Abortion is wrong, but so is adoption?

Question

So abortion is wrong, right?

What about the men that threaten their wives, girlfriends, and lovers?

That tell them to get one or get out? To get one or they'll beat the baby out of them?

Answer 1

I don't think it's wrong at all to give a baby up for adoption.  Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do.  I have never looked at anyone as a low life for giving up their baby.  In fact, I would much rather see a woman put her baby up for adoption to a family who wants one and can take good care of one, than abort it!  As far as your story, I'm terribly sorry and am very glad you are out of that situation, and I do not think you are wrong, or low life, or terrible at all to give your baby to your aunt that can give that baby the love, care, and neccesities it needs!!  Kudos to you!!!

Answer 2

It's because abortion is murder, chopping a baby up into little tiny pieces. We don't even execute our worst criminals that way. You wouldn't do that with a newborn baby, right? Giving up a kid for adoption just shows a lack of responsibility, but it's not in the same category as abortion. Giving up a baby for adoption is of course a better alternative than killing it.

Well those men are absolute scum, but they're a minority. It's actually more common for a woman to get an abortion without even listening to the man's input or doing it behind his back. Not calling it the norm, just saying what it is.

No matter the circumstances, abortion is still wrong.

Answer 3

Its not about wether you have to deal with "c**p" Its really not about the mother at all its about an innocent baby that is going to get killed because of unlucky circumstances Adoption isnt the easiest way but dont you think its less selfish and more responsible than killing your baby there is a huge difference between murder and recognizing that you cant take care of a child at least you were smart enough to know that and give your baby a chance I dont understand the women out there that think it is better to kill their child than to give it to a loving and willing family

The doctor will suck the little baby out of her and throw it in the trash how would you like it if someone threw you away like you were useless garbage

"Suction aspiration, or "vacuum curettage," is the abortion technique used in most first trimester abortions. A powerful suction tube with a sharp cutting edge is inserted into the womb through the dilated cervix. The suction dismembers the body of the developing baby and tears the placenta from the wall of the uterus, sucking blood, amniotic fluid, placental tissue, and fetal parts into a collection bottle."

"Partial-Birth Abortion This procedure is used to abort women who are 20 to 32 weeks pregnant -- or even later into pregnancy Guided by ultrasound, the abortionist reaches into the uterus, grabs the unborn baby’s leg with forceps, and pulls the baby into the birth canal, except for the head, which is deliberately kept just inside the womb. (At this point in a partial-birth abortion, the baby is alive.) Then the abortionist jams scissors into the back of the baby’s skull and spreads the tips of the scissors apart to enlarge the wound. After removing the scissors, a suction catheter is inserted into the skull and the baby’s brains are sucked out. The collapsed head is then removed from the uterus"

No matter what the circumstance the baby didnt ask to be murdered A baby cannot decide whats right and wrong, a baby cannot help wether it is conceived by rape or whatever excuse there is to have an abortion if the baby could talk nobody would be able to justify its answer "No i dont want to die yes i want to live"its not up to anybody to determine the life or death of a human being and babies fetus's whatever wether the heart is beating or not doesnt justify murder

No its is not your body that baby has its own body its own brain,heart feelings and future the world tells us its our choice but thats wrong it is not your choice its the babies choice and no baby wants to die

there is a good family waiting to love and care for unwanted babies they all deserve that chance

Answer 4

If someone is with that type of man then they need to pack their bags and get as far away from that guy as possible even get a restraining order if need be.  I would have hoped your Aunt and Uncle would have helped you out regardless if you were going to let them adopt your baby.

I don’t feel its wrong to place a baby for adoption if one feels that is truly what is best for the baby and even the birthparent.  Sometimes you just have to let peoples opinions in one ear and out the other. Honestly you will come across people who will berate one for having an abortion, you’ll come across some who will berate one for placing the baby for adoption. You just have to do  what’s right for you and ignore people who often judge before knowing all the facts, after all they aren’t in your shoes.

Answer 5

well personally i would have routhered abortion to adoption! i have said that a few times too.

as to is abortion wrong, well in my opine we all have the right to chose and it is not wrong other then so me to say to you you have to do this or that. your body your deacon not mine!

as to the threaten their Waves/girlfriends and lovers well that is a crime and no one has to life with that bull report them to the police and let the law do it's job most coppers i know love to put that type of "thing" in jail (I use thing as they are not right to be places into human category maybe cowered would be a right and fitting category for them)

bottom line if you do not wont the child don't have s*x with them not to hard to grasp IMHO anyway

Answer 6

This is why you do what is right for YOU and not what others who harp on hype and have no idea what they are talking about try and convince you of their one sided views.

Albeit, abortion and adoption is perceived as wrong in some religious fanatics eyes when you (1) abort the fetus you are condemned to h**l (2) opt for adoption either noone adopts the baby because it has black hair and not blond hair resulting in life of foster care and perhaps abuse.

Damned if you do and damned if you don't!  So s***w everyone throwing their god into this because just that your god put you in the position to think clearly for yourself and make choices based on your specific situation their god have them thinking one sided.

Best of wishes on the best decision you made in your life!

Answer 7

you are absolutly right, well actually i didn't read your whole question because it is pretty long but here's what i think:

abortion is not wrong because what if the girl got pregnant by rape, then it wasn't her choice to have the baby at all.  and giving up the baby for adoption is wrong (unless you truly can't keep it) because what if the baby ends up in an orphanage, they won't get proper love, and foster parents sometimes only take in kids so they can get money.

Answer 8

I am sorry you have had such difficult, difficult experiences.  Thank you for sharing and maybe helping others see how complex these situations can be.  Not black and white.  Peace to you.

Answer 9

Abortion is murder.  Adoption makes families!

Answer 10

I wouldn;t let anything anyone tells you bother you. It is your decision!!! Abortion is wrong in some people's eyes. It is your body, and your choice to do what you want. I can't stand these people that preach on here. It is insane. I like the color blue so you should too. It's the exact same thing. Glad you also got out of those horrible living conditions!! Good luck!

Answer 11

Why don't u ask for help getting away from this jerk and keep your baby?? I think adoption is a gift of love and abortion is murder.

Answer 12

um no adotion isnt wrong u rather someone die or live and have hope with abortion it takes away on heart that ll never beat ect. so no it is not wrong to put he/her up for adoption and plus it sounds like ur boifriend id threating u to abort the baby so ummmm   run!!!

Answer 13

Doesn't really seem like you're asking a question that needs an answer, but more that you're just venting.  But the stigma attached to adoptive mothers sickens me.  I wish I knew ways to help it be eliminated.

Answer 14

I have never said adoption is completely wrong. Just that the father's have rights to. With out adoption my youngest will never have the joy of raising a child. But I also feel that the child deserves to know who is natural parents are and no secrets. If all these things are done right then how can a child grow up wondering who they are. I do believe that adopting couples need to look into the foster program before they should be able to take a new born, that way all these children from abuse homes get a fair chance to have a nice home, What do you think? Also thank god for people like you that don't kill your child just to make it easyer for yourself

Answer 15

You're absolutely right in my opinion.  There are some zealots out there who say abortion is so wrong but yet they don't offer ANY solutions to the mothers who are pregnant.  They are more than willing to point out a problem while giving no solution and it's wrong.  In my opinion, adoption is always the better choice if the only choices are adoption versus abortion.  I was adopted as a baby, and I am thankful my mother saw fit to give me the chance to have a wonderful life.

Answer 16

As a spirtiual person and an adoptee I feel terminating a pregnancy is kinder than birthing a child and sentencing him or her to a life without mother and being raised by strangers.

Reading your additional comments, it is sad that our society offers so little real support to expecting mothers. It's difficult to think rationally while pregnant and women can easily fall prey to all the "advice" being given.

Answer 17

it is indeed very hypocritical what you describe and I'm sorry people are like that.

I do think abortion is wrong and I honestly ADMIRE a woman who carries a child to term and gives birth to it only to give it up to someone else to raise. I can only imagine what kind of circumstance would drive a woman to do that and what kind of pain she must endure- the pain of being seperated from her own child, her own flesh.

Thank God that there are women who chose to live this kind of martyrdom rather than kill their own babies. I have never and would never judge, let alone condemn, a woman for putting her child up for adoption.

God bless you for the courage you have and I hope that in the long run everything works out for you, your baby and your aunt! I'll keep you in my prayers.

editted to add: i think that those who know that abortion is wrong and claim that they wouldn't do it for 'religious" reasons should also be charitable enough to offer to help a mother when she is faced with this situation. We should always offer to either adopt the child, offer some financial support, or at the very least moral and emotional support if not all of the above.

Answer 18

Why would you breed with a man who would do that?  You can't tell me that he suddenly changes when she gets knocked up.  So, what kind of fool would stay AND breed with him?

Answer 19

I am for abortion; however, I am against it as a way of birth control.  We, people, like to judge everyone else, but take a long look in the mirror at yourself and see what sins you've committed today alone.

Answer 20

You gave your child a better life by giving it loving parents, would you want to do this to the baby.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9WfJ_C0B...

Fist of all killing a baby kills a part of you. Giving a child up for adoption will hurt you but you just gave a child to someone who could not have one. Giving the baby a chance at life and your aunt a chance at mother hood.

If you watched the whole video you would know that adoption is better than abortion.

You don't want the baby right? AND LOVE IT

Adoption - it LIVES

Abortion -  it DIES

Which one is the better choice?

Answer 21

OK abortion in my eyes isnt wrong. It depends on the circumstance.

If a person has been raped or sexually abused and has become pregnant, then I dont see why abortion would be wrong for that person.

Adoption is not a bad thing either. Adoption can be very good for the child and the adoptive parents.

Adoption has been great for me and many others.I have two wonderfull parents. How is that wrong?

Not all people have experienced domestic violence in pregnancy either.

Abortion and Adoption comes down to circumstances.

It doesnt matter what choice you make, you should NEVER be judged.

People are so quick to judge people who have had an abortion, yet they dont know jack about what that person might have been through to take such measures.

Answer 22

If anyone told me that they would beat the baby out of me, I would run as fast and as far as I can or shoot him, which ever opportunity showed it's head first.