I appreciate everyone's efforts to help suicidal people with depression (from now on I will just refer them as SD, or suicidal depressives), but I wonder if we are doing our best.
For example, a SD tells you that he/she wants to commit suicide. You say: "Don't do it! It's the worst permanent response possible to an only temporary situation! Get help!" You expect the SD to actually listen to you, but as a matter of fact all the SD was probably thinking about was: "SO WHAT? I still think I can't be saved!" Your urge, then, was probably unheard.
This So-What mentality, I think, is the hall mark of a suicidal and depressive mind. It makes the SD very highly likely to ignore your Don't-do-it! message. The key to help the SD, therefore, is to help the SD to overcome this So-What mentality.
So now I ask all of you: HOW can we overcome this So-What mentality? Keep in mind that only the SD have the ULTIMATE power to make a difference. Try to think from the SD's "hopeless" perspective, instead of your "everything-can-be-fixed" perspective. Only by doing this can the help be effective.
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