Abuse or tough love?

Question

i just was wondering what would be considered abuse. i have a friend who is 15 and her dad has anger problems. he has only hit her a couple times, but he is constantly threatening her. his threats dont go as far as "im gonna kill you", but they are mostly about hurting her. when she tells me the reasons why she gets "in trouble" i am shocked. i dont understand how her father could get so mad at her for the stupidest things. one time she told me that she was complaining about going out to dinner with her neighbors, and he chased her into her room and knocked her door down and grabbed by the collar and threatened her. she calls me crying all the time. i dont know what to do. okay, i'll admit, maybe sometimes she doest talk back to him rudely, but come on. she does not deserve all of that.

oh and one more thing, do you think family counseling is needed? because she has wanted to move out since she was 13 and i also dont think she has said i love you to him since she like 13 either

Answer 1

Abuse! You need to tell someone about this ASAP!

Answer 2

It's abuse. She needs to get out of there along with any siblings. Please try and get her to tell an adult who can really help, but don't go behind her back to tell someone. There must be a neighbour, teacher or relative who can help her out.

Answer 3

Your friend is in danger if he's this abusive to her now what do you think he'd be capable of when hes angry at something else or what if hes drunk, you need to tell her to get  help ASAP