About adoption?

Question

i want to know tht how we can tell childern tht thy r adopted

Answer 1

I think it's different for each child based upon the circumstances and their level of maturity.  I've personally never had a "sit down, I need to tell you something" type conversation with my oldest adopted daughter (the youngest one is only 5 months old yet).  What my wife and I did was we made up a bed time story for my oldest daughter when she was younger.  We called it "The Alisha Story" because it encompassed the circumstances around how my wife and I decided to adopt and when we first met my daughter in the overseas orphanage.  We talk about that first meeting and the joy she has brought to our lives.  She's 15 and occassionally, especially if she is under the weather, she'll ask for "The Alisha Story" during those quiet moments with a parent.  Now that she is older she knows the circumstances of her arrival at the orphanage, or as much info as we have about it, and she knows about the country of her birth but the actual fact that she was adopted has always just been part of who she is and who we are as a family.  No big moment of revelation.

Answer 2

I was adopted by my parents.  So were my other brothers and sisters.  My parents were foster parents for DCFS and it was common for us to have kids come and go in our house.  We, my brothers and sisters and I have always known we were adopted.  We knew the circumstances of why these foster kids had come and yes we had questions of our own but my parents never hid any of the details from us when we asked.  I've always been grateful for their honesty.

Answer 3

Actually u need not tell the child that u are adopting him/her.

If the child is very small u need not tell, as u r going to be it's parent. and if the child is some what elder so that he/she understands everything. then there is no need of telling, as he/she will understand that he/she is going to be adopted.

so why u worry? cheer yar.

Answer 4

it is one best way to accomplish ours needed, and to have good royalties among the world, i guess its great job to adoption for any thing....

Answer 5

Take the lead from the child and start by not lying about the adoption to friends and family.When the child starts asking questions about where do babies come from etc,be honest and tell that usually they come from mummy's tummy but sometime they do not.Answer according to age and question of child.Never wait for a child to be 10,16 or 21 to give them the shock about this fundamental fact of their life.If you have provided info gradually and naturally to a child over a period of time,they usually grow up with  positive attitude about this fact of their life.Also maintain photo albums from the start and share with them the simple facts about the place you adopted them from.Hiding facts usually leads to tricky situations where a careless remark from a cousin or a relative can shatter a child's faith in his her adoptive parents.