About adoption... can anyone PLEASE help me?

Question

I was adopted when I was 3 months old, and I have very little information on my birth parents. I know what my given name at birth was, Brandi Rae (maybe spelled Brandy), but I have no last name to go on. My birth father's father owned a construction company in NC. And, I know their first names were Lisa and Robert.

Does anyone know how I can find them?? I don't want to spend hundreds of dollars to find them if they don't want to see/talk to me. I just want to know basic things, like my medical history and if I have siblings, and who I look like. I would love to have a relationship with them, but if corresponding by email or letters will work, I can deal with that, as well.

Someone please help. Websites or anything, even phone numbers of people who can help for free or with a reasonable price. I would greatly appreciate it.

Answer 1

Follow Possum's suggestions.  This page http://adoptionreform-nc.org/search_ange... has some search angels listed for North Carolina (scroll down.)  

Also, you can opt to petition the court to get copy of your original birth certificate.  It will give you your last name at birth, and the last name of your first mother and possibly of your first father.  

You are right.  The CI system in North Carolina, like many states, is an outrageous joke with their high costs.  CI systems are ridiculous.

Answer 2

Here are some places to start your search -

First - add your details to the registries here

http://www.isrr.net/

http://registry.adoption.com/

Check for information on your state records here -

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

Check here for search help - and links to search angels -

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/

And check here for any support - it's the best online forum for adoptees I've found -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/

All the very best with your search.

Answer 3

First of all, I hope that your experience turns out well.

With that in mind, please ask yourself if spending the $500-$700 now is worth the anxiety of not knowing.  Now ask yourself if it is worth reconnecting with them if they DO want to communicate with you.

Answer 4

I was also adopted as an infant through Catholic Social Services. If you can find out the agency that handled your adoption, you can contact them and they can in turn try to contact your biological parents and relay a message or information back to you.