie coz of wwhat ur mother did thats her en u to learn a lesson en be carefull,go to school over University en get a good job u will get a man who will respect you coz u are intelligent so ur too young think about the furture now

Answer 2

Based on how you describe your childhood it makes a lot of sense that you would have a fear of being abandoned again. It is a lot of pain to deal with.

Hopefully, you know that the cure for this pain does not lie within another person. If you choose to believe otherwise, than you will set yourself up for more wounds in the future. Remember, because of the nature of sin in our hearts (yes, every person), people will always disappoint us. It is unfortunate that the one person (your mom) who was supposed to nurture you and care for you choose herself over anyone else. She needs forgiveness from yourself, your brothers, and from God for leaving the children He entrusted her with.

You will find release in the act of forgiveness. It is not an easy thing to do, especially when someone dear to us has violated our trust. This however is the thing you eventually must do in order to be free of this burden.

Secondly, if you can find it within yourself to call out to the Lord God and ask Him to reveal Himself to you, you will experience true healing. Keep seeking and never say die. God is real and He has the power to heal all of your deep hurts, scars, and pain.

I will pray for you as I'm sure any believer will when they read your question.  Don't give up. You are worthy in God's eyes. He especially has a tender heart towards widows and orphans. He promises to never leave us or forsake us.

Answer 3

What your mother did is not your fault.  If you find you cannot get past her indiscretions and have a healthy life and relationship, you really do need to go to counseling.  I feel you may need someone who is professionally capable of helping you sort through your feelings and issues.  This is something that can affect you for the rest of your life, even if you do find someone you love.  Being abandoned can cause you to live in fear of the same happening no matter how much your partner tries to prove he won't leave you.  It can cause some extreme unhappiness when you do not deserve to be unhappy.  My daughter-in-law had the same thing happen to her and her 3 sisters when they were young.  I am constantly amazed at some of her actions.  She has never sought help and she is always unhappy.  No matter how much my son does to make her feel secure, he can never do enough.  He realizes the reason for her being the way she is and tries to help, but he has finally admitted she needs professional help.  Now, not only is she unhappy and insecure, but she seems to make everyone around her miserable and the sad part is we all know it is not her fault.  So, I suggest to you, get help so you can live a healthy, normal life.  It is possible but you will have to be the one to work through your feelings and emerge on the other side feeling strong and worthy.  Don't let your mother's selfishness mar you forever.  Take the initiative to get help for you.  You're worth it.

Answer 4

aside from some kind of therapy, try this:

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