About my baby name.........?

Question

I'm 38 weeks preggy and I'm planning on naming my baby Daniela Ivanya. My babys daddy is not in the picture anymore......well he is but not really involved. He ended up getting back together with his ex. So anyway, I'm over and done with that situation but I'm planning on putting my last name on the baby which isnt the issue. The issue is people are getting upset because the fathers name is Ivan and I want the baby to have a middle name involving her father which I chose it to be Ivanya. People close to me including my mother totally want me to either give her no middle name or choose a different one because of what he did to me which was leaving me at 5 months. I figure its not the babys fault what her parents are going threw but I am still very strong in naming her what I want too! How do I tell those people to please just drop the nagging with the middle name and and leave me alone about it. Please I could use some advise. Thanks & God Bless!!!

Answer 1

It's a terrible name but it's just a name............

Do you live at home?  Why is your family so involved?

Answer 2

I would just suggest to tell them its not the babies fualt. just because hes not with you doesn't mean that hes not gonna wanna have anything to do with the baby i mean afterall who could say no to an innocent baby. Some people can but for the daniela's sake i hope he doesn't.

Answer 3

If you guys aren't together, and he left you for a ex girlfriend, why would you honor him by naming your daughter after him? Doesn't make much sense to me either.

but if this is what you want to do, then this is your choice. I'm having a issue with a name I like and my mother doesn't and says not so nice things about it if I choose to name my son that. It's rough to have people not like something you've taken time to come up with.. I totally get it.

What i've decided to do it to not share the name i decide on with the people i know aren't going to be supportive. Maybe if you are finding your family is having issues with this, then you leave them out.. Say, the name is being kept a secret, or if you do want to tell them and they start in on the negative comments, then say it's not up for debate, and move onto a different subject.

I say it's just a name, and there's no reason you should have to be stressed out about it on a daily basis. name her what you want. It's your child. :) Good luck!

Answer 4

He is a loser why would you want to be reminded by your daughter's name....I would chose something different....It would be different if he was there for you and your baby ...but if he left you while you are pregnant...there is no reason he deserves to have his name involved with the baby...Sorry

Answer 5

Well as much as I would never let my ex be a part of my baby (if I had had one with him) you are a lot stronger than I am. If they mention it again, just tell them to drop it, and that you've already decided - end of story! They just know he hurt you and don't feel he should be intitled to being a part of her I guess, which makes sense. GL on the baby!!! and Congrats!

Answer 6

You are thinking of your daughter before yourself, that already shows what kind of mother you will be, kudos to you.  It's no one else's business, just make that known.