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Question

My 18month old has started this screaming loud pitch whine thing when ever he "cant" get down from a chair or anything or if he cant get one of his toys to work right. He knows how to get down off the chair because he used to do it by himself all the time. but now when he "cant" he will sit and do this LOUD HIGH PITCH WHINE.FOR EVER i read that i should just ignore this because its him testing me because he knows that he will get what he wants if he does that.....BUT i cant hardly take it anymore he doesnt STOP until i get up to get him down. or to fix what ever he needs fixed or to give him what ever he wants. Its driving me insane i dont want to be a bad mom and give in to him but i am running out of options i just cant barely stand to listen to this cry/whine......ANY SUGGESTIONS? and IS THIS NORMAL FOR HIM TO BE THIS ANGRY over such little things?

he was born 3 months early and spent the first 3 months of life in the hospital because my kidneys and liver were shutting down.

Answer 1

This is normal behavior for a 18-month old.  He'll continue to

do this uuntil he knows that you won't give in to him.  When

he starts doing this, what you could do is to leave the room

for about 5-minutes and go outside or another place in the

house/apartment, you might find that he'll stop doing this.  The

only reason he's doing this right now is because he knows

that you're somewhere around to hear him.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Sounds like someone should have gotten that puppy instead.

Answer 4

First...he's not angry...he's frustrated...there is a difference.  Ignoring won't work as he is not doing this for 'attention'...he's doing it because he's frustrated and needs help but does not yet have the words for it...so...it's up to you to give him the words.  Instead of ignoring, try to be very calm and acknowledge what he is feeling.  Say things like "Oh my...you sound very frustrated...I wonder if you need help."  Or, even simpler, you can model what to say.  Approach your child and say "Help me please"...then wait for him to use words to say help (obviously at 18 months, this will be an approximation of the words - it may be as simple as 'el me' or even 'el').  You need to teach him the words to use and the behavior you expect...ignoring will not do that.  So, by modeling the appropriate words and by labeling his feelings when he is feeling frustrated, you will do that and he will likely stop.  Good luck.

Answer 5

That's typical for toddlers to test their limits with mom. As a rule I would give in once, then they had to live with it. If they threw their toy I would get it the first time then they were SOL....

good luck.. it will go by so fast...

Answer 6

He's wanting attention from you --maybe you can do a special thing with him so he can receive the attention and ignore the high pitched sounds - so you are in essence shaping him to act in acceptable ways.

Toddlers also get frustrated easily because they want to tell you something that maybe you can't understand because they do not have the language skills that they need.  I did babysign with my child and it helped with controlling the frustration melt downs.  Hope this helps!

Answer 7

treat him like you always have. if you treat this screaming in a special way, he will continue it.

Answer 8

Wish i knew the answer, my 4th child did and still does this! He is 3 at end of sept! It drives you mad! However it has got less! So hopefully yours will too!

Answer 9

welcome to motherhood.

Answer 10

My youngest son had a horrible temper like that.  If you know for a fact that he is able to do something by himself, then stick by your guns...it is better for him and you in the longrun.  If you are getting too stressed, which I'm sure you are, then get somebody to come sit with him for a little bit, so you can go for a walk and clear your head.  Time away is also best for the both of you too, because you could give in or overreact, and either way you will be mad at yourself.  Good luck

Answer 11

sounds like he found a way to get what he wants from you, and you're giving it to him. sounds like his stubbornness outlasts your persistence.. nevertheless, it doesn't sound 'normal' or acceptable to me; sounds a bit excessive and manipulative.

have you considered getting him fitted with a muzzle?

Answer 12

Your little guy is quite normal, however that doesn't make living with the noise any easier.  It sounds to me like he is more frustrated than angry.  Explain to him calmly when he starts the"noise" that you understand that he is upset.  Try this, " I know you are frustrated because you think that you can't  get down off the chair, but I know you can do it so keep trying".  If  he continues to cry tell him that Mommy does not want to hear his noise and if you must do it than he can do it in another room..I wouldn't make it look like a punishment.  Simply take HIM to another room and tell him that when he stops crying he can come out.  It may take a few trials, but if you are consistent you may get your sanity back.  Good luck.

Answer 13

Toddlers are sooooooo testy!!!! I have 2 at home. Yes this normal and they will eventually stop. Try sitting with with him or reading to him. He just wants the extra attention.

Answer 14

Yes it's okay to get angry and mad - just do it away from him so you don't end up taking it out on him. Get earplugs and then ignore him until he gets down. OR just don't let him up on anything!

Answer 15

yea its normal. each kid is different.

Answer 16

Ohhh. Mommy madness I call those.

Well I think its best if you stick to your decisions. He knows he can get down, he can do it by himself. Maybe the first time, you can stand in front of him and say lets go. Maybe you can even tell him that your going out to a favorite place of his or that your going to see his favorite character. I always did that with my niece. She'll stop crying and she'll get off by herself just to go. But little by little, she would see that she can do it herself.

And about his toys, i'd just ignore him. If he doesnt like the way his toy is working, then he'll get over them.

Id definately suggest getting ear plugs. They are great! Just make sure you dont put them on when he's really crying about something. lol.

Good Luck.

Answer 17

give him an option to either knock it off and get down or make it work or a time out in his bed, you could also try telling him that if he needs help he can ask for it with out whining

Answer 18

You HAVE to be consistent and firm when disciplining him.  My advice to you is to tell him that if he doesn't stop whining by the time you count to 10, he will have to sit in time-out.

Designate a spot in your house that is a time-out corner.  Just call it, 'The corner' if you don't want to refer to it as 'Time out.'

Once he realizes you mean business, he will stop doing the things that make him get sent to 'the corner.'

You don't have to put up with the incessant whining and you definitely shouldn't try to constantly 'give him whatever he wants' to calm him.  It's just allowing him to gain control of the situation.

YOU are the adult in this situation.

Answer 19

yea bout the ignoring thing i think u need to hold in a lil longer with that...maybe u could go into another room

it is normal