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Abortion not right for me but now what....i'm in trouble!

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I think I need serious mental help and soon! I am approximately 19 weeks preggo. This is my third pregnancy. I have two children from a previous marriage. In April I met a guy and we began to date. I'm 33, he's 26 and in the US Navy. We slept together and I got pregnant. The original plan was for me to abort the baby and he actually paid half. I went to the clinic, filled out the paperwork and I couldn't do it.

I live with my best friend Joe. Joe is 42 and we've gone through h**l together. I told him about my pregnancy and how I couldn't go through with the abortion. He basically told me in a nutshell if I didn't abort the child he'd throw me out of his home. After my divorce my two children and I moved in with Joe. Joe has enough room and I really have bad credit, no savings and although I make 75k a year plus my bonus I have mounting debts due to my child being in the hospital for many years.

So I lied and told Joe I'd have an abortion. When he was away in New York he called me and asked me if I had gone through with it. I told him I did. He told me it was a good decision. Here is the deal. I DIDN'T GO THROUGH WITH IT.

I'm now 20 weeks pregnant and although I could still go and get that abortion (up to 24 weeks here in WA state) I can't bring myself to do it. I feel like I'm risking everything and if he finds out I'm worried sick he'll throw me out and I will be homeless cause I have no savings, no good credit and NO family - not one family person so no support whatsoever.

I'm not showing yet because I'm chubby already and I probably can hide up to 6 or 7 months.

WHAT the h**l do I do? I'm am sick and tired and exhausted and I cry myself to sleep.

The father will PAY child support, we've already discussed!

What do I do? Do I just buck up and go get the abortion? How do I tell my two kids and how do I tell my best friend I lied about this?

I drank alot in first trimester cause I thought I was going to abort.

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  1. Don't abort your baby! I don't mean to sound rude but you have to get on the ball. Get an apartment for you and your kids if you have to. 75k a year is more than enough to make it. You may have to pay minimum payments on your debt makers or something....You have to make a stable life for your kids. Its not gonna be easy but it sounds like your friend is trying to make you grow up. You can't expect him to take you and your kids in as a favor and you still have more kids. Its not gonna work. I diagree with the abortion thing but you gotta look at the big picture.


  2. why isnt the father helping you now?

    try going to a shelter and try to get all the assistance you can.  

  3. Thats good the father is willing to support you.

    Im sorry but 'joe'is no friend. Find yourself somewhere else, there will be a way. Dont be forced into killing a child for the time reason that joe says so.....hes a t**t imo

    im 19 weeks pregnant, and I know why u cant go through with an abortion - its just not right if theres a healthy fit little baby in there and a baby can feel pain at 20 weeks aswell as your voice and noises. There is no difference between killing a child in the womb and killing it after its been born, please consider other options if you really cant keep it.

    Ask if the father will help you find somewhere to live in order for you to have this baby, you are both resonsible. If not, your local authority should be able to help.

    Good luck with your pregnancy and finding a realy best friend, because joe certainly isnt one.

  4. you dont want an abortion. I am 24 weeks I have been feeling my baby kick for months now and I couldn't imagine losing the baby.

    I live in oregon and  I have worked with a pregnancy resource center. and I know there are some  resources available to you to get out of Joes house and into something else.  Even temporary until you can find something better.

    I dont know what city your in but you can look in the phone book under pregnancy resource centers and I am thinking you could get some information from them.

    You can do this I know that it sounds hard but you can.

    Good luck to you and God bless.


  5. Welfare will help you. Joe sounds like a complete *** if he is making you have an abortion in order to stay in his house. Someone will help you get housing until you get on your feet. Why can't you live with the baby's father? There are other options.

  6. first get the baby checked out to make sure no permanant damage has been done to the baby. after talking to the doctor about what ever the situation is.  The one who said to get an abortion is a creap!  what if you gave the baby for adoption instead?  Maybe this video will help you with your decision.

  7. Please don't listen to @$$ Joe!!! Please do not abortion your baby, :( it's like you murder your baby :( and why don't you tell Joe that he can't tell you what to do, and u tell him that it's ur life. not his, he actin like he is the BOSS! tell him NO, be stand up your self and don't let him tell u what to do, I understand that u have no place to live and your 2kids but explain to ur kids that they  goin have another bro or sis, im sure they are goin be so excited, and Joe can't tell u wut to do!!! explain to him that u can't afford it to ABORTION (lie to him) lol..and tell him that I want keep my baby and I don't want to kill my baby, u cant be mad, and he is not THE FATHER,he can't tell u wut to do, if he kick u out. then you can move with ur friends for a while?..JOE IS @$$!!!! don't kill your baby plss!!

  8. I feel for you i really do , but getting rid of this baby is obviously something taht you didnt want to do , I would not be pressured into it , yeah things maybe a little tight for a while until you sort out a plac for you all to stay but surely you will get help with a place to live from the government ( dont know how it works there ) but surely they arent going to see you on the streets ? I think that 20 weeks is a but late to be changing your mind on a termination but that is just my opinion at the end of the day you haev to do what is going to be right for you and your family.

  9. YOU need to decide what is right for you and your family and not everyone else...

    Also take into consideration adopting the baby out...there is still time for that  

  10. I have the answer for you, i promise this will work. First, dont have an abortion. Second, i know this adoption agency call Journey Of The Heart and will Pay for EVEREYTHING. They will get you into a house and pay all your bills and doctors and anything you need at all. This will stay untill afetr you have the baby around 3 months after. This does not mean THEY ARE BUYING YOUR BABY. please do not think that. They want to help you through this hard time and give the baby to someone who can take care of the baby. I live in Everett washington and am working with them now. My email address is alanaruth18@hotmail.com , feel free to ask qestions i am here to help you and can give you any information about them you need or want. This will get you out of that house and your own and will show you much more stuff, even if you change you mind after you have the baby no worrys. They dont mind. They just dont want you to think that they gave you money means you cant change you mind in anyway.  

  11. Thank you for not aborting I am so glad that did not happen.Do you have some family you can go to even if they are out of state I would do it don't worry about what the due you live with now is going to to say it really is none of his business.I would find family or friends far and in between that maybe you could stay with.God bless

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