About Being A Young Mother!!!?

Question

I am 20 years old and have a 10 month old son. When I am out with my son and happen to run into other mothers, sometimes they stop and we comment about each other children. (This happened more than 5 times) Older mothers ask me how old I am and I say my age and they look at me like I am so young with a baby. I cant imagine what they are really thinking about me. I am a good mother, have a good job and going to school online to earn my BA in secondary education. Some of the negative things people say about young parents really gets me mad!!!

What do you think about young mothers??

Answer 1

I was 19 when I got pregnant and 20 before I had him. I think there are great young mothers and great older mothers, but there are also horrible young mothers and older mothers. It isn't the age that makes a difference in my opinion its the parenting skills and the love you show a child. When I was pregnant people looked at me funny cause I was young, but I supported myself and my son without help from the biological father so I figured they could think whatever they want.

plus I have the energy necessary to chase a crazy 6 year old, I don't think I could at 30 or older.

Answer 2

I think that the majority of them are still too immature to handle such a big, life-long responsibility, but people need to realize that not everyone is the same! That's really great that you are doing so well for yourself and your baby! Keep it up and don't let what other people say get to you! It's going to be a tough ride, but if you keep your head in the right place and do your best, I'm positive that your child will thank you when they're older!

Best of luck and God bless!

Answer 3

My sister had my nephew at 21 and is working on her B.S.N. to become a mother baby nurse. She just took a phlebotomy class so she can get into the medical field sooner.

Answer 4

your 20 then thats a good age to start having a family peeps that look at you funny are probz just jealous and wish they were 20 again x

Answer 5

You're not TOO young, I mean compared to girls that are mothers at fourteen or fifteen these days. As long as you have a job and are planning to study and you're a good mother with your baby, I don't care! I think it's perfectly fine! :)

But what I do have a problem with is really young mothers who don't realize how important their children are and who don't work or go to school. They've thrown their lives away and they're not giving the baby all it deserves.

But I think you're alright!!! :)

Answer 6

I got married just after my 21st  birthday, and was fully ready to be a mother at that point (even though we waited a few years).  Just be a good mommy to your son, and he won't care how old you are!  Yes, you will gain wisdom and maturity as you get older, but that would happen with or without parenthood.  Ignore anyone who looks down on you, and do the best you can to provide a loving, caring, stable home for your baby.  Good luck!

Answer 7

I too was a young Mother @ age 20.  Financially challenged I managed to end up raising 2 beautiful daughters that are now 23 and 18 as a single parent without the help of their Father, Grandparents/Aunts/Uncles, not by choice, but I do not have the luxury of these other people for assistance  My oldest daughter has received her Bachelor's degree and working on her Masters.  My 18 year old daughter is a High School Sr. and will graduate in the top 10% of her class.  Both daughters were/are very active in school activities, Girl Scouts and Church.  I would not recomend young girls to purposely start a family.  I do recomend that if you should be a young mother that you get all of the litature available on raising a child.  I hope that young Mothers also ask for help when they need it.  Have patience and do your best to provide that child with all the love and care possible  As far as the other Mothers that choose to stare or discuss you/your child or your age please ignore them.  Age or lack there of does not make a good Mother.  I have since married and now at age 42 have a one year old son and let me assure you that although I am not financially challanged now, that raising a child now is not any different than it was for me at 20.  Keep your head up and give all the love in your heart to your child.

Answer 8

I think there are both good mothers and not-so-good mothers, at any age.  Young mom doesn't necessarily equate to bad mom, although many people seem to think so.  I think a lot of people think young moms may not be as responsible or lack experience, but older moms can be the same way, especially in the experience dept. when it comes to doing everything the first time.  Besides, whether you are 20 or 30 with your first child, you always wonder what other people think of you and the way you are doing things.  Some people are just like that, regardless of age.  You know yourself and your son better than anyone, so all you can do is blame other people's negative comments on ignorance and just let it pass by.  A lot of times they are assuming things about you, which makes them look stupid in the end anyway.  No need to waste your time worrying about them or getting mad, you've got better things to do, I'm sure!

Answer 9

I'm a young mother and i think its great! I love the fact that i will be young enough to enjoy my grand children. Don't worry about other people, they are probably going to talk no matter how good of a mom you are.

Answer 10

well... you are 20. so when they ask you make something up. be like oh... im 27. practice saying it., or who cares what they think. why does it matter? is it like since you are 20 you dont know what your doing? I am 26 now and i think i need advice sometimes. we are all human. I really would not worry about what others say. WHO CARES! you feed... clothe,... change diapers... pay rent... went to school... and you are doing fine with the child im sure.

dont worry about them and worry about yourself. maybe dont stop and talk. I know i dont... they always have something negitive to me. Like... (this should not matter... but im a L*****n mother) they always ASSUME that he has his dads eyes. His donor is donor 1721... and my girlfriend is who he calls daddy... which in a way... she is... cause she is the one who injected me... But that is a long story. she has green eyes not blue like my sons. honeslty, i dont know what his eyes were.(the donors eyes) its rather annoying. and then they see my partner and shun both of us and give my son the Oh poor thing look and walk away. but before they knew... I was doing so well with him, he is so well behaved... he is beautiful... he is bla bla bla...

good luck. and dont worry. you sound like a neat mommy

Answer 11

I'm 21 with a 4 month old me and my partner have good jobs and own our own home.

i was once in a shopping centre and as i breastfeed my son went to use the breast feeding room a cleaner in the toilets alerted a security guard when i entered the room that she thought i was shop lifting, so as i was feeding my son two male security guards burst in, needless to say they went bright red and the excuse i got was that i looked too young to have a baby and breast feed. i was fuming and put in a formall complaint but i get stared at all the time. so like my mum says age is just a number. me and my family know im a good mum and thats all that matters.

Answer 12

Same answer as earlier today to a similar question:

Because they are ignorant, and generalize them all into one group. They fail to see that a good precentage of them are doing great, and supporting themselves. I was pregnant, married and moved 2200 miles at 17. Bought my house at 19 on an acre, 2 miles off the lake! So obviously we arent irresponsible, and not supporting ourselves. How else would our credit be running at 720??? Can the "older" parents say the same....most of the time no they cant. It's fine though, just do what you do, make a life...and laugh at the ignorant ones that haven't done 1/2 of what you have at double or triple your age. You guys will be fine! Your doing great! just keep with it, and enjoy that lil one! They get big so fast!

Oh, and a little bit of ironic info...pull the stats on the age of gov. assistance recieving people...the MAJORITY are older parents! Not younger ones. Check out the lines at the store the day WIC checks are recieved...most people with them aren't teens or young mom's...they are older people with a bunch of kids that look like trash! So that accuisation is made out of statistical ignorance.