About three weeks ago, I found my 10 year old daughter crying in her closet. She didn't tell me why?

Question

SHE FINALLY SAID SHE DID NOT WANT TO DIE. IT SEEMED STRANGE TO ME. I TOLD HER SHE HAD NO REASON TO BE SCARED AND THAT SHE HAD A LONG LIFE AHEAD AND REMINDED HER OF HOW YOUNG SHE IS AND THAT SHE IS HEALTHY. JUST LAST NIGHT I FOUND HER CRYING AGAIN IN BED FOR THE SAME REASON. SHE HASN'T SEEN ANY SCARY MOVIES LATELY AND WE HAVEN'T HAD A DEATH IN THE FAMILY. IT'S STARTING TO WORRY ME. ANYONE HAVE ANSWERS???

Answer 1

aww thats so horrible,i used to hate thought of death ,still do,but thats young to be scared of death,alls you can do i think is to tell her deaths not horrible its what happens in life but only when you are old and then we become angels ,am sorry i havent had my child be scared like that yet(fingers crossed)but when my little boy died alls i could say to my older children taht asked about him was that hes in heaven with the angels am sorry i hoped i helped a little best of luck x

Answer 2

maybe u should take her to a phychotrist

Answer 3

I'm 23 and I still have these thoughts about death and sometimes get really scared about that day when my time or my parent's come.  I saw this pictures in some guys myspace profile of my favorite singer crying and I asked the guy why he was crying.  He was crying because he dedicated a song to his parents who passed away.  I printed out he picture and one time I was looking at it and thinking that one day I will lose my parents and started crying and hugging the picture.

Answer 4

Puberty, she is on an emotional roller coaster right now.

Answer 5

Someone at school may have lost someone or gave her a threat. I would talk with the school psychiatrist in private and have her bring her in incognito like and talk to her. She may be able to find out what's going on or if you have a sister or someone close to her that she talks to. I had a friend that their daughter was really bothered by her weight but never expressed it to her parents but would tell a friend of hers mother who then let the parents  know. Sometimes an outsider is easier for them to talk to because they feel parents just tell them what they expect to hear.

Answer 6

my nine yr old niece will do this from time to time, she has more than likely watched a tv show or something where someone has lost someone they love. just reassure her that she is going to live a long happy life and that you love her, talk to her about the circle of life.....good luck

Answer 7

This comes and goes as they grow up my son started worrying about dying when he was 4 then when he turned 6 his great grandparents died and he he was worried about dying again and worried i was going to die. then this past january his grandpa died and 6 months later he's talking about not wanting to die, They just need reassurance that everything will be ok and that you are there for them

Answer 8

i used to be afraid of death at very early age, maybe she´s insecure and feeling alone... i also used to cry alone for different reasons. make her sure you´re there for her and she´s not alone.

Answer 9

She just is afraid of death. Most people are. my 16 year old s ister did the same thing. One day she just started freaking out like "marlana I don't want to die, I

m scared. Death Just seems so scary" She'll get over it eventually. Death is a scarry thing. And remember, at around her age is when the hormones really start to kick in and you'll be noticing it.

Good luck and just keep reassuring her everything is fine ♥ I'm 12 so i understand EXACTLY what she's going through. I've been there not too long ago! Acually only two years ago lol.

Answer 10

I agree that something someone said to her made her think about death. It could even be because they are learing about the life cycle in school. My first step would be to ask her what made her think about death. Once you find out what put the idea into her head you can better quell her fears. My 10 year old stepdaughter gets this way sometimes. She will cry because she is worried someone is going to break in and kill us or when her mom went on vacation with her new bf she was worried he would turn out to be a serial killer and kill her mom.  She has been talking to us lately about making our wills even though both her dad and I are under 35 years old. I think realization of mortality is just a phase kids go through. If you explain to her that yes everyone dies but that she is not going to die for a very long time she should be alright. If, after you have talked to her, she still has these crying jags about death then I would recommend contacting a therapist to find out if there is more to the story than what she is telling you and how you can best deal with this.

Answer 11

I'd guess its something a friend has said, or a classmate. Someone told my daughter she would die because she never burnt she jsut tanned and that upset her for ages. I think that's the most probably thing because where else could she have got it from?

Try to reassure her like you already have, and show her pictures of old people (?) so she can see how long she;'s got to live?

Hope you sort it out