Abortion is out of the question.....?

Question

well....

I posted a message a few days ago, but now a new dilemma has occurred....

I'm 18 and pregnant, every knows except my mum

they all know how happy me and my fiance are

(btw I'm still at home)

they know how much we want the little baby in our lives

I havent told my mum yet, im too scared

But i told my grandma and she said i have to have an abortion

well... that is out of the question, I dont think any1 no matter the cicumstances should have an abortion, thats just my opinion tho, please no posts saying its not all that bad, I do understand other peoples opinions

so how do I convince her i cant have an abortion, espeshially when i am so happy

not one other person has said abortion

please help

thanks

Answer 1

It's your body, not grandma's tell her to shut up. You are an adult and can do whatever you want. I agree with you about the abortions though. If you are happy don't worry about what everyone else thinks. s***w em all.

Answer 2

You definitely just need to tell her that abortion isn't what you want and that you do want this baby and she can either support you or she can continue to be against you having this baby...always do what is best for yourself and just let other people learn to accept it in their own time. By the way I am very glad you chose not to have an abortion and I wish you  the best of luck with this child.

Answer 3

You don't have to convince her of anything.  Your body, your choice.  You can calmly explain to her that abortion is out of the question and that you and your fiance are happy about the baby and will do your best to be good parents and good partners.  I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and you are obviously meant to have this baby in your life.  I wish you the best of luck and congratulations!!

Answer 4

well if you're in a stable relationship and getting married then tell them that you're more than capable

Answer 5

yes indeed,  you should not do abortion.Let me know whether you are married or not.Listen to me, you are  very young, you should not waste you life in caring a baby.If you give birth to a child now,  do you know what all problems will come, your status in the society will be gone.So they best way, is to do abortion.Your granny is cent percent correct and your grannny  know the consequences.

Answer 6

unless your grandmother physically forces you into hospital for an abortion then you can keep the baby, it has absolutely nothing to do with her!. Get some strength,your going to need it now your going to be a mother!

enjoy YOUR pregnancy xx

Answer 7

Just don't give her room to even suggest it. Make plans for you and your family you are about to start and when you have some of the plan figured out go to you mom and say something like...

"Me and ___ are getting married and, you get to be a grandma!"

OH OH! better yet!

Wait till you are 16 weeks along to tell her. You wont rely be showing yet but then you can give her a surprise "Gift"... and you can hand her a present with a picture of your ultrasound framed with "I love grandma" or something around it...

My husband and I NEVER wanted to have kids, and when he learned that we were pregnant he brought up the "A" word (not demanding or even suggesting, just more as a "Is this an option to you" kinda question) THEN we went and had the ultrasound to find out how far along I was a that was that...

The moment he set eyes on our baby, he was done.  =D

At 16 wees the baby is to far along for an abortion rely anyway, and its rely developed by then, you can almost always tell its s*x...

When you hand her a picture with a frame saying "Grammies little girl" or something and she sees the baby I don't think your going to have ANY problem!

Good luck, and CONGRATULATIONS!!!   =)

Answer 8

You don't have to convince her. It's not her body. It's your decision. If you need your whole family's approval for everything you do, you are going to find parenting a rough gig! Seriously, she'll get over it and if she doesn't, that's her problem, not yours or your baby's.

Answer 9

But you are getting married! You are happy! Why would your mum want you to have an abortion! I am sure she is going to be happy for you, and, eventually, she will convince your granny that you are doing the right thing.

Plus, 17 to 21 is the scientifically the best time to have a baby!

You should be planning your wedding and looking for baby stuff and not worry about such things, focus on the positive side!

Congratulations!

Answer 10

No one can force you to have an abortion.  This is your child.   It's your decision, and you have the right to keep your child.   You don't have to convince her.  You don't need to justify your decision.  You informed her, that's all.

You might want to tell her that "pro-choice" means that one of your choices is to keep your baby.

Congratulations.  I hope you and your fiance have long and happy lives together with your little one.  Good luck.

Answer 11

You are actually asking how to convince someone to change their opinion on the topic of abortion?  If that could be done our politicians might actually have been able to attend to more pressing matters over the last 35 years or so.  Live your life with your fiancee and beautiful baby and all the supportive people you have in your world and don't worry about grandma's opinion.  Besides, it's pretty amazing how "pro-life" grandmas and parents get when the child arrives and smiles at them.

Answer 12

It is your life and you have to live with any decisions that you make.  Your Grandmother has her reasons, be what they may, but she cannot live your life for you.  best of Luck to you.

Answer 13

I think it is very mature and responsible of you for being set on not having an abortion.  Family members often think they know what is best for us, and sometime it is for selfish reasons.  She may think that it will be too hard on you, or that her or your mother will be "stuck" with the baby.  Believe me, once the baby is here she will change her mind.  

When I told my mom I was pregnant she said, "we will deal with it."  I was surprised that she wasn't gleaming with joy for me.  I am a single mom and she knew it would be hard.  It was hard for me to understand why she had the attitude she did.  

Trust me, once your family sees your growing belly and you have that first ultra-sound all will start to shift in the right direction.  

Talk to your mom, maybee with your best friend there.  You may not want the baby's father there in case she really freaks out : )

Grandma's can be old fashioned.  JUst stay positive and pray and all will be well.

God Bless!

Answer 14

I'm sorry but your grandmother has no say in the matter unless it's her your living with?Anyway if i was in ur boots i know it's wrong but i would say a little white lie to ur grandmother and say u cant have anymore children after this one thats y ur not aborting it,it is entirely up to u and ur partner 18 is young to have a baby but u sound more grown up that an 18 yr old i do wish u luck.

Answer 15

No one can make u have one...so who are u trying to convince? There's no one to convince if u have made your mind up and don't believe in it anyway...

Answer 16

You don't have to convince your grandma of anything. She will come around. You just tell your mom as gently as possible that you are pregnant and getting married and she will be a grandma. She will be a little upset, I'm sure, but she will get over it and be thrilled for you! Best of luck with this.

Answer 17

You don't really have to convince your grandma that you can't have an abortion. Just don't have the abortion. The shock of you being pregnant at 18 is going to be hard on your family for awhile. They might not agree with your plans to keep it, but it is your baby. As the months go on, they will accept this and grow to be as excited as you. Especially when it is born. Just stick to your beliefs for now, and they will eventually come around. Good luck to you!