Abortion.? pro-life only.?

Question

If a woman tells you that she is going to have an abortion how do you convince her not to?

Answer 1

I don't, it's her decision.

Answer 2

You mind your own business and let her make her own decision.

Answer 3

I doubt I could.  I would have to base this on the relationship I have with her and what I know about her..

Answer 4

Could abortion be made retroactive if a women after giving birth regrets it because she ended up with an unthankful uncontrollable little brat.

I do not agree with that, it is just food for thought.

Something abortion advocates should think about, if abortion was free and or more readily available with out the guilt placed on people by those against it, how many "Rights" advocates would not be here today.

No idea how to change a persons mind!

Answer 5

NONE of my business.

Answer 6

show her pictures (easily available online) of those poor dead and dismembered 'lumps of tissue'.

Answer 7

First, it is not your place to "convince her not to," it is her decision, not yours, mine or the government.

Next, if you want to reduce abortions then, instead of passing laws which do not work, you need to provide a viable alternative.  Adoption is that alternative.  Unfortunately, adoption is not viable.  Even with all the "anti-abortion" "conservative Christians" in America, Adoption.com reports: More than 100,000 children in the United States are in foster care waiting for permanent families.

It seems we can gather many to protest but none to act.  Why is this?

Because it is in the best interest of conservative Republicans to continue to have abortions to run against.  Significant adoptions means the end of a wedge issue.  Do you think Rove/McCain/Palin actually want that?  

All abortion laws should be thrown out and the anti-abortion crowd should promote adoption.  Then we may be able to "convince her not to" because she will have an alternative.

Don't hold your breath: the conservative Christians (who are neither) won't let that happen.  Who would vote for them then?

Answer 8

Well in the end I wouldn't be able to force her not to have one, but I would say, "you might regret it down the line when you find out stuff about abortions that you NEVER knew before going into the procedure, for example that the baby can feel the abortion, because no form of death is painless," I would also say, "that is YOUR baby, not just the guy that impregnated you, but YOURS." Also its your baby, but its not YOUR life that you'll be taking away....and that there are other options." Also last but not least I would say, "grow up"

Answer 9

you cant really talk someone out of the termination. But I don't know anyone who has made the choice to terminate that does not still think about the child they lost. It is very hard to live with and can lead to infertility. You can not approach it as a right or wrong you just want to make sure to present her with the facts. i dont know if forcing her to church is a good idea. but defiantly counseling. and other options.But do remember it is her body and as long as your a good friend you will be there for her. good luck  

Answer 10

I don't.  I make sure she understands all of her options and allow her to make her own decision.  I am there for her, whether she wants to talk or cry. Choosing to have an abortion is a very emotional decision.  Most women do not make the decision to terminate a pregnancy lightly.  I won't judge her, I'll just be her friend.  

Answer 11

So if she tells me she wants to commit suicide, it's her body, her life, her choice and I should mind my own business? WOW sick people out there

Answer 12

I talked my sister out of an abortion she was 17 and the "father" used her and left. I told her I would help in any way I can  baby sitting  ect my parents were also very helpful when the baby came. And now he is  A great young man. And my sister thanks me everyday I talked her out of it.

Answer 13

It's pretty difficult if their mind is already made up. Best thing would be to take her to church and let her get some counseling from a preacher.  

Answer 14

make sure she goes to a reputable clinic for her termination where counselling is given first.. this will allow her to weigh her options... source support if needed and therefore make the best decision possible...  

Answer 15

How about offering to adopt the baby.

Answer 16

I keep my mouth shut and don't push my belief on her.  What I might do is offer support, a hug, friendship, and solidarity in the decision she is going through despite my own personal feelings.  Unless you have personally been in her her shoes, you cannot imagine what emotional toll is going on within her.

Answer 17

i tell her : BAD IDEA!

Answer 18

Stop pushing your beliefs on people its pathetic & cult like. Its none of your business.

Answer 19

Bring her to church

Answer 20

Pretty hard to talk logic to a emotional dumpster. Ask her what about the guy who got her pregnant, maybe he actually has a heart and wants his child? Ask her why she won't give the kid up for adoption instead of murdering it? It was her choice to be sexually irresponsible, not the baby growing inside of her, why should that child be punished for her actions. Maybe ask her how she would have felt if her mom decided to get an abortion?  

Answer 21

First, I would ask her if I had her permission to talk with her about the subject, although that is implied with her telling me. I would usually tell her of another basic option: granting life to an individual who was created (by her and a male, whether accidentally or irresponsibly) and deserves life, like us. One major purpose of intercourse is procreation, and that creation is human, worthwhile, and valuable, no matter the circumstances of the conception, or even possible health problems or concerns about the future.

I would tell her of the potential that child could have to impact our world. What if Einstein, Gorbachev, Da Vinci, Madame Marie Currie, Bill Gates, Mark Twain, etc...were not given the opportunity for life?

I would express that there are emotional side-effects to abortion which can last for years, as well as risks during surgery (not merely a procedure), and possible future physical problems. Also I would suggest that in terms of her preparedness or lifestyle, or relationship with the father can be dealt with by adoption.  I would suggest the opportunity to put the child up for adoption--that there are many good couples who would love to adopt an infant. A friend I knew had one natural child, and 8 adoptees, of different races, and they are a wonderful family.

And I would most importantly give her the names and phone numbers of local pro-life organizations which would help her and support her through the pregnancy, delivery and beyond. And if she requested, I would drive her there and help her with the initial contacts.