Abortion.. [[ your thoughts ]]

Question

I'm 18 years old.. as I was growing up, I was taught not to make a mistake.. by ruining my life.. [[ having a child, while I'm still a child.. ]]

I know I am going to have a lot of people saying Abortions are murder.. but when your pregnant, it isnt murder unless your past 3 months.. and thats illegal.

I thought I was pregnant a few times when I was younger.. and if I was, I was going to have an abortion. having a child when your 13-17 is horrible.. you have no responsibility's.. I am now 18, and if I was to find out i'm pregnant.. I would keep it..

I have a place of my own.. my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, I have a job, so does my boyfriend.. he has his liecense, and I dont yet.. we have both graduated from high school.. theres still something missing in my head.. but at the same time.. I'm ready..

Do you agree children shouldnt have children? adoption is another choice.. but I'm not giving my child to another parent, who might not treat my kid right, and my kid will always wonder why I gave him/her away..

whats your thoughts? & be honest..

Answer 1

my thought on abortion is that if i couldn't take care of the baby myself i would rather give another family the cant have children of there own a chance to raise it.

But i would want to keep it because my aunt got an abortion when she was 16 then when she was finally ready to have childern she gave brith to her son jacob and he has a very high chance of not living he has tumors in his brain. and he has the mind set of a 1 year old and that will never change. now she cant have anymore kids because of something wrong with her uterus.. now she regrets her abortion because she feels that was her only chance of a child and her to have a normal relationship.

Answer 2

to me i think that abortion and adoption is wrong someone that has a baby has the baby right under there heart for 9 months that has to mean something  

Answer 3

Obviously the first step I believe to be taken is prevention. If someone's not ready to support a child they should not have s*x.

But once the child is coming along they should either keep the child or give her up for adoption. There are good programs were you can see as your child grows up and keep in touch. Abortion in my opinion should only be used in special cases such as rape.

Answer 4

Hi, I don;t exactly no what you are going through but I no that you shouldn;t have an abortion. that is taking a live no matter what ya "3 months don;t cout" but isn't every cell a life?..think about it I say no abortion but that's my opion I would constantly wonder did I make the rite choice?..what would my child have been like?...etc.  

good luck in your decision.

Answer 5

My thoughts of abortion.....it's wrong, it's taking out of the child's life.  I just hate when people have s*x on such a young age and decided 'what the hey", I am going to abort this child.  It's just wrong, pure evil.

Answer 6

I TOTALLY agree with sunshine!

Answer 7

Ok first off, it is murder in the first 3 months because that baby/fetus has a heartbeat at 6 weeks. also you think it is better to kill your baby then to give it to a family who have been questioned and monitored and evaluated by the government? if they say they're fit to be parents then they are. Yes I am against abortion. is it sad when young kids get pregnant? Yes, but I don't think that abortion is a good way to just "fix" the problem. give it up for adoption or if your family is close enough raise it together. give me a thumbs down I don't care. My friends sister tried her damnedest to get pregnant and couldn't and a woman gave her, her child and if you could see how happy this woman is to have that wonderful little boy, I think you would take back what you said about adoption. also, abortion after the 3 months is not illegal it can be done up to 24 weeks or 28 can't remember, all I know is after reading how abortions are done. they are so wrong and should never happen no matter how far along she is. You asked me for my opinion I gave it to you.

Answer 8

if you think child shouldn't be have a child then they should keep there legs close by not having s*x. why will you want to kill your own baby? if your mom didn't kill you by getting an abortion then you shouldn't take an innocent life away.  cause if you are a christian you know that abortion is murder cause it says in the bible. look at this websites

stupid

Answer 9

Honey. If you honestly think you could take care of a baby. Keep it! It is sad to me to do an abortion. It was you who had s*x. It's not the baby's fault. Look, I'm sure if that happened and the baby was born you would love it! Babies and children are wonderful. If you wanted to go to college you could find someone to watch it during school or work. It sounds like you and your boyfriend might get married some day also. Trust me if people are mad about you having a baby and they judge you. They will judge you more if you do an abortion. My mom had my sister at 18 and everything turned out fine. Please don't have an abortion. Also it says in the bible not to. Because technically it is killing a person. Whether they're under 3 months or not. You told me to be honest and I am. I hope that helped.

Answer 10

I am personally against abortion, but that only means I wouldn't have one myself, or advise someone to have one. I don't think anyone has the right to push their personal beliefs onto other people or (God forbid) try to make it law! Everyone has their own personal situation and it's impossible to say what people should do without knowing them.

Answer 11

It is murder no matter how far along you are. If you're dumb enough to have s*x and 13 then deal with the consequences.  

Answer 12

abortion is wrong.

Answer 13

I am pro choise in every case

Answer 14

Before having my own children I would have probably said it's a women's choice. I can now tell you as a mother my perspective is very different.  Once that baby is conceived he or she is a living unique person.  I had my children once I was married and settled but I still have to give up things in my life for them.  That's just the way it is.  I would have never been able to live with myself now had I aborted earlier.  I hope I don't sound like I'm preaching.  I'm just trying to give you my own feeling on the whole thing.

Answer 15

First of all, I bet you get a lot of responses saying the abortion is murder and no one should ever do it. They have a right to that opinion, but the don't have a right to force that opinion on anyone else, especially using terrorist-like activities to scare people (aka bombing clinics, threatening patient confidentiality, etc.)

I don't think that anyone is FOR abortion. It is a necessary evil that some people choose to have instead of having a baby. And I think it is a very viable option for those young people who may have physical problems because their bodies are still young and growing. Not to mention the mental issues it might introduce.

Adoption is also a very lovely choice--but it requires that a woman or young girl take care of herself and the unborn child for several months, birth that child, and then hand it over to a stranger. Not something I think that a 13-17 year old can really handle.

In an ideal world, we wouldn't have to worry about any of this. All children will be conceived in a loving relationship where both partners are ready for children and are willing and able to take care of those children. But we know the reality, that not all children are planned or wanted.

I think those people who spend so much time and energy towards eliminating abortion should concentrate their energy on making the world a place where every child is a wanted and cared-for child. Perhaps adopting children themselves, or working towards a healthcare system that will allow young mothers to afford childcare, medicines, daycare, and the medical help they and the child requires. Perhaps that way, a pregnant teen won't have to think that having a baby would ruin the rest of her life.

You sound like a very intelligent, reasonable person. You'll make a great parent some day, and I trust you'll know when that will be and will practice safe s*x until that time.  

Answer 16

now that you're 18, I think the right thing to do would be to keep your child. Im sure you and your boyfriend would have the ability to raise this child, but do you think life will be good? Neither of you have a university degree, which makes it a lot more difficult to get a good paying job. Neither one of my parents had a university degree, and our life was always middle-class. I never had the best clothes, the best food, the best anything. But we were happy. If you really wanted to give your kid a good life , you shouldve waited until you graduated univerisity. But if you're pregnant now, you should keep it, its the least you could do.

Answer 17

I am not going to say abortion is murder but I don't really think you should get abortions because you would end up regretting it. I dont think I am the right person to be saying kids shouldnt have kids but they should try not to...get pregnant anyway.  

Answer 18

I think its always murder and im against it

However when your in that situation everything changes

But i feel that the unborn child still has life just inside of the mother

Its developing, it has lungs, a hearth and all organs that you and I have therefore its still just muder.

Im against abortion But its every womans choice, no one can tell someone that its right or wrong it depends on the circumstances

But look at some of these pictures

http://www.priestsforlife.org/resources/...

And those are less graphic than many images of aborted babies i have seen

Personally i dont think i could ever do that to a baby..but i guess everything would change when you are in that situation

Answer 19

I personally think that abortion is their choice. I have no say, and nobody else should in what they want to do with their life and if they want an abortion.

I understand what you mean when you say children having children. It's difficult to hear. I think these kids are just looking for some love, because they're not getting enough of it somewhere.

Answer 20

Children shouldn't have children.  That's just yucky, in my personal opinion. The kid would wonder why he was adopted and be like WHY DIDN'T MY MOM WANT ME?  I think about it like, if the mom really didn't want you, then the mom would've had an abortion.  She cared enough to let you be born into the world.  And as kids get older, they start to understand things more.  You really can't tell little kids why things happen, because they are younger and don't really understand why things happen and such.  You catch my drift?  That's why I'm against abortion, because it's awful.  You just took away a life that could've changed the world, or would've been a great person.  Killing a baby that would've been born is just a sad thing.  And who would want to live with the fact that they pretty much killed their own could've-been-child?

Answer 21

i don't agree with abortion, i do think it is wrong, no matter what month it is in, but i do think that every women should have the choice to have one or not.

the one thing i really don't like is that some people use abortion as birth control and have had numerous abortions,  while it should be their choice I don't think it is right that they have had 4+ abortions either.

I do think that adoption is a better way to go...open adoption where you can still be involved with your child's life vs. closed.

Answer 22

Yikes, I can just imagine some of the answers you're going to get! Honestly, I believe that it's the woman's choice.  But that said, I also believe a woman should be responsible with birth control to avoid any "accidents".  Even with b/c, accidents can happen, obviously, therefore the option for abortion should be made available.  I would never presume to tell another woman that she should carry the baby for 9 months only to put it up for adoption, or to suck it up and keep the baby.  I walk in my shoes, nobody else's.  I don't think "children should have children", no, but I also don't think that "children" should be having s*x.

Answer 23

I agree with you.

If your life is stable and you can take care of it then u should.

Answer 24

I don't are how far along you are.  If you've conceived a child, you've CONCEIVED A CHILD!! YOU HAVE A BABY IN YOU

Abortion at any point is murder.

your kid might woner why you gave them away, but their parents can explain to them that you did it out of love.  If I found out that I was adopted because my mother couldn't take care of me, I'd appreciate it because at least she gave me the gift of life.

Don't have children yet.  Wait until you're 20

Answer 25

i agree with the whole, "don't have a kid, while you're still a child"

but i am totally against abortion.

i think that it is wrong.

i read an article one time,

and it was a doctor telling the story,

and he was saying how he heard a baby screaming when he was like "sucking" the baby out.

and from then on, he never did another abortion.

i think its wrong.

but i think kids should wait anyways.

here's my opinion,

like you asked.

haah.

Answer 26

I think abortion is a wonderful option for those who are not ready to become mothers. As long as it is done legally and at a safe clinic or hospital, I have no problem with it. If a woman is using it as a form of birth control, it is wrong.

Answer 27

Honestly, I'm not sure what my thoughts on abortion are.  I mean, I think that taking away a life is horrible... but then again, there ARE situations when someone may get pregnant and not be able to handle having a child (or if they got raped or something).  

I'm glad that you think that if you got pregnant now, you'd keep it.  :)  

Maybe the thing that you think you are 'missing' is being married?  I think it's a little more unusual for unmarried couples to have children than married ones.  But who knows really!  lol.

Answer 28

not matter what i will always think abortion is murder. your taking away a innocent childs life & for what because you made the mistake of not using protection. i dont think i'll ever abort a child im sorry if some of you dont agree with what i said but i think its just pure murder!

& another thing why get pregnant with a child & then just up & abort. do you even know what they do to the fetus's that don't die right away if you don't look it up! & getting a abortion will only bring guilt & depression , if it doesn't your some kind of freaking monster.

Answer 29

Abortion is murder at any stage. This is one case where I firmly believe the law is WRONG. I fully support making abortions illegal except in cases of medical necessity or rape.

It is a human life. To me, the ultimate selfishness is to kill your baby because of YOUR mistake. So you can "Get on with your life."  The ultimate in selfishness.  I think young people should keep their legs closed, or if not, at least be responsible enough to guarantee no pregnancy by using THREE methods of BC simultaneously (the pill, condoms and spermicide).. If you "make a mistake" be responsible enough to face the consequences YOURSELF, not dumping them on your child.

Adoption is not as good a choice as raising the child yourself, but it's better than abortion

Abortion doesn't "undo" a pregnancy. THe mistake has been made. It doesn't "undo" It just kills a living being, and sets the girl up for potential SERIOUS regret and/or mental problems. .

Answer 30

I guess my first thought is why aren't you protecting yourself so you don't have to worry about this so much???  You are so young and if it turns out that you are not pregnant (hopefully), then I would say to get on the pill. You have a whole life in front of you to have kids. Kids are a lifelong investment. Your younger years are about you and for you to have fun and to live life and learn about things, to grown, to become more mature and responsible, to get to know who you are and what you want out of life and for yourself.

s*x is fun and thinking about having a family is fun but in reality it isn't as much fun. You no longer get to do what you want when you want because you have to attend to a childs needs.  

I'm not coming down on you, so please don't take it that way. I just want you to stop and think about how many years you think you have until you die. You have probably more than plenty but how many of them will you be in your 20's?  You only have 10 of them, so live it up. Travel, get a job or a career, learn a new language, etc. Babies will come in time and they will be your responsibility forever. Watch that tv show about borrowing babies or something to get an idea.

Ok ok, now to answer your real question on abortion, well I sort of think it's murder if you aren't doing anything to protect yourself except for thinking you can just abort it. That being irresponsible.  If you aren't protecting yourself, then you should be responsible in either having it and caring for it yourself which will be hard or giving another parent the responsiblity of it.

All choices will be hard. You have to pick the one that is most right for you and the baby.

Good luck and please at this point forward, get on the pill!

Answer 31

I do believe abortion is wrong and it is murder even from the time of conception.  I also think you need to investigate adoption more closely.  I am of the father of two wonderful children my wife and I adopted because we can't have any of our own.  Adoption agencies screen prospective parents extremely thoroughly. It is also an expensive process so I can't imagine anyone putting so much money and time into adopting a child and then mistreating the child.  As far as how it will affect the child, we will remind our children that their birth mother loved them and that they were adopted because she wasn't able to provide for them the way she wanted to.  Most adoptions are open adoptions which means the birth mother can receive letters and pictures so they know that the child is happy and healthy.